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Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block someone? - 10/28/2008 11:49:12 AM

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For those that say it's rude to not at least respond to an email to say, "Thank you but I am not interested," do you consider it totally rude if the person does that and blocks you at the same time?

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 11:51:10 AM

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I don't see the need to block them unless they come back pestering you after you have said no thank you. I don't think its particularly rude though no.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 11:51:30 AM

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I don't see how it could be rude. After all, being told no does not give the person an excuse to try and beg and plead their way through to your pants.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:04:08 PM

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Not at all, though I would consider the block only when the request was quite rude or they clearly haven't read my profile, if they aren't able to be express the minimum of courtesy, I don't want to rely on them not to pester me.

Oh and all those people who want to come and live with me and be my slaves forever (gotta love those mass mails), or the ones who think I should jump to the chance of "forcing them to orally worship me" usually get blocked straight away without even telling them "No thanks", if they consider me a rude bitch, well, I guess it's something I can live with....

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:04:16 PM

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If only you knew how many times I told HM it would be best if we were "just friends".
I'm glad I didn't block him.

To answer the question, I would have to wonder what I had said in my query to warrant such an action.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:42:14 PM

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Well "Rude is as Rude does!" Its not rude depending on how the person was approached? But of course its always best to be polite say "No thank you" And block just in case they cant understand two little letters....N + O = NO

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:46:48 PM

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That is the kind of answer that I perfer because at least there is an explanation.

When I take the time to write a thought out letter to someone that andi and I are interested in it is nice to get a responce of "Thanks but you are not my type" or " Not Interested " and then Block me fine I won't come back around your profile 6 months from now and try to contact you again. I send LOTS of letters all unique to the person and when I do I get upset sometimes when it seems we are well matched and I see that they read the letter but then they say nothing and you don't even know if it was them that read it or if they just passed it by because of the ammout of Spam mail they get.

I Perfer this Method and do not find it rude at all, that is unless they get rude about it and say things like "I'm too Hot for yor Fat ass." or "I'll fuck your wife but not you"

Those are just uncalled for.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:49:57 PM

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I have never blocked the first time, but if they persist, then I will.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:50:44 PM

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i think its not rude.

especially when the person receiving the c-mail has it very prominently written at the top of their profile NOT LOOKING and the first message in the journal says "i've been asked NOT to speak to other dominants, please respect their wishes/orders" (or summat) and its kinda obvious that there isnt going to be a happy ending for le dominant (with or without eggroll) down the line.

i'm polite (or try to be) and all that, but dang!

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:53:38 PM

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The only problem with blocking after you say 'no thanks' is that they can't respond with a "thanks for the reply and good luck to you too".

I only block if : A. I feel that someone has been offensive to me. or B. They keep hitting on me over and over and don't remember it. Otherwise, I let someone respond.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 12:57:33 PM

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Not rude necessarily, but just a little weird. Unless of course their message was offensive in some manner. In that case I see it as justified.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 1:35:04 PM

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If you say no thanks, how would anyone know you had blocked them unless they disregard your answer and attempt to continue correspondence? In that sense, no. I don't think it is rude to say no thank you, and block them. I don't see any reason to do this, myself, simply because if I say no thank you and someone writes back - I have it within my power to delete their mail unread. Ok, I'm never actually had to do this but I DO have the power to do so IF I ever choose to

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 1:39:23 PM

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 1:56:10 PM

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I don't use a block becasue someone might not be someone I can have a relationship with. I expect to make more friends here than actually find someone so I am open to friendships. I only use a block for those who have been warned already, in my profile most don't read or read and ignore... and they break one of my rules of communications. Which are simple request for some social respect. They break those rules, they deserve a block and I don't need to deal with them a month later acting out again.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 2:03:48 PM

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I'm confused...

Doesn't the act of blocking someone (and the decision to do so) already imply an indifference to whether they think you are rude or not?

