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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/26/2008 7:30:47 AM   
NuevaVida


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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/27/2008 4:49:40 AM   
Pixiespark


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Status: offline 		He is both a boyfriend and a Master to me. we share both parts of the spectrum but leave out certain aspects to certain audiences. I defiantly wouldst have introduced him to my mother as my Master. or as I call him, My Demon. That would be awkward on all parts. we have both vanilla and non vanilla days.
When speaking to others i call Him "Demon" (as well as to His face) "My Demon" or my boyfriend. He calls me His girl, girlfriend, kitten or babe. very very rarely uses my actual name. and when he does i know i have to pay attention then because i'm either in trouble, or its super important.


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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/27/2008 5:03:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I refer to him as my boyfriend or boytoy depending upon who I am speaking too. He always introduces me as his girlfriend. It works for both of us since we are those labels and many more to each other.

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/27/2008 8:36:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Master is Master but to people not in the lifestyle i usually refrer to him as my friend  He is my boyfrind lso also my lover and my friend.  He is all i wanted all wrapped up in one wonderful man.  Friend,boyfriend, lover .  How did i get so lucky? (Rethoicial question).  He almost always calls me sweetheart, i am also his girlfriend.

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/27/2008 8:49:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally i think that the words girlfriend and boyfriend are reminiscent of school days.  Although He calls me His girlfriend to vanilla folk,  i perhaps refer to Him more as my partner than boyfriend.  Wwe are so much more than that to eachother just as others have put that so well about their relationships. 

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/27/2008 10:57:49 AM   
Fizzgig168


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Status: offline 		I'm with you, velvet.  It feels... young, somehow.  Which is funny, 'cause I'm pretty damn young myself.  I'm not sure why, but it always feels a little odd to call him my boyfriend... possibly because when we first started seeing each other we were so unreluctant to label ourselves "boyfriend and girlfriend."  Now, though, it's just so much easier than anything else I could think of.  Everyone "gets" what you mean when you say "This is my boyfriend, ____"  There's little confusion there.  Also, I don't think D would be comfortable with me introducing him, or us, into a situation *as* a D/s couple, if that makes any sense.

Still.  I get it.  I stumble over it sometimes.


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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/29/2008 8:10:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Daes

Anyone else get so used to calling Him "Sir"or "Master" that trying to refer to Him as your "boyfriend" seem at least a little awkward?

It's such an annoying thing. When around family or vanilla friends or co-workers I use the term but it always causes some sort of pause or 'uh', 'um', 'eh'. It just feels wrong >.> perhaps I could relate the feeling to calling a husband a boyfriend, know my meaning?

Of course its something you need to do ocassionally, but it doesnt make it any less strange, at least to me. lol



That is one of the reasons I only call my man by his real name. If I had to change it depending on what company we were in then it would all seem too gamish to me... or is that gameish? gammish? goes off to find out if there is such a word!

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/29/2008 7:46:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		If I ever find one of the elusive critters I will try to remember to come back here and tell yall what I call him:P

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 10/29/2008 8:11:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		nope, i don't have a problem calling my pet by his real name and/or mentioning him as my boyfriend to others. however he doesn't like addressing me by my real name. instead he calls me "my dear" or "Mistress".

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 11/1/2008 7:26:24 AM   
LydiaSciKitten


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Status: offline 		Well, I used to have the same problem as well, at first I would just pause and start mumbling everytime I had to present Him to somone. Soon though, I noticed that everytime that the word 'boyfriend' came out of my mouth, He would shoot a very wicked, conspiratory grin at me, which made my heart skip a beat. So I decided that as awkward as presenting Him as a boyfriend to my vanilla friends was, the grin was worth it.

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 11/1/2008 7:27:59 AM   
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Anyone else get so used to calling Him "Sir"or "Master" that trying to refer to Him as your "boyfriend" seem at least a little awkward?


I would certainly hope so.

