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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 1:53:47 PM   
Icarys


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Could you be in danger by responding no thanks in an email lol.


Yes, danger of being highly annoyed by D-types who act like children when you tell them "no".  It's easier to ignore them.  If they have half a brain they should be able to figure out that this loudly screams "not interested".

so you told them no the first time right?


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 1:53:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I respond to everyone who drops me a line.  Mostly now, because I get so few that a "you are too far, but I do wish you luck" is not a big time waster for me.
However, in the early days I was online when it was common to get 50-100 demands from online masters, I would routinely dump my email into the delete bin.
I did it then because there were too many and I hate the thought of being "new meat".  The men writing to me seemed more like vultures than people who might have been sincerely looking.

I answer now because as I said, I do not get much email and it is not a waste of my time.
BUT... I would say a good half of those who do email me, who SEEM polite on first email, have ended up to be jerks behind a facade when I tell them I am not interested.  The spill their true selves behind the cloth of anonymity and then block you from responding like little children who have been taught to look angelic while tossing a fly into your soda.

A non response is no more rude than not sending an email back to spammers.
And, btw, I did try that once.  I sent snail mail back to every piece of junk in my mailbox for 2 weeks.  Strange how I never got a response back from that, even though it cost me in stamp money. 
As far as I am concerned unless I was here looking for a connection, any mail that comes to me is spam.  Unsolicited.  Unrequested.  And deserves less than the 2 week experiment of sending a response to snail mail.
It doesnt matter if I have no master or dominant to answer to, it does matter if "I" want to take my time to answer a spammer.
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Icarys.. I've gotten polite emails.. responded with a thanks, but I'm not interested... and in return have received variations of "your a fat pig/a man/a fake/etc that is worthless/a fucking cunt/ etc"

why should I deal with that?

No response IS a response. 

Ya know..I've had that as well but flipped and tailored for a Dom lol. I'm a big guy, I can deal. I'd say grow a thicker skin instead of not dealing with it maybe.

Rude is rude no matter the excuse. If your okay with that, it doesn't bother me. I could see someone who has a Master and isn't allowed.

No response IS a RUDE response.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 1:58:02 PM   
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So how is it rude to not answer an email from a stranger, if it's ok for strangers not to say hello entering a room?


I meant when you are close like neigbours or friends it is rude to not say hi.
It is a bit more personal then going to a trainstation with thousands of people. Then I don't find it rude if you don't greet all.
A message on CM is personal too..addressed to just one person...a little time to reply on the decent ones won't kill people.
On the other side I can imagine you get a reaction like this if you had many bad experiences.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 1:58:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		I guess it's the way I was raised. I'll be polite till I honestly think I've done my best then and only then will I not be that way.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 1:59:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I guess it's the way I was raised. I'll be polite till I honestly think I've done my best then and only then will I not be that way.


stay that way ;)

It is a good thing

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 1:59:58 PM   
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Actually, I -have- complained that my neighbor(s) didn't/don't say good morning -- one place that we lived in, the neighbors on one side of us actually would look out the door to make sure that we were not leaving at the same time before they'd step out the door. I found that exceptionally rude -- then again, I didn't have high expectations, so I just bitched about it when it came time to decide on a new place to live, so that we wouldn't choose that same environment to live in again.

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lol it is sad that people wait so the don't have to say good morning

first thing I do with friends and subs is...learn them to say hello and good morning when they enter a room or so .  Strangers not saying soemthing..ok..but people such as neigbours and friends...not allowed with me...grin


Please understand I work in a school where people teach others.   You cannot "learn someone".  You can teach me and I can learn from you. 

Sorry for the temp hijack.  I have tried to politely respond to all who've written.  Sometimes people just don't like hearing, thanks, but we're not compatible.  The dick pics, don't deserve a reply, however.  Giggle, delete, move on.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:00:01 PM   
Icarys


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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

So how is it rude to not answer an email from a stranger, if it's ok for strangers not to say hello entering a room?


I meant when you are close like neigbours or friends it is rude to not say hi.
It is a bit more personal then going to a trainstation with thousands of people. Then I don't find it rude if you don't greet all.
A message on CM is personal too..addressed to just one person...a little time to reply on the decent ones won't kill people.
On the other side I can imagine you get a reaction like this if you had many bad experiences.



They don't do it for a myriad of reason's..most of which aren't good.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:00:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sooo much of this thread is mental masturbation.  You can say, "That's rude," 25,000 times, and peo[ple aren't going to change their behavior.  The only thing you'll get out of it is a certain juvenile smugness that you are somehow less rude than those unattainable bitch--- I mean, women.

If you're sick and tired of not getting answers to your emails, figure out how to write a first email that produces responses.  It's really just that simple.  Everything else is hot air.  Most women don't have profiles on this site because their idea of a pleasant Sunday afternoon is hitting the delete and block buttons.  They actually want to talk to people.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:01:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

If you're sick and tired of not getting answers to your emails, figure out how to write a first email that produces responses.  It's really just that simple. 


Ding ding ding, we have a winner!




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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:02:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, a sub or slave owe nothing to anyone to whom they don't have an agreement with. Sorry to burst your bubble there, sweetcheeks, but having the title (self-proclaimed at that) doesn't automatically mean anything to anyone but you.
Suck it up and be an adult. i'm guessing that no response means no interest.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:04:25 PM   
Icarys


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Most women don't have profiles on this site because their idea of a pleasant Sunday afternoon is hitting the delete and block buttons.


There's another winner lol.I think the ones that have the profiles do the same thing.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:05:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

It's really just that simple. 



It seems the content of a message doesn't trigger a reaction. therefor it isn't worth the try.

