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acai -> Disturbing story from CM member + basic safety tips (10/10/2008 12:52:06 AM)
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PSA: be safe, everyone!
Okay, I recently had a chat with someone on site here, with a very disturbing story this person confided to me... I won't get into details, but it was disturbing. It wasn't rape, but it was torture, and not consensual.
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Please, everyone: I'm as gullible as you get, but please! Protect yourself! And most of all, have safeguards in place as a HABIT— _INCLUDING_ when you have 99% confidence in person you are to meet for first time. Don't leave this to chance, and only use it when you think you need to. (Translation: Stop trusting yourself to predict the future!)
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Preface: This is not a comprehensive list, and I am not exactly an expert on safety. I haven't even done BSDM before, am a new member, and never met anyone on site yet. I'm probably the last person to ask for safety expertise. Just quick common sense tips I hope everyone take into account— some might be impractical. Well, great. So is risking one's life to the whim of a complete stranger, so weight it all in perspective, okay? javascript:void(AddText('[8\|]'))
There could even be dangers imbedded within these quick tips, to which I appreciate anyone pointing out.
Also, it could be in an FAQ somewhere here, but I couldn't find one, so, my apologies for my noobiness— but this isn't suppose to be a comprehensive list to begin with.
Here are some quick tips:
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Never go see someone in person without meeting them in a safe place (coffee shop, etc.) first— and asking lots of questions. (And no, this is not going to guarantee you will smoke out the ex-cons from the virgin angels descended from Heaven to please you, but some screening is better than zero). If something doesn't add up, or you get odd vibe, don't forget the fact you are still in a position to ask for the check and say good day. (also: DO NOT give your address before this!)
Never let them drive you somewhere— if you don't have a car, have a friend drive you. They can drive you to a place you don't know about, your friend will not know about.
Always tell your friend where you're going to, what time you expect to be back, and make a few check-in calls during your visit.
Ideally, have your friend make the check-up calls to you– in front of person you're with. And don't let him/her think it's a one-time check-in— end each call to make it very clear you expect her to check in again. This only works if you don't let the person drive you, btw...
Tell your friend to expect these calls, or make them yourself, and if they don't hear from you by certain times, have them call the police to check on your address. If it's truly a dead signal, or innocent thing like that, fine. It's better to risk feeling embarrassed in front of a cop than to feel helpless because you're not in front of one.
again, open to feedback, revisions, additions, etc.
If in wrong topic, apologize in advance. thanks! be safe everyone!javascript:void(AddText('[:)]'))
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