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 11/1/2008 1:01:45 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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Status: offline 		I don't think it's weird.
If you marry him you are going to consider to weird to call him your husband i guess too...well that sucks

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 11/1/2008 7:06:59 PM   
spinninsweetness


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Status: offline 		I managed once to put my foot in it with a slave friend.... we were discussing a Dom, who she was tentatively moving toward a Master/slave relationship with, and I refered to him as boyfriend. She corrected me! She said he wasnt hers, thats how she put it so I'm more careful now. I also have a problem when talking to my mum, with how I refer to a..... I dont know how to put it! I dont think she would be so keen on 'a switch friend who ties me up and hurts me, and sometimes at clubs strangers tie him up and hurt him'. Its difficult when talking to my mum! As I am of an age where I can call someone a boyfriend or girlfriend, I'm 25. So I go with friend. That works.

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 11/2/2008 12:38:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Daes

Anyone else get so used to calling Him "Sir"or "Master" that trying to refer to Him as your "boyfriend" seem at least a little awkward?



I could never call Sir my "boyfriend."I am in my 50's as is he and to call him boyfriend sounds not ackward but demeaning. Depends on who I am speaking to/with. He is "my man", "my significant other" but never my "boyfriend."

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 11/2/2008 5:49:40 PM   
pinkwind


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Status: offline 		Too long in the tooth, both of us having been around the block more than once apiece, to call each other b/f and g/f. To some he is my partner, my best friend, and/or my carer, it all depends on who is asking and whether they need to know anything that personal about us.


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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 11/8/2008 1:27:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		i don't call him master or sir,he prefers 'roommate who i share a bed with' or just fred

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 12/22/2008 6:53:50 PM   
rikki105


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Status: offline 		Where I'm from in SE Michigan, USA, it's perfectly common for people in the lower to lower-middle classes to refer to someone as "his lady" or "her man".  I think those terms are fine and use them regularly.  For example, I might say, "Have you met my old high school buddy George?  This is his lady, Jasmine."  Half the time, young people who aren't married call one another "my husband" or "the wifey".  So to stop all this confusion, I'm sticking with "lady" and "man".

Plus, I have been to visit at friends' homes who routinely call their husbands "Daddy".  My parents even do this, and so did my grandparents.  I've heard some ladies call their husbands, "Sir" in the second person, although they use his name in the third person.

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 12/22/2008 10:10:37 PM   
MarksFantasyGirl


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To be honest, I only call my boyfriend my Master when I'm on here.  It seems weird to call Him that.  He's my boyfriend, or my fiance to some people.  He was my boyfriend before He was my Master, and my BEST friend before He was my Boyfriend.  He owns me.  He knows it, and I know it.  Everyone on here knows it.  And a couple of my friends know it.  But to everyone else, we are just "dating".  I wouldn't be able to tell anyone in my family that I was collared, amd owned like a piece of property.  They would FREAK!  It's bad enough that some of my family doesn't like the fact that I'm also attracted to women.  I think that my dad is the only one in the family that accepts me as a bisexual woman, and I don't think He would really mind about the whole being collared thing either, but I'm not going to chance it.  Sweets is happy just being my boyfriend in 'nilla situations.  So that is where it will stay.  (I do call him my husband once in a while to my mom, and she just rolls her eyes! lol)

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 12/23/2008 3:41:20 AM   
MirrorrirroM


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Status: offline 		Funny...my Master and I actually had a mini conversation about all this earlier today....my Master and I are romantic partners as well as Dom and sub to each other, and for us a big criteria about getting into and maintaining this relationship in the first place was making sure that we did feel enough of a romantic spark and just general level of compatability that we could actually function as a couple. So far it's going wonderfully :)
But anyway, I do feel more comfortable referring to him as my Dom or my Master, and both of us tend to naturally be uncomfortable with the terms "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" but we do introduce each other as "This is my boyfriend" or "This is my girlfriend" when in a vanilla situation, and realistically since we are a romantic couple it's not innacurate :)

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RE: Calling Master your "boyfriend" - 12/23/2008 6:06:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thats why I never got into calling someone master.  It eliminates the ackwardness in social situations, plus I really find titles as necessary only when people don't know who they are.
Boyfriend is a tad odd at my age though, since men are not boys any longer (mostly).  S.O. sounds like I am in a f/f relationship. 
And it is easier than saying this is the man who beats me.  Or, this is the guy I am fucking.  Or this is the guy who fucks me hard after he has beaten me for hours.
Of course.. it might be more fun to describe a guy that way.. but my mother would likely faint.
Kyst

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