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a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 5:34:52 AM

solaria

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At the risk of discovery i am posting a question to the Doms but all suggestions are welcomed...
i am a collared sub, happy in that and in the fact that my relationship seems to making steps forward.
the question is how do i give my Master a special surprise that will fit into our already hectic lives. We will soon live together and will have the responsiblity of children in the house. I can't be bold in my efforts to 'seduce' Master in the sense of being dressed in a provocative manner and waiting for His return from work so i am left to find other interesting ways to show Him my needs or desire to play. Any thoughts?

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 6:33:25 AM

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Wash his car at 3 am?

Tickets to a show you know he wants to see?

Sometimes the best surprises can also be the little ones- get the kids to make a poster for him or have a family outing.

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 7:04:24 AM

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specialy when childeren are involved, be carefull.

Show Him your effaction in the way you will greet Him when He comes home.
Show Him you do noet wear underware specialy for Him.
Wake Him upp with a kissssssssssss

etc etc

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 7:15:30 AM

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Meet him at the door when he comes in with a drink and a kiss. After you kiss him tell him how much you love him. Purrrrr it.

Place a small red rose at his place when he sits down to dinner. Do this on the times when you want him to know that you have 'plans' for him as soon as the kids are in bed.

Tickets for ALL of the kids to see a matinee movie on Saturday (or Sunday) afternoon.

Sit directly across the table at dinner and play 'footsie' under the table.

Obtain a flowered decorative collar that can be worn with a common house dress and wear it on 'those' evenings when he gets home from work.

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 11:25:36 AM

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There are a myriad subtle ways to show your constant love and devotion to your Master, and from my perspective, needn't be enacted only as a trigger mechanism for playtime.

However, going barefoot, bra-less and without undies is an obvious signal. Wearing symbolic jewelry (like a particular choker) would certainly show your readiness to please. Taking a small private moment to graze his hand with your cheek would work, as well as a certain steadily held expression on your face he has come to know.

Kinesically speaking, servile posturing may be a bold enough non-verbal signal without raising the antennae of your children. The key is, ultimately, subtlety and cleverness. Children tend to be highly observant and catch on quick.

As for finding the time to play, this is another matter entirely. Outside of the obvious late-night or school time hours when the children are away, perhaps finding a relative or babysitter and arranging to get away now and then would be a healthy strategy.

In closing, I find myself reversing the situation and wondering what he might do to signal his desire for you as well. Perhaps those are further clues?

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 12:46:42 PM

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It depends on the number and ages of the children?
If they can be alone for any length of time, you tell them you and he will take a short 20 minute nap everyday when he returns from work. You will be waiting for him naked and in position behind his locked door.
If they are too young for this, you just have to wait to bedy bye time and wear a gag, so you don't wake them.
In the end...use your imagination, there are ways around everything!

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 6:55:14 PM

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Take it from one who not only knows but loves for his sub to surprise him in the way you are talking. One of the reasons I love surprises like this is, “I love to create these types of situational surprises as well". So that may be one thing to consider, e.g. is this the type of thing he would try to pull off ? Will he appreciate surprise such as this ?

If the answer is YES, and kids are an issue, sometimes the biggest turn-on can be many consistent and secretive seductions. You know the ones, like you or he get away with while out to dinner, shopping or at a movie, get creative and all women should know or learn how to arch your back and bend over so he can see your pussy. No man can resist that ! The difference at home is you must line up many and not just a spur of the moment one or two. By the time you get to 9, 10, 11 ,12 you will be driving him nutzo and he will likely tell you to put the kids to bed early….

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/8/2005 7:46:31 PM

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you can insure that no matter how hectic his and your day is.........
remember him fondly.....see he is greeted (you can take that to any level you desire)

See everything that you can do is done, so he only has to worry about him and you as best as you can.

Line up your own babysitters, have the house and bills and outstanding things in order, and have it planned when you will go out and when you will be home...............

it goes on forever.

Top just a little if you understand me........and be prepared to give great leeway...........

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/10/2005 10:32:34 PM

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greetings solaria
find the texture he likes then you will find the clothes that turns the other on for actual sexual activity and intimacy
clothes are secondary skins
modified scales in evolution and nothing but,
sexual non verbal communication
so your skin
or texture
speaks
exactly how to play
same as a peacock picks a mate by the color of the fans they display
he may choose another if a feather is not full or broken or not enuff of the right color
so its mearly the texture
the feel
of your sexual nonverbal communication
that speaks and tells you what to wear,for a particular activity if they dont respond exactly as you wanted to play by you wearing the texture of clothes you feel is right then someone else who knows the right activity to play with you will be attracted by your skin textures you wear
look at the textures couples wear and how well they do in bed so to speak.
in s and m especially you have the leather set
the blue blazer set
the wool grade of sexual matchs then silk and lace and soft thick leathers together as a perfect match....
i gurantee you; it's the sexual non verbal communication
that is the first attraction
that sets the activity in to play
what texture are you attracted to and ,what texture(not what clothes) do you prefer is a better question on clothes to entice.

ie:the pattern leather set(those slow layed back sexuals ,also attracted to roads on rainy nites ,that look like pattern leather too i suspect...),or

those who wear ll bean and are attracted to,or matched perfectly to a partner who wears horse blanket vests etc
get the drift yet?....
i personally like to look and smell like a new leather car seat,so i know automatically what kind of texture i want to wear and what kind of person i will attract in to what kind of sexual activity eventually...understand?
all science.
any hints there,to answer your question?

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/11/2005 12:21:17 AM

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With the drink in hand coming home from work - be careful.

I know for myself and most of my mates we need about half an hour of wind down time, where we put work to the side and shift into "Home Mode".

This involves quiet activity like reading, watching the news, World of Warcraft, whatever.

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/11/2005 7:01:33 AM

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There is one thing that every Master loves more than anything else. Not just showing him how much you love him, but how much you need him, how much pleasure you get from serving him....from simply being in his presence. Give him lots of attention from the moment he walks in the door till he is settled and content and ready to let you carry on with your other responsibilities. Let him know you go out of your way to ensure he is taken care of and happy. Each Master is different, that same attention can be given by being all over him or just staying quietly at his feet (decretely for the kids sake or otherwise). Only you know how your Master prefers your attention, just give him what he likes. It's natural human psychology. We all want to feel desired and needed. Especially Dominants! We don't take on all the responsibilities of a sub/slave because we want to be left alone in our carefree lives.

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/11/2005 7:50:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: B1gbear

We all want to feel desired and needed. Especially Dominants! We don't take on all the responsibilities of a sub/slave because we want to be left alone in our carefree lives.

Well said..and very true..

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RE: a different sort of advice - 12/12/2005 4:46:35 AM

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thank you all for the advice. Most of what has been suggested is already an everyday part of my life. I am unable to meet Him at the door most days since I'm the one that comes in later from work but for the most part I always look for little things to make His return home something He looks forward to.

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