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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 1:18:11 PM   
missuzy24


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Status: offline 		i've always fantasized about fighting, full out, knock down, drag out fighting to ramp up the sexual energy but i can't do it, not that i can't fight but that, if a good hard fuck is the end result then i just go for the fuck... lol. i mean, i can't say no, can't push my Master away, can't resist Him. how can i fight Him? (i think He would like me to be more resistant, but how can i, if what i really want is a fuck in the end? i know, its not about what i want, i'm a slave, i'm nothing, i have no say when i am with Him, but then, that means, i can't put up a fight?

i also have fantasized about rape, but altho i've had sex against my will (not in play), i submitted to it, because that is what i am at my core, a sub, a sex slave and fuck toy...

i'm new at this, a slave-in-training, and i just don't get some things. how does a slave misbehave-on-purpose to get into a fight?

note: please don't anyone admonish me for my tone, or misinterpreting the thread, if i have, or for not joining this thread "appropriately" or whatever is your deal, i've seen so many people get cut down on this site, for little transgressions or bad spelling, i don't understand from where all that anger comes. this is my first post ever, i'm a newbie slave and i'm not sure i know how things work. correct me if i've done something wrong, but don't get all bent out of shape over it.

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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 1:22:09 PM   
missuzy24


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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 1:23:14 PM   
JustDarkness


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ORIGINAL: missuzy24

btw, how did i get "vanilla" next to my name on this post?


it is the amount of posts on the forum
post more and it will go away

why doesn't anyone like plain vanilla ice anymore

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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 2:07:50 PM   
CruelDesires


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Status: offline 		A spoon full of vanilla ice creams tastes yummy in chinese tea.

Ohh, And rough-house fighting /play is yummy too. It is called takedown play around here .

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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 2:08:35 PM   
JustDarkness


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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 4:43:51 PM   
Jeptha


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ORIGINAL: JavamanTN
...It doesn't feel like a real fight from my perspective as I'm firmly in control of my aggression. I usually try to get the bottom to crack out of this shell and to get him or her into that primal rage state. That is enjoyable for me. and once he or she is there I can ramp up the intensity of the beating as he or she can take more once in fight mode.

Yum....

I can sense, intuitively, how this could be interesting, intense, and fun.

But there are parts I can't get my mind around yet.
As, for example, the part I've bolded in the quote above. I would feel that that was expected of me, but not necessarily expected - in fact, the point might be that it isn't expected, of my opponent.
note: I'm not saying some girls couldn't kick my ass; some might, indeed.
I get the appeal for women; they get a chance to flail to their heart's content with little or no ramification, something they may not have had a chance to do much.

And, I can take enjoyment from sadistic pursuits.
I've gotten turned on by slapping someone's face hard, for example.
But I'd feel terrible if I fractured someone's bones, as a few people have mentioned having happened to them.

...I also don't know if I'd take very kindly to being bitten.

There are classes that the kink community in my little burgh puts on on "violent take downs" ... maybe I'll take one of those some time to try get some insight into it. I'm on the periphery of the community and I hear a lot about it, which had me wondering if it wasn't just the latest fashion for scenesters who want to up their cred within the little pond in which they swim. But there usually is something to these things upon further investigation.

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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 4:44:43 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Having visions of Klingon mating rituals, lol! 
I've done someplay wrestling, got very turned on when being shown some martial arts moves by someone close, etc. 
'Course, I tend to find men who could kill me with one good punch appealing (I like strong, masculine men) and I am a small woman, so an all-out fair fight would not end well for me.  Now, a battle that allowed me cunning and wits is another thing entirely.  :> 
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Fighting? - 11/6/2008 6:24:08 PM   
subsue6


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Status: offline 		One time I was taken by my domme at the time to a Domme/sub lesbian party where I was matched up against another woman.
We wrestled, just wearing underwear.

The girl who was pinned for a count of 10 also had to sexually submit to the winner.
  I lost both matches.

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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 6:25:27 PM   
celticlord2112


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ORIGINAL: subsue6
The girl who was pinned for a count of 10 also had to sexually submit to the winner.
I lost both matches.

Define "losing"


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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 7:21:18 PM   
WhiplashSmile2


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Status: offline 		I have been in one relationship where play fighting would get out of control and lead to sex.  That was accepable and good.   Another relationship where she had wished I'd used Force sex to resolve a true dispute/fight, this is not my cup of tea, so it never happened.

I did start a thread about using forced sex in the middle of a fight, was about 50-50 with the female subs in favor of it.  Most Dominants were against it based on what I read.  So there.. Don't know what else to tell you.

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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 9:01:14 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Long guns at a kilometer, or muffins at 10 paces?


Either or...I'm easy, though I'll confess to a preference for muffins


So muffins it is then.. Next it will be tea and tiffin after a session of muffining. Do we do it all locked in the closet ot should be book a room?


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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 9:03:20 PM   
RainydayNE


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Status: offline 		i have to admit, the idea is exciting
he's SO much stronger than me, but it would still be pretty fun i think :)

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RE: Fighting? - 11/6/2008 9:07:35 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Long guns at a kilometer, or muffins at 10 paces?


Either or...I'm easy, though I'll confess to a preference for muffins


So muffins it is then.. Next it will be tea and tiffin after a session of muffining. Do we do it all locked in the closet ot should be book a room?



I came out of the closet ages ago!  Better book a room, so we have room to maneuver!

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RE: Fighting? - 11/7/2008 4:00:32 AM   
Motionflipotion


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Status: offline 		I've ran into this same thing as a problem. