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Tricks of the Trade - 10/14/2008 8:09:29 AM

xmakina

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Hey all. Me and my girl like to play a bit of domination in the bedroom. We're not really into the whole scene, it's just a bedroom thing for now.

I was wondering if I could get some ideas from you guys for fun little things to do with a sub girl. We've happily talked and explored all the aspects we've encountered, communication is very important to us both. We're looking for new things to try.

So far we've:

Roleplayed (doctor/paitent, teacher/schoolgirl, boss/secretary etc.) More roles appreciated. Preferably ones that are uniform light :)
Tried bondage. Didn't work out. She's really not cool with being restrained.
Punishment was a big success. She *loves* being spanked. Any ideas on how to spice this up would be great.
Orders are a little hit and miss. She's fine with the stripping and such but that's about it.

So yeah. Given those preferences what can you guys recommend?

Thanks in advance :)

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RE: Tricks of the Trade - 10/14/2008 8:28:17 AM

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Roleplay. She owes rent and is about to be thrown out onto the streets. What will she do to placate the landlord (you).
You're a rockstar and she's a groupie.
Bondage. Try silk scarves, loosely tied. She will know she can escape, but by not doing so, accepts the role and becomes more comfortable with it.
Punishment. Simply set goals that are just out of her reach. Try different punishments for each task.
Orders. Add some simple things that are every day. 'Make my coffee' rather than 'Can I have some coffee' If you're going somewhere and she's dithering, take charge and say 'Wear that'.

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RE: Tricks of the Trade - 10/14/2008 8:41:06 AM

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Cheers axeman. Like the roleplay ideas. Will certainly give the groupie a go. We rent as it is, I think the landlord thing might be a little tricky as she hates our current landlord :P

We've tried the bondage thing. Even when it's just a dressing gown cord tied loosely she's not happy. Even she admits it's weird. It's the moment both her hands are restrained she just freaks out. Same for holding her legs down. So we tie one hand and she just keeps her other hand up there too. Sometimes I'll pin her down. We're happy on that aspect :)

It's the different punishments I'm interested in. Like I said, we do spanking and that's great. It's those "different punishments" I'm looking for ideas on.

The orders thing is fine, but we keep the whole dom/sub to the bedroom. As fun as a coffee during sex might be, I can see it being a little impractical :P

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RE: Tricks of the Trade - 10/14/2008 11:03:21 AM

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ok so i know this is ask a Master - but well being a cheeky little slave i thought i might chip in with some ideas for you that have eased me into the concept when me and my first Him were starting out....

corner time worked well - bit like the whole super nanny concept of the naughty step..... only naked.... or as you wish her to be dressed....

orgasm denial/restrain - perhaps making her ask you when she may climax even begging and then requesting that she count back from 5 or 10

making her kneel beside the bed for being allowed in....

when you get home from your "day" life telling her what or what not to wear...

spanking but with a gag - and then introducing spanking utensils - paddles, whips, cane, hair brush etc

gosh there are loads but perhaps these will spark some thoughts for you!

Bon chance to you both!

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RE: Tricks of the Trade - 10/14/2008 7:47:49 PM

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Cool post Snarf. It's important to hear the other side.

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RE: Tricks of the Trade - 10/14/2008 8:39:42 PM

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If she's not cool with the tying up, try a blindfold. Then simply use sensations...there are loads of sensation play items you can find around your house. Everyday objects can seem foreign and mysterious when rubbed slowly across the skin. To be honest, you should just check out porn and erotic lit to get ideas. You seem to only have the very basic building blocks, you've got a lot of internet information to exhaust before you really need to be asking folks!

She doesn't sound very submissive just from reading your post, so I suggest also that you either a)switch, so she can experience both roles, or b) get some of the classic intro books like "Different Loving" and "Screw the Roses". You seem beginnery enough that you'll get something out of them. Reading these might help her feel more comfortable exploring things.

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RE: Tricks of the Trade - 10/15/2008 2:47:27 AM

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Snarf: interesting idea with the gag. Combi that up with the blindfold and we may have some real fun there :) Been doing the orgasm denial for a while - it's great for maximising her orgasm ;)

Kat: I know we only have the basics it's just whenever I try to look up stuff like domination and what-have-you I either get dating sites, shops or the same old spiel that's either way too much (full on chains and whips) or not enough (aka "a bit of rough"). We've tried switch but she's too indecisive for it to be any real fun. She also doesn't like giving the orders, even when I reinforce that she can't give a wrong/bad order.

I'll have a look into those books :) Thanks for the help so far you two!

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RE: Tricks of the Trade - 10/17/2008 2:47:08 AM

ranja

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photograph her
pillow talk: seduce her into telling you her fantasies, she might have lots of ideas you can use.
playfight and rape...agree on a safe word tho
allow her to groom/worship you: let her wash you, shave you, pedicure, massage
play with toys with her naked and you fully dressed
if she is into pain you can use pegs, the bigger wooden ones with flat jaws.
draw lines on her with something sharp like a letter opener or meat fork, it is delicious
practise handling her by her hair
etc
etc etc

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