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Lockit -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/18/2008 2:32:51 PM)
LOL... yeah, funny thing... I caught that even though no one else could and although a direct hit... cool... I do believe there are many reasons and ways one can show their tits... and how and when I chose to do so... is my choice and has nothing to do with a damn thing about dominance or anything other than I am going to show my tits to someone I wish to show them to for whatever purpose. But I wouldn't be showing them to prove a point. I think most show their tits to someone they are romantically involved with and I see nothing wrong with that! It's not like I show them to everyone. Excuse me! lol Are we going to continue this drama? If so, I have a few things to say about that. My apologies to the op and thread for this personal bit... but I am a little tired of the personal hits hidden behind something else and this I hope will be the final time.

PsyVamp -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/18/2008 8:32:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo how about flat out compliments by means of being called cute? pretty? beautiful? hot? gorgeous? sexy? attractive? adorable? you know they're all compliments when they’re stated, but which, if any, will regardless of the intent bother or seem out of place to you when being referred to? i’m worried that it's almost as if being referred to as cute comes back to calling them [the d-side] something like 'girls' rather than women, or that they will feel my saying they are pretty is ‘selling them short’. so, my feelings lean towards beautiful and gorgeous when describing a lot of the domme's, while cute or pretty seems reserved towards a lot of the submissives which i also can't help but compliment, but while i adversely have no problem calling a submissive beautiful on the occasions it seems more of a match, on the other end i fear being mistaken of my intent/description and as such avoid calling the domme's cute when i see one that very much so makes me want to tell her she is; making myself replace it to what feels like the forced yet more well received term of 'beautiful'. i very often avoid using the terms sexy or hot at all because i feel like i'm insinuating the only way i look at someone is in a sexual way, and is not how i wish to present myself, my attraction, or my interests in someone. I have gotten used to many compliments but I'll have to say that "adorable" vexes Me. I can be many things, but I never thought adorable was one of them. quote: and are there any means of description you avoid telling others yourself but feel the most accurate to get your point across when you want to compliment them? I never, ever, start out a serious conversation or introductory email with compliments on their physical appearance. (unless, of course, it is relevant to the topic of conversation) Lady Jag

ShaktiSama -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/18/2008 9:24:00 PM)
I personally agree with Mizz bamabbwsub. I would say she's pretty much nailed the connotations of most of those words in general and why some are preferred over others. Whether I respond favorably to any and all of these words when applied to me...depends on how I want a person to feel about me. I have no objection to friends and family members who think I am "cute". People who are close to me are often permitted to see a girlish side which I do not show to everyone. The same people would probably tell you, if you asked them, that when I'm cute, it's because of my behavior--I am being cute. Showing my fuzzy puppy side. Sexy and hot are good words to hear when I want someone to find me sexually desirable. They are never insulting terms per se, and I fully recognize that these are subjective terms which don't need to have anything to do with my physical appearance per se. Many, many men have told me that I am sexiest when I am being particularly intelligent or perceptive--and there are always those others who report blood pressure spikes when I let my hair tumble down over my shoulders or extend my sandaled foot getting out of the car, etc.. My slaveboy once walked into the room while I was performing a practice kata with two riding crops in my hands and literally crumpled to his knees clutching his thighs. The idea that I would perfect the art of my swing for use on his body was unbearably sexy to him. [;)] Beautiful and other like terms are also welcome, but I would agree that it is a compliment of a different nature. Beauty in a person is not necessarily different from beauty in a work of art or a natural scene; it is something that makes the world a better and more worthwhile place. Whether that beauty is visual or spiritual or derives from some non-visual quality like a perfect laugh or a lovely singing voice or a skin texture so refined it is finer than silk--I do think that recognizing and responding to beauty is important. If you see something beautiful in another person, you should always say something--especially if you can do it in the vein of genuine appreciation without a hint of covetousness or pressure. shrug Anyway, I don't care if you're sub vanilla or domme, you should probably enjoy the company of women who move your heart and be honest with them in all things, even if that means you have to tell them that you find them "cute" rather than invoking some other word that applies to women that you find sexually threatening or aesthetically overpowering.

LadyPact -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/18/2008 11:07:50 PM)
Sorry, but I thought we were talking about cleavage pics. My bad. It really was intended to be funny, Lockit. Not a personal attack. If you were reading something that wasn't there, I apologize. My sense of humor is a bit off today. It's been a rough 48 hours. It's actually My husband that has named the greatest weapon in My arsenal. It has absolutely nothing to do with being hot, sexy, or any of the other terms. He's been calling it the "puppy dog eyes" look for years. It's directly related to the fact that he thinks I'm cute and when I want something that is important to Me, I give him a certain look. I look up with these big, hopeful eyes, with an expression that just says "please" and he can't resist. Now that I think of it, I've probably gotten more things that I really wanted by using that look than seduction, sex, flirting, or anything else I can think of.

