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MasterTslave -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 6:38:52 PM)
I would say start SLOW!!! Master T started out with just soft bondage and then worked up to the full thing...it took about 5 months for him to go all out. He is still adding things and we have been married for some time now. I just think you need to build trust and just get to know your slave. Get the slave's limits and discuss your desires and needs as well as hers. Good luck!!!

sheisreeds -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 6:48:25 PM)
strong enough to respect my strength I practice submission from a point of power in surrender, not a weakness of will.

littlemisssnarf -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/7/2008 12:18:58 PM)
to add to the above.... consistency! x

oceanwynds -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/7/2008 4:13:02 PM)
I would expect him to get to know me and start to build a trust between us. I would expect him to not compare me to others he's been with. I would expect him to be honest and be himself. That is a good start.

mc1234 -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/7/2008 7:31:33 PM)
I think the more important question is - what do you want to find out about a potential submissive and how will you use the information/feelings you have. While I have some basic expectations for a D/s relationship, I look to the Dominant I'm speaking with to show me what it is HE expects of the relationship - and then I will know if we are compatible. I don't expect him to listen to my expectations and change his to meet mine. This is why I think understanding yourself and what you want is so important on both sides of the slash - so that compatibility can be determined early on.

NorthernGent -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 12:53:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LeonM im learning how to be a better dom and i think it would be easier if i learned what subs slaves expect (im looking for mainly whats expected withen the first week of the relationship and in the long term) but anything would help Think of any other relationship and those characteristics will apply, here. Except you're expected to provide a certain amount of security. If it helps, you need to mean what you say and be good for your word, in order to effect security; once you've proven yourself to be less than trustworthy, it's over.

NuevaVida -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 12:56:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LeonM im learning how to be a better dom and i think it would be easier if i learned what subs slaves expect (im looking for mainly whats expected withen the first week of the relationship and in the long term) but anything would help Honesty is a good starting point. Without that, there is no reason to continue.

HybridMoments -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 1:07:55 AM)
I expect them to fly to the rescue whenever I spontaneouly combust. Or walk on water, or fly. But thats just me.

LydiaSciKitten -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 9:53:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sheisreeds strong enough to respect my strength I practice submission from a point of power in surrender, not a weakness of will. Beautiful post! Except from the basics, such as honesty, respect and firmness, this is definitely a must! A Dominant must be strong enough to allow for their submissive to be a strong person as well without feeling threatened.

RealSub58 -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 10:36:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LeonM im learning how to be a better dom My Dom is by nature dominant. He learns to be a better man. I have seen this in him.If you are possibly thinking you want to be a better Top, then that is a differ story, in my POV. and i think it would be easier if i learned what subs slaves expect A sub cannot tell you how to be a dominant man. She cannot teach you the innate qualities that makes you a dominant man.Each sub has expectations of their own, just as every Dom does. There are no cookie cutters to help with expectations.On the other hand, she might be the teaching kind to help with Topping her. (im looking for mainly whats expected withen the first week of the relationship Once again, how you approach, the characteristics and qualities you possess will dictate how you approach her and then of course you learn about who she is. Takes more than a week unless you are the kind that says Kneel Bitch and she walks away. Well wait, she might kneel too. and in the long term) The journey is step at a time. You are not promised a week, let alone a day or long term.

NuevaVida -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 11:27:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HybridMoments I expect them to fly to the rescue whenever I spontaneouly combust. Or walk on water, or fly. But thats just me. LOL! I've been looking for one of those...[8D]

IvyMorgan -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 11:40:04 AM)
In the first week... phone calls/txts/contact. In the longer term... cuddles. Everything else depends on the person and the relationship.

greeneyedreamer -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/8/2008 6:16:51 PM)
I expect my dom to care for me and to always have my best interest in his actions, mind and heart. I have the most incredible dom who is observant and caring. He notices everything good about me and skips the bad. It's a look in his eyes of joy when i enter a room. It's simply amazing. He also discusses everythign with me, ahead of time and I don't have to wonder what he is going to do or how. It is very very reassuring. Also if I have any questions, I can ask. Damn, I simply have the BEST Dom in the world! Grins.... Dreamer

kittenpuss -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/10/2008 4:37:32 AM)
I expect my dom to be able to communicate how I might please him. If he doesn't and there are no rules and he doesn't guide me then it doesn't work. Be clear about what it is you want from your sub and also take time to nuture and understand her.

colouredin -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/10/2008 4:39:58 AM)
FR I dont 'expect' anything, i have learned that expectations lead to disapointment. I Hope that they are honest, upfront and themselves, I hope that they are confident and self assured, I hope that they are interesting and take an interest. I expect nothing.

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