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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:56:48 AM

caitlyn

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Consider no response, an indication that they are not interested.

Good luck in your search!

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 11:59:03 AM

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are black male subs undesirable? or do you prefer dominant black men ?

I think the issue is more than you keep making it all someone ELSES fault or some uncontrollable quality about you.

People like people who have positive attitudes about themselves and are strong in that.

Pouting and blaming on others is not attractive.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:01:52 PM

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i am arguing from the sub male side...in the past i advertised as a sub and i made no rude suggestions etc and i got no reply?

Oh I get it -- you had no luck getting laid as a sub so now you're trying to see if you have better luck as a dom. Hate to break it to ya, but you can't dom someone into writing back either.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:04:04 PM

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No, not the race card!!!!

Race has no color with the major majority in BDSM. This I have taken notice too.

Just as I also see though there are some that don't like BBW... there are many more that do. Hell I know I'm not perfect as far as looks. Don't claim to be what I'm not. But because i'm happy for the most part with how I look, other things about me shine through past the fact that I'm a large woman.

Also look at the fact that you are in the UK. That's some distance from a few of us as well.. LOL

But be it from a Dom side, or a Sub side. If you think about it, try looking more towards the switch side. There are plenty out there. Shocked me too because I was always told a switch was frowned upon. WRONG!... just someone trying to make sure I believed in only their way of thinking.

So before lashing out against 1 side or the other.... look to yourself.. decide who you are.. and go again. But to give up totally..... Perhaps this wasn't your cup of tea to begin with. So try another beverage. You will find what you want somewhere out there. It might even be off line that you find it.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:05:40 PM

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good point
but if they aint interested why cant they say so ?
is it so unreasonable to expect a reply?

if you ask someone the time of day, wouldnt you expect a reply?

its common courtesy to answer when one is spoken to and it costs nothing.

Well, they don't relaly need to, do they? No reply -is- a reply. It's a pretty clear statement that they aren't interested.

I know it's frustrating not to get a response. I've had it happen to me a few times, but I think of it this way--if the person isn't willing to take the time to respond, that is, to fit within one's ideas of politeness, they clearly aren't the right partner. I feel that it's a -fast- way to sort out unsuitable people/=.

Also, you might try meeting people at real life events as opposed to on the net. I find partners are -much- easier to come by when we're faces, not pixles.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:06:22 PM

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hi and thanks for your reply.
i just had to get my frustation off my chest you know?
i need to know how white women feel about black male subs and black male doms?
and it seems that this is the only way to find out by speaking my mind.
i appreciate your reply because i now know that its not just a case of ignoring someone who is trying to communicate with a mistress or sub female.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:12:58 PM

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out in the street its different.
in here communication is essential otherwise whats the point?
to be frank i would rather get a response that said f... off!!
rather than nothing at all!
i mean i dont get many sub women writing to me but if i did i would reply
it would be unfair not to.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:15:45 PM

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hi and thanks for your reply.
i just had to get my frustation off my chest you know?
i need to know how white women feel about black male subs and black male doms?
and it seems that this is the only way to find out by speaking my mind.
i appreciate your reply because i now know that its not just a case of ignoring someone who is trying to communicate with a mistress or sub female.

UHM your post was nonracial and addressed all Mistress' not one group over another--- it had nothing to do with a survey of one type of sub or Dominant over another---so now I'm really confused, the best way to solicit advice from these boards is to be specific--and how do you know if these responses here came from one color or another---take a good piece of advice--decide who and what you are, promote that, stop blaming everyone because some don't behave according to your expectations--and be very very careful how you use and approach these boards, these people are some of the best you will find--

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:16:29 PM

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I try to respond to all messages sent to me. Sometimes I'm caught up and sometimes I'm days behind. Either way, I just read your pofile and had you sent me a message I have to be honest in that you would have scared me a little. You have every right to say what it is that you want in a relationship and what you are looking for, but to me a lot of what you require is extreme. Perhaps people are intimidating by your requirements. I'm not saying it's right or wrong and that it justifies rudeness, but you can't make people do what you consider proper.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:17:14 PM

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ok me too
but if someone has taken the time to write to you, dont you think they deserve a reply?

