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hornywifey -> need help more info (8/5/2004 10:42:52 AM)

hi again......ok i will give some more info since someone replied telling me this subject of mine deals with no bdsm. ok well it does. my hubby likes to be the master, i have real long blonde hair to my butt, he likes to pull it, ties me up, we have anal sex we do all sorts of "weird" things to spice up our sex life. we had 3 real awesome sessions then BAM!!! down hill from there. i am a submissive and he's my master. i try to make things exciting. so if anyone has anymore suggestions PLEASE DONT BE SHY.



Leonidas -> RE: need help more info (8/5/2004 11:11:12 AM)

That's common. You were using "kinky" stuff to spice up a waning sex life. As soon as the newness wore off the "kinky" stuff, you were right back where you started. As I said in my other post to you, the odds are pretty good that he's fucking someone else, or he's thinking about it. It's certainly possible that isn't the case, but playing the percentages, it is. If you really want him to be your master, it needs to mean something more to you than a little furtive butt-fucking and slappy-spanky. I'll tell you a little secret about us men. We fuck sometimes when we don't know what else to do. Best advice: Forget the fucking issues and start focusing on the communication issues. You need to figure out what you mean to each other pretty damn quick, before his little head convinces his big head that an exciting new piece of ass is worth more than what you two have together. I have been blunt on purpose. I hope it does some good.

Take care of yourself

Leonidas



Sinergy -> RE: need help more info (8/5/2004 6:55:56 PM)

Hornywifey,

I have to agree with Leonidas on this one.

The problem you are describing is BDSM only in the sense that (based on what I read of your situation) yourself and your husband / Master are not communicating effectively.

When I say that, this could be anything from exploring what each other's needs are to getting you both to see a doctor / therapist to him not telling you about what he is getting on the side.

In my opinion, a bdsm or vanilla relationship will not last without communication.

Good luck, I hope it all works out for you

Sinergy



LadyBeckett -> RE: need help more info (8/5/2004 7:50:59 PM)

Both Leo, and Sinergy are correct here. But I'm going to add something else. I've read both of your threads here, and your responses. Leo has responded from a male perspective, which is close to how I would have responded as well, however you seem to be thinking that as long as he is able to perform that all is right in your world. Not so. Not a good substitute for good old fashioned communication communication communication. You've got a problem, sissy, and it isn't in the bedroom. However, I do believe you're on the right track toward getting it worked out. [;)]



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