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 2:04:57 PM

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I don't think it's especially rude although you'll never know if they find it rude I guess : ) Someone would have to pester me ALOT to make me want to block them and I don't get flooded with mail to really consider it as nessacary. The fact that I'm not looking for anything right now probably helps me in that regard.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 2:42:19 PM

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For what it's worth, here's my view on the whole "response" thing. If you have placed an *ad* here *asking* for certain people to respond to it and they do ... you *owe* them a reply. I understand that you ladies can get utterly snowed under with a lot of rude and crude replies from some of us guys. To say that you didn't know that could happen going in is totally naive, or at least unrealistic.
For the small amount of time and effort involved, I think everyone deserves one chance to improve. If, for example, you get a crude and rude c-mail and don't respond at all, the offending individual will almost certainly never look inward as the source of the problem. More likely they will blame you as a "stupid b*tch" and either continue to harass you, or move on to the next profile. If, on the other hand, you take just the few seconds to reply with something to the effect of, "I don't respond to filth", he may just begin to look at himself as the problem. Probably not the first time, but if several attempts all respond to him this way he may see the light. In fact, for a few seconds of effort, you could start someone down a whole new and better life.
That doesn't mean you have to put up with it. He gets ONE chance. If the filth continues past your first reply then you can block knowing that you at least made an effort to try and help.
As to the people that put "collared" or "taken" or "not looking" in their ads, or get replies from people that are obviously outside what it states in the ad they are looking for, I can understand that it must get frustrating, but I think simple manors and common courtesy still indicate a simple reply.
Myself, I have on occasion sent mail to ads that obviously aren't looking for me. I have done so *only* as a gesture of friendship and helpfulness. To point out something ambiguous or contradictory in their profile, or make a polite suggestion or what have you. To see those efforts rewarded with a "unread/deleted" is rude. Once, someone actually made the change in profile I suggested, yet still could not be bothered to say a simple thank you or send any reply at all.
Perhaps I'm just unrealistic and expect too much from our computer society?

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 2:48:21 PM

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How about if you do state that you are not looking for a partner or a submissive but you are happy to make friends and you get snowed under with "I wanna be your slave" requests?

I would think it would only be polite to read a profile first, so you tell them "Thanks but no thanks" and the next reply is "How about you do ... to me?"

I found if they don't read your profile, they are not going to read your replies. Actually, maybe it would be an idea to compare messages with other women of the same orientation, because I have this niggly little feeling that the guys who write are scanning who is online and send the same stuff to all of them... Another feeling I have is that most of them only type with one hand

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 3:14:16 PM

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How about if you do state that you are not looking for a partner or a submissive but you are happy to make friends and you get snowed under with "I wanna be your slave" requests?

I would think it would only be polite to read a profile first, so you tell them "Thanks but no thanks" and the next reply is "How about you do ... to me?"

I found if they don't read your profile, they are not going to read your replies. Actually, maybe it would be an idea to compare messages with other women of the same orientation, because I have this niggly little feeling that the guys who write are scanning who is online and send the same stuff to all of them... Another feeling I have is that most of them only type with one hand

Agreed. I decided to identify as a switch because I have a dominant/top side I enjoy (as do others) and I want be honest with people about this from the start. As soon as I expressed this in my profile, I was inundated with letters saying things like "I want to be a slave to a dominant woman like you" or "I'm looking for a new play partner to Domme me". These men didn't look at my profile and no where in it do I mention wanting a slave or that I'm a Domme. When I reply with a "did you actually read what I wrote" they either say yes (which makes me wonder if they're writing to the right person) or they say "no but I just know you would be perfect because i like your picture". At that point I'll say "no thank you" and then the "fat b*t*h" emails arrive.

I took the time to write a decent profile, post a pic and write in my journal...if someone can't take the time to actually READ this, it's not for me to show gratitude because they chose to write me.

That being said, a kind inquire will recieve a kind reply....be it thank you or no thank you.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 3:16:38 PM

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I don't see how it could be rude. After all, being told no does not give the person an excuse to try and beg and plead their way through to your pants.

Oh shit.
She sees through me.

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