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There is good pain and bad pain. Obviously there is good fear and bad fear too. As an example, my wife often has fear when we play and she loves it. When she is blindfolded and anticipates the next whack of a paddle, not knowing if it will hit the same already overtender spot or a fresh piece of flesh. She is afraid she will not be able to take it. It is a good thing. On the other hand, we did fire play last week. I was using 70% and lighting areas of her torso while she watched with the lights low, even though we did it before years ago, she was very afraid and thought she was getting severely burned. It just seems that way because her nervous system was geared up so high. I had to tell her to relax and that she wasn't getting burned. She has a great deal of trust in me but was still pannicking. (On a lighter note: my response was to whip out my penis and light it on fire the same way to show it was safe. That helped a lot.) Later she saw she had no marks at all an hour later and asked for more fire next time. Subs! A masochistic woman stayed with us for a few days a couple of years ago to play. She was a major pain slut who lamented that most tops never went far enough. She never had fear and said that was a good thing. After watching me abuse the soles of another woman's feet, she asks for "some of that". Never having had anything like that and being a very curious woman. Knowing her psychological limits were extreme and the physical danger in this area was minimal, i decided to take it to the next level. Afterwards, she said she had never been afraid before. It was something new. She was contemplative for the rest of the night and the next day declared it was a good thing. On the blindfold issue, sometimes they are good and sometimes not. Depends on the experience I'm shooting for.
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