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:25:01 PM

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ok me too
but if someone has taken the time to write to you, dont you think they deserve a reply?

If I write someone... No.. I do NOT think.. I DESERVE a reply... to recieve one.. would be great.. But I DESERVE nothing just because I sent a little.. "hey how you doing " note to anyone.. to think that I do DESERVE a reply.. would make me out to be an idiot, self centered, egotistic Dumb Shit

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:26:15 PM

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well i guess i am one of those guys that appreciate when someone will go into detail why im not acceptable to them.
and if i think they are being unreasonable i should be able to express that without being blocked.

when one is blocked after exchanging no less than 2 emails, it sometimes leaves the sub feeling very disapointed and humilated.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:27:16 PM

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but if someone has taken the time to write to you, dont you think they deserve a reply?

Nope
Not unless there is some reason I feel compelled to keep the conversation going.
And I don't find that rude. And I don't care if others do.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:27:53 PM

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quote:

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quote:

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ok me too
but if someone has taken the time to write to you, dont you think they deserve a reply?

If I write someone... No.. I do NOT think.. I DESERVE a reply... to recieve one.. would be great.. But I DESERVE nothing just because I sent a little.. "hey how you doing " note to anyone.. to think that I do DESERVE a reply.. would make me out to be an idiot, self centered, egotistic Dumb Shit

ok then...

well said truesub4u, pass the Matinis and let's move on to the afternoon's entertainment---

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:29:26 PM

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mmmm
you may be right.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:30:57 PM

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well i guess i am one of those guys that appreciate when someone will go into detail why im not acceptable to them.
and if i think they are being unreasonable i should be able to express that without being blocked.

I think it's unreasonable to expect every person who isn't interested in you to detail -why- they aren't interested.

Females get a LOT of mail on here. A polite "no thanks" is pretty remarkable to a totally unsolicited e-mail. Asking someone to detail -why- they said no thanks is way overboard, IMHO.

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:39:34 PM

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ok point taken and understood
but i would still like to know why i didnt get a response?
how can someone learn from their mistakes if none communicates?
i know it cant be because im black because i know that there is alot of white women out there that find black sub men attractive as well as dominant black men.
im just disapointed i never got the chance to show how submissive i could be because i never got taken on.
and if i cant make it as a black dom, i may as well call it quits and leave because im just wasting my time.
i just need to know why if i am ignored? surely thats not expecting too much?

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:43:41 PM

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ok point taken and understood
but i would still like to know why i didnt get a response?
how can someone learn from their mistakes if none communicates?
i know it cant be because im black because i know that there is alot of white women out there that find black sub men attractive as well as dominant black men.
im just disapointed i never got the chance to show how submissive i could be because i never got taken on.
and if i cant make it as a black dom, i may as well call it quits and leave because im just wasting my time.
i just need to know why if i am ignored? surely thats not expecting too much?

Beating that same horse? Hard to kill it?.......... let it die in peace....

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:44:23 PM

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thanks
i appreciate your advice, its just that i was confused as to why im getting nowhere? why are women ignoring me?
i knew it couldnt be because im black surely!

i accept that not all women will find me appealing and some just wont reply...fair enough

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RE: no reply - 12/8/2005 12:46:20 PM

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Hello again.

I would seriously suggest you decide on what you are first. Please understand that you have to be true to yourself before you can even think of taking on someone - they will be your responsibility and if you are changing to dominant just because you can't get what you need as a submissive then you are being dishonest with yourself and it could be damaging to whoever you take on.

I don't wish to sound totally negative - but your profile is screaming to me at least, of someone who doesn't either a)understand the female submissive or b) is purely looking for a play partner only. That is just first impressions and this could be another reason why people are not responding.

No one has to respond - you just have to learn to move on from these people who do not respond. Have you tried any groups? A munch? I am in the UK to, and although I am not familier with wembley(edit for my terrible spelling) - central london has so much to offer... heck - write me and I will respond!

Take care... Peace and Rapture...