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Being controlled - 3/4/2004 3:17:48 PM

OnlyHis

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For subs and slaves- How does being controlled feel to you? Inside. Even in small everyday things you do that your Dominant tells you to? Is there words that can describe exactly the feeling. To me it is the feeling of security , being cared for. Finding the right place for me with the right One. But still there is something else i just can't descrive.

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RE: Being controlled - 3/4/2004 4:51:41 PM

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For me its more like a safe place. When with him or in his arms everything is right with the world.
Some people have subspace. In a way I have it all of the time when I am with him.
Its a never ending feeling. There are times when its hard for me to even say goodbye for the day.
When I had a vanilla relationship in the past. Even though we were in love. It was definately lacking what I share with my Dom now.
I know what you mean..you feel secure. Same thing here...and yes it is hard to explain.

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RE: Being controlled - 3/4/2004 6:26:22 PM

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Different perspective. I'm a male. Men are different. (Incase you never noticed.

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There are a few dynamics going on.

Say she ordered me to wash the pots with my left hand. The submission itself takes on a sexual aspect. (Believe me, dishes are not my fetish

) Every time I wash them with my left hand it is foreplay. (What man would not want a woman who he can have sex with all day? [no emoticon on purpose.])

I know she knows that. I appreciate her doing me that small favor like I would appreciate her running her fingers through my hair and giving me a long luxurious kiss. (She knows I know she knows that I know, etc. That makes it even better.

)

There is also the matter of it feeding my kink. In case it was never spelled out, I like being told what to do.

There is also a John Wayne-ly manly man thing there. If it makes my little darling happy then I can be big, strong, left handed dish washing stud. (Perhaps there is a "I am woman hear me roar" corollary to this.)

Yeah, I know. I led with sex. I'm a guy, remember.

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RE: Being controlled - 3/8/2004 7:21:30 PM

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It makes me feel safe, loved and secured. I live to fulfill the desire to please the one that makes me feel that way.

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RE: Being controlled - 3/14/2004 8:54:58 PM

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(puts on my submissive hat)

I agree with the fact that being controlled gives one a sense of security. I feel the same way. I know that I am not going to be hurt or treated badly...and that I am taken care of in the sense of my submissive emotions. However, it takes trust and a developed relationship for me to feel this way. I don't have that sense of security with anyone and everyone - it has to be developed over a period of time.

Something else that it makes me feel is my own release of responsibility. Being a single mom, a graduate student, working a fulltime job and having a publishing career on the side (whew - it scares me to write it all out like that!!) I know that with the crushing responsibilities that rest on my shoulders, my time expressing my submissive self is relaxing and I can let go of those pressures that are so "pressing". It's a release in that respect.

It also brings to mind that I have a freedom to express my sexuality that I have never felt in a vanilla relationship. If I am cumming so hard that my face turns red, yellow, then blue...that is a pleasure to a Dominant because He inspired that. I don't have to worry about what I look like cumming...(lol)...like I might within the strict confines of a vanilla relationship. I don't mean that you can't have mind-boggling orgasms in vanilla sex. What I mean is that I am expected to let go of my inhibitions and fully express my sexuality as a submissive woman, and I don't feel that I have to be careful that I don't make any strange noises or expressions while doing so. I hope that makes sense. It's just a wonderful freedom to experience the body.

You are all correct - it's a very hard thing to express in words.

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RE: Being controlled - 3/15/2004 3:31:47 AM

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Another element, though not the major one: I love to give pleasure.

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RE: Being controlled - 3/16/2004 10:09:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OnlyHis

For subs and slaves- How does being controlled feel to you? Inside. Even in small everyday things you do that your Dominant tells you to? Is there words that can describe exactly the feeling. To me it is the feeling of security , being cared for. Finding the right place for me with the right One. But still there is something else i just can't descrive.

Being controlled is like a high that I've never felt before. Yes, there are elements of security and knowledge that she cares for me. But there are also elements of , dare I say, pride? Serving intelligent Dommes is such a delight, and to have her pick me made me feel honored. Every task she gave me, whether I liked it or not, there was the undercurrent of knowledge that I was doing it for her. I was proud to do it.

Not sure if that makes any sense

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RE: Being controlled - 3/24/2004 7:03:33 PM

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I am sub to a Man that I greatly admire. He is so honest, generous, attractive, intelligent, etc. etc. etc. that I feel honored to have His attention. The sense of trust that I have in Him is like nothing else I have ever experienced. He knows that I would do anything He asked of me.

When I serve him, I feel free . . . totally free. I have nothing to worry about, nothing to focus on except His pleasure. Each time I see the look of ectasy on His face, or hear a word of praise from His lips my heart leaps because I know that, through my service, He is pleased.

For me, submission is freedom.

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RE: Being controlled - 3/29/2004 8:33:07 AM

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Greetings Aall,
This slave has read all the posts several times over and now, much, much later after arriving here (lol...got a bit lost in thought

)...she decided to post her own reply. All posts make absolute sense to this slave and all state basic like feelings, however; for this slave, she feels a deeper sense of purpose in being controlled... the freedom, as was mentioned, being a big part of such.. the freedom to allow one's soul to dance, sing, serve, honor, please and obey.... the freedom to be "home".... to be what one's soul truly is.... to allow that soul to come out and shine and be....to be wholly complete, through and through; to finally be, all at once... who, what, where, when and knowing the why.... sounds quite confusing this slave knows and she apologizes but that pretty much sums it all up.... all the important questions (journalistically speaking lol) finally answered, all at once, all at the same time through one single act....becoming so free that the soul takes over and is finally allowed to come out and "play" so to speak. ~slave thinks she's probably making no sense and only serving to cloud the issue even more so she will hush... lol.
Blessings to Yyou Aall
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