It just stays trail and error. There are people interested and there are soem that are not. No matter the content.



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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:09:42 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		And there it is!
I do answer emails I get now that the furor of new meat has died down.  50% are going to take that no thanks with a smile and a good day.  I continue to open and respond to the rest because those rude boys are not a daily occurance.
I get maybe.. 25 pieces of mail from men a year now.  The lag time allows me to get ove the irritation.

While I think it is possible that the OP may write a polite first email, based on his post I would say odds are not in his favor.  To make the assumption that people are obligated, simply because of their sensual/mental orientation is frankly.. rude and ill-informed. 

Since he was here whining about it there is a good chance his first approach is crap and needs to be reworked.  Most of us do enjoy chat if it is polite and makes no demands upon us to indulge someone elses fantasy.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
If you're sick and tired of not getting answers to your emails, figure out how to write a first email that produces responses.  It's really just that simple.  Everything else is hot air.  Most women don't have profiles on this site because their idea of a pleasant Sunday afternoon is hitting the delete and block buttons.  They actually want to talk to people.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:13:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		omg lmao.  here is the best part of this whole thing.  the OP starts this thread and then of course never comes back, which who can blame him?  i am sure it would be less painful trying to jack off a bob cat with a fistful of thumb tacks then come back here and have your rear end handed to you by a bunch of "fake subs and slaves" lol but i got nosey and decided to read his profile and here is the best line ever.  .........................................If you are interested, contact me here with your contact info, picture and a list of your desires,needs and past experience, if any. I will get back to you if i deem you correct for my needs and desires.

hmmmm gotta love the people who will only drive on one way streets


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:15:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnashsLiLwench

omg lmao.  here is the best part of this whole thing.  the OP starts this thread and then of course never comes back, which who can blame him?  i am sure it would be less painful trying to jack off a bob cat with a fistful of thumb tacks then come back here and have your rear end handed to you by a bunch of "fake subs and slaves" lol but i got nosey and decided to read his profile and here is the best line ever.  .........................................If you are interested, contact me here with your contact info, picture and a list of your desires,needs and past experience, if any. I will get back to you if i deem you correct for my needs and desires.

hmmmm gotta love the people who will only drive on one way streets



well..people who respond that...do that because they want to...their own choice
It doesn't say anything about his messages. But I am curiosu what he will answer (is he still around?>)

(can be nice for a new topic though..lol..profiles and kindness)

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:15:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		You mean....after all that....he might not reply to emails???

< Message edited by NuevaVida -- 10/12/2008 2:16:11 PM >

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:16:33 PM   
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A sub/slave's 'duty' is first and foremost 'to serve', this includes, but is definitely not limited to, responding when a Master/Mistress say's something to them...even if the response is in the 'negative'. And yet...there are so very many who just never reply/respond or react in any way whatsoever.


A submissive/slaves duty is to serve his/her Master/Mistresss, but not anyone who decides to call themselves as such.   In fact im simply amazed that you feel we should respond to each and every memo that we receive, and that it our duty to do so.  Maybe i should send you some of the memos that i receive fromm alleged Masters and then you would see exactly why we choose sometimes to ignore them.
I do believe though that it is a common courtesy to respond to polite memos that have been sent.  Though i would like to point out that it is not only submissives that choose to ignore memos sent, yes Masters even do this also, and i think it just goes to show the calibre of the individual concerned, if they are ignorant enough to ignore a polite memo then you are better off not communicating with them anyway, at least you found out sooner rather than later!

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:17:21 PM   
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omg lmao.  here is the best part of this whole thing.  the OP starts this thread and then of course never comes back, which who can blame him?  i am sure it would be less painful trying to jack off a bob cat with a fistful of thumb tacks then come back here and have your rear end handed to you by a bunch of "fake subs and slaves" lol but i got nosey and decided to read his profile and here is the best line ever.  .........................................If you are interested, contact me here with your contact info, picture and a list of your desires,needs and past experience, if any. I will get back to you if i deem you correct for my needs and desires.

hmmmm gotta love the people who will only drive on one way streets


Still doesn't change anything. Him being that way doesn't negate anything for me.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:20:05 PM   
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Sooo much of this thread is mental masturbation.  You can say, "That's rude," 25,000 times, and peo[ple aren't going to change their behavior.  The only thing you'll get out of it is a certain juvenile smugness that you are somehow less rude than those unattainable bitch--- I mean, women.

HEY!! I responded!!

*smooch*

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 2:20:19 PM   
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I have to disagree with the "real life" vs "virtual life" comparison.

Email is a form of communication used by REAL people. This conversation is not imaginary. It is really happening.

The problem is: some people tend to think the rules of life do not apply when communicating via the internet. They think that not replying to an email is some kind of crime against humanity, while many of them never bother to reply to a hand written letter or even a phone call from their own mothers.

For example, I'd bet that no one here actually responds to every single piece of junk mail they receive in the mail box. Advertisers know this, yet you never get a second piece of junk mail calling you a sorry fat pig because you didn't respond by purchasing their product.

The fact is .. their time is their time. You don't get to dictate to them how they use it. Call them impolite if you like, however, the fact is, they are under no obligation to respond to your message, just as you are under no obligation to send a letter to Dominos thanking them for that drawer full of coupons.

I wonder how many people take the time to call a potential employer who didn't acknowledge their resume and tell the HR department how rude they are.

Welcome to real life. This isn't little league where everybody gets to play and everybody gets a trophy regardless of how sorry you are. This is the real world, where there are winners, losers and hurt feelings.


i think i'm in love! lol
On a serious note - the highlighted part is my fave...

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