Lockit -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/18/2008 11:56:32 PM)
LadyPact, LOL… well I guess a tough 48 hours would cause a few problems. It seems you combined two different threads since this one didn’t mention cleavage shots. Knowing that you have heard quite a bit about me and I did try to discuss the picture story with you, I of course figured this was another hit on me, as there have been a number of them. Honestly I am not upset about it, but I did think it might be worth a shot to try to end these things by meeting it head on. I am a little tired of it all and have a lot going on in life… good stuff, but busy stuff and the boy is keeping me up day upon day, and I would just like the past to go away here. I don’t wish to be reminded of it every couple of days. I am sure you can understand. It might be nice if we can do that LadyPact. So much is misunderstood and so much could be viewed in a way it might not have been, even though it might have been reasonable to believe it was what it appeared. So maybe it might be nice to finish this all off and call a truce. What do you think? Now, I am going to try and get some sleep and will hope that you can find some rest as well.

LadyPact -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 8:59:12 AM)
Actually, it did. quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff quote: ORIGINAL: HotMistress22 Exactly! Comments referring to your looks are meaningless. When someone who has taken the time to know you, tells you that you are an incredible person because of something you've done, now that means something. HM And yet, you have a fabulous picture of your cleavage............. just sayin.... Jeff I'm blaming Jeff.

MsStarlett -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 9:17:07 AM)
Going back to just the title: Don't call me slut. I hate that. Now, my husband can call me that. A few of my close friends can. At one time I took great pride in the title "Ultimate Con Slut"... but that's a long story. Any complimentary word that is used as a sincere compliment is fine by me. At my age, I like it when a man calls me Hot. Considering the fact that I'm living in a society that constantly beats women over the head with the concept that if you are more than 29 years old or weigh over 105 pounds, you might as well shoot yourself in the head because NO man will EVER find you sexually attractive... I love it when a man says that I'm hot. At (almost) 47 and 165 pounds, I have to work hard to look good. I appreciate it when a man notices the effort. The BEST compliment is when I'm just hanging out with a man with my hair in a pony tail, no make up, jeans & a baggy t-shirt and he looks me in the eye and honestly says "You are even more beautiful in person." That's hot because it's sweet and it speaks more to who I really am rather than any 'persona' or fantasy image that men assign to me over the internet.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 10:59:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Actually, it did. quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff quote: ORIGINAL: HotMistress22 Exactly! Comments referring to your looks are meaningless. When someone who has taken the time to know you, tells you that you are an incredible person because of something you've done, now that means something. HM And yet, you have a fabulous picture of your cleavage............. just sayin.... Jeff I'm blaming Jeff. I blame Jeff too!! He's never complained about my cleavage before... [8\|][>:]

LadyPact -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 11:01:19 AM)
Good. It's almost a relief to Me that someone else might be responsible for something besides Me just now. [sm=biggrin.gif]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 11:08:36 AM)
I find that Jeff is a convenient scapegoat for pretty much anything. [;)]

PanthersMom -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 3:18:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I find that Jeff is a convenient scapegoat for pretty much anything. [;)] have we come to a general consensus that Jeff is the new CM whipping boy? do i sense another poll coming on? or is my pea brain overworked from researching censorship in china? lol! [&:] PM

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 3:26:20 PM)
Nah, I just love to pick on Jeff! [:)]

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 4:55:46 PM)
I really don't want to hear someone I don't know tell me I'm attractive. I know I'm attractive and I don't need a stranger (creepy!) telling me so. I usually shrug off guys who throw around compliments because at my age, compliments seem to be used as a 'get in her pants' method.

LadyPact -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 5:33:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PanthersMom quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I find that Jeff is a convenient scapegoat for pretty much anything. [;)] have we come to a general consensus that Jeff is the new CM whipping boy? do i sense another poll coming on? or is my pea brain overworked from researching censorship in china? lol! [&:] PM Now that I think of it, wouldn't it be fun to have a few designated whipping boys from CM around? It wouldn't necessarily have to be Jeff. I'm sure we'd need more than one. Anybody happen to know if Jeff's a maso?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/19/2008 6:17:17 PM)
[sm=rofl.gif] Jeff a maso!!! Now that IS a funny idea!! Oh, and I get compliments every day from total strangers, and I almost always send them a "thank you". Yeah, I know I'm a hot old broad, but it's nice to be acknowledged anyway. It's not meaningful, maybe, but it's pleasant.

MsStarlett -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/20/2008 4:03:34 AM)
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FullfigRIMaam -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/21/2008 1:32:58 AM)
Honey or Sweetie. M

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/21/2008 7:22:00 AM)
M!!! Where ya BEEN? Good to see you. :)

JadeMalice -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/21/2008 11:29:05 AM)
Personally... I do not like to be called cute. I believe there are far better adjectives one can use. Nothing wrong with "cute" people... I just do not believe I am.

MasterVirago -> RE: Don't call me _____ (10/21/2008 12:27:26 PM)
Don't call me Mistress, that's some woman on the side who wasn't good enough to be called wife. Don't call me cute, that's for little girls and puppies. Don't call me goddess, there's only one God and i am not he. Don't call me chocolate _________. I'm not here to fulfill your exotic fantasies. If your male, just don't call me. ;-)

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