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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 3:52:59 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Only two years together and allready sex n bed issues
this sounds to Me like the 5 year itch come early. But if
the two of you have been doing everything at the same
rate that it soulds like you are tempting to live life its to
be expected. Your wore out first off, both of you. So stop.
Second if you feel you need more penatration then He can
provide right now buy a vibrator, it can take the place of
his action when He is not able to perform and takes off the
stress or feelings of not being good enough when the sex
is less then perfect. It can also be used to take off sum of
the actual physical stress that the both of you are experiancing.
It sounds like you use sex to releave your days burdens such as
in your release and after he has worked all day cannot get you
to where you need to be by the time his stress is released. So
how about giveing him a little help. Bring your self close to climex
befor he comes to the bedroom that way when he has a quick shot
in the dark you two can still cum together, feel released and relaxed
together and release the pressures of the day together and both
still feel loved with out pressure to perform nightly. Know this is normal.
It does not mean he is screwwing around. Trust is key to a tight relationship and if you question a mans performance by saying are you
screwing around on Me? will only cause dissenchion and dissconnect. Said
enough times to anyone male or female when they are not doing any thing
wrong and it will win you sumone eventually whom will say fuck it I might as well do what Im being accused of. Like I said in the beginning get a vibe to control your sexual needs and help him a bit and hold back sum only providing hugs and kisses and sleep for a bit. Sooner or later he will be fully loaded and give you the pleasures in the way you remember and desire. It takes two to make or break a relationship. Life and Love are hard to Live, not easy and things dont always work perfect. You learn to roll with the knocks and work out the issues together. Make sure that everything that you have read and wrote here you show him so the way of communication has been opened to work out this in a Loving manner.JMO

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 10:26:44 AM   
cheeba0228


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Status: offline 		Jill,

Do you have a problem with people asking for help in a BDSM site if they need it? Even if it doesnt pertain to BDSM? Shouldnt we help all those that we can?


Hornywifey,

Does he work second or third shift? If not then I must agree he's probably getting it somewhere else you just want to exhaust all other possibilities first. I know the I'm too tired bit on both halves fo the coin very well. And heres the thing if he's not cheating then talk to him and the both of you stop masterbating, The more you build it up the more you wont care if your tired you'll just want to screw. The only other alternative in your problem is something physically wrong with him, and thats never a good thing. But if all else fails and you get too desperate I'm sure many many men out there will be glad to help you satisfy your needs. If you do decide to go that route look me up

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 1:05:01 PM   
Leonidas


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Status: offline 		Geezus dude. Do you go to funerals to see if the widow is hot? I'm sure that, from a certain point of view, the answer to any question a woman poses about her relationship is "dump the fucker and bang me", but man, you are about as out there with it as any horndog I've ever seen. Just a bit of advice from me to you? Do the horney vulture number in private next time. You probably just rated a really big collective "Ewwwwwwww" from the female readers of this thread.

Take care of yourself

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 1:14:13 PM   
LadyBeckett


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quote:

...the 5 year itch come early.


The other day my daughter was talking about "dating" in a talking on the phone, holding hands at school, hanging out at the lockers context. Back in the day it used to mean actually going somewhere together. Like a movie, or out to eat, a party, or something like that. Things have changed, and apparently some definitions have also. I've always heard it called "The 7 year itch". Has it been shortened? lol

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 1:30:33 PM   
dixiedumpling


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Status: offline 		Thinking he's off screwing somewhere else wouldn't be my first thought. He's got a job that has long hours. He's tired. He's the sole breadwinner for a family of 4. Maybe he's worried about things at work and bringing that worry home. I'd say to ease up on the pressure at home. Make things nice for him when he gets home. From what I've read about performance anxiety, repeated failures make it worse. It turns a minor inconvience into a big problem. Maybe a little Viagra is what he needs to shore up his sagging confidence. If a trip to the doctor doesn't show any physical problems, I know it's hard to do, but just relax.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 1:42:30 PM   
AssertiveMan


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Status: offline 		As an older guy I sometimes think about medical issues. Has he had a checkup & blood test? If he's healthy, faithful or not, Viagra or the newer drugs may help.

Remember: Life is short then you’re dead for a long time.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 1:45:22 PM   
iwillserveu


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quote:

Geezus dude. Do you go to funerals to see if the widow is hot?


You mean you don't?

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 1:48:56 PM   
iwillserveu


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Status: offline 		The best advice is, have you talked to him? I could be the nuts ex-husband, but he might think things are going along great.

If he is also seeing this as a problem, see a doctor first to see if their are any physical reasons. (Hey the wife of that guy in the Cialis ad looks happy.)

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 2:27:06 PM   
WayHome


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Status: offline 		January has confused me. I think you were responding to me but then you mention the "council" spelling error which wasn't even in my post.

There is nothing wrong with her posting the essentially vanila question here, but she shouldn't expect the responses to come from experts. Yes, "interesting" means that I think some of what has been posted here is bad advice. Telling her that her husband is probably cheating is really not constructive. Maybe he is, but none of us have any real infomation to base that on. Everyone has a right to talk here, but that doesn't mean they know what they are talking about.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 2:37:20 PM   
WayHome


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Status: offline 		I'd like to repeat the important advice myself and others have presented.

1)Relax. Don't make a big deal out of it. It Happens. Worrying makes it more likely to happen again.

2)Talk to him. Communication is key in and out of the bedroom.

3)Don't forget three! Go to a doctor. It might be a health problem so rule that out first. The doc can also help with either a perscription (what a wonderful time to be alive), or referral, or both.

As mentioned, a few sucesses can sometimes wash away the damage of previous failures so a few sessions with Viagra might solve the whole problem.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 2:48:35 PM   
gitta


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Status: offline 		Looks over to WayHome...You are exactly right, not all advice given here is correct, and he who is without sin may cast the first stone...as a slave recalls you made some assertions in the thread about piss enemas, not sure where your information came from, but having a degree in human biology i do know that there are inherent dangers involved in ANY exchange of human bodily fluids, in ANY orifice...infection is a risk anywhere, mouth could have a lesion, so could the anus....but then again i could be wrong...but one thing i do know is that people come here asking advice and opinions, that is what they get....right or wrong, it is the reader that must figure that out.

smiles
gitta

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 8:44:06 PM   
cheeba0228


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Status: offline 		easy people it was all in just having fun. Calm down. I write this with a smile on my face. has nothing to do with being a horndog, has much more to do with being a Smartass.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 9:14:41 PM   
WayHome


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Gitta

Looks over to WayHome...You are exactly right, not all advice given here is correct, and he who is without sin may cast the first stone...as a slave recalls you made some assertions in the thread about piss enemas, ...



I did comment on another thread with that very title. If you think my advice there is in error, please say so on THAT thread and I will respond.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 9:43:15 PM   
LadyBeckett


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WayHome

quote:

ORIGINAL: Gitta

Looks over to WayHome...You are exactly right, not all advice given here is correct, and he who is without sin may cast the first stone...as a slave recalls you made some assertions in the thread about piss enemas, ...



I did comment on another thread with that very title. If you think my advice there is in error, please say so on THAT thread and I will respond.


I believe, WayHome, that if you had read her post to the end, you would have found that Gitta was making a point.

quote:

but one thing i do know is that people come here asking advice and opinions, that is what they get....right or wrong, it is the reader that must figure that out.


With which I agree.

Regarding "THAT" thread, no doubt she will respond to you there as well.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/6/2004 10:04:50 PM   
gitta


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Status: offline 		WayHome,
This one did reply in the proper area as requested.
Point was You make assertions that people gave bad advice HERE and i was pointing out some that YOU gave in another, hence the "He who is without sin.." comment.
For this one it is evident that you seek to be seen, for what ever reason. As for me, i will let folks figure out who and what i am by being me, not by posting as much as i can as soon as i can....those who know me, know that it is not my nature to argue with people...unless they act foolish. Good luck in your stay here....

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/7/2004 10:27:06 AM   
Thanatosian


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quote:

You probably just rated a really big collective "Ewwwwwwww" from the female readers of this thread.


Not just from the female readers

(edit having finished reading thread)
even if said in jest, still deserves an Ewwwwwwwwww , in the opinion of this semi-professional smartass

< Message edited by Thanatosian -- 8/7/2004 10:30:50 AM >

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/9/2004 12:56:16 PM   
hornywifey


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Status: offline 		ok theres been some confusion...lol. we have been together for 8 years, been married for 2 of those 8 yrs. about 3 yrs ago after our daughter was born i caught him on the net talking very rough and well down right piggish to other women. that hurt. but then we talked and he told me there's a side to him that he didn't think i could handle. i said well how do you know if you don't try me??? am i right people? he just assumed that i couldnt handle it, so he went online for it, which is better then in real life. and i would have to say after what he told me he was in to and wanted, i was like "wow" who ru?

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/9/2004 12:58:02 PM   
hornywifey


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Status: offline 		ok, he'as only 27 yrs old, could it really be a medical issue?

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/9/2004 12:59:43 PM   
hornywifey


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Status: offline 		over all, he is a healthy guy. well he smokes cigarrettes alot, and works alot, but other then that, he is healthy.

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RE: NEED HELP - 8/9/2004 1:02:10 PM   
hornywifey


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Status: offline 		he isn't screwing someone else, when he's not at work, he's home and he has always told me he's not that kind of guy, he was a virgin when we met, and he didnt even have sex with me right away, he said he wasnted to make sure i was the right one. then i thought maybe its someone at work, but then i realized my dad works there, and i know people, there and the way these people gossip, it would have gottne back to me by now.

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