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new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 1:00:55 AM

AbyssalWolf1

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i am new to having a pet and i have a few questions as what should and should'nt be done in order to maintain harmony

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 1:09:23 AM

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Umm... could you be a bit more specific?

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 1:43:07 AM

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You'll have to post them for us to offer our opinions. I advise posting each individually or a few under the same category together. Surf the boards to get a feel for how others are doing it.

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 3:26:24 AM

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lemme think food and water comes to mind ...dont forget to paper train it until it is lock it down the basement

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 5:25:46 AM

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Welcome to CM and the boards. If you are new to the lifestyle and based on your couple profile it states you are new my recommendations would include to: use the search function on the forums, find the posts written by 'leadership' who took a vanilla relationship into a Dom/sub relationship. Check out the links in the response from MasterFireMaam and also check out books by John Warren for starters.

Remember it is YOUR relationship and what works for one couple may or may not in your relationship.

All the best to you and yours on your journey.

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 9:23:26 AM

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It has been said that you can give a sub any order they want to obey and there's validity in that. So decide between the two of you what areas are off limits, if any.

Does she limit you having control of her money? Does she limit you preventing her from seeing her friends and family?

But at heart, don't give orders just to give yourself a power rush. Make sure the order makes sense and is doable. He can order me to buy a new oil pan for the car but not to change it because he knows I don't have the skill to do so. He could teach me but I still wouldn't have the power to get the bolts off the old one.

Don't order her to do things which are harmful to her. You may think that she should be a lawyer and earn lots more money than an art teacher does, but if she hates law and can't pass the bar you've ruined her self esteem and destroyed her ability to have a productive career that she does enjoy.

And don't institute more than one new rule a week. She will need about a month for a rule done daily to become habit, so don't punish her if she forgets on day three. Just ask her about it and help her figure out how not to forget.

Now if you have any more specific questions, please post them as it's hard to know exactly what help you want.

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 5:05:37 PM

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my new sub and i have been in a successful and hardly vanilla relationship for a year and a half as we lead a varied and exotic lifestyle including the fact that we are both "juggalos" and "furries". However he has been a dom since the age of 14 and from the old garde at that. After a trial and error period we have detirmined that i am not a sub and cannot live in that position, but my new pet is oddly insistent that one or the other is dom or sub. So I feel that i am capable of filling this role but i have very little experience and have been directed here specifically for advice from experienced masters such as Master Fire. I would appreciate any volunteers for more private consultation as i do best in one-on-one conversation.

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 8:05:16 PM

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You say he insists one of you be the dom. What do you think? Because if you're doing this at his insistence, you aren't in charge.

Besides there are plenty of co-Top couples about. Calla and Bounty come first to mind.

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 8:58:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AbyssalWolf1

my new sub and i have been in a successful and hardly vanilla relationship for a year and a half as we lead a varied and exotic lifestyle including the fact that we are both "juggalos" and "furries".

However he has been a dom since the age of 14 and from the old garde at that. After a trial and error period we have detirmined that i am not a sub and cannot live in that position,

but my new pet is oddly insistent that one or the other is dom or sub.

i'm just confused as to who posted this... and is the "pet" a third? Something smells here.

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 9:06:05 PM

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I find buttering the third one after midnight tends to work.

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RE: new to the dom life with pet - 10/10/2008 9:07:42 PM

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Word of the wise for you and your new pet: No people food. You will end up with piles of gross everywhere to contend with. EW

Seriously though, I am confused too. Is the "pet" the same person as the dom that wants to be a sub in the relationship now? It seems this way from the profile. It is interesting that you two are trying out new roles in your relationship, I would suggest relax, have fun with it, do your homework, the search feature on these boards is your friend. Good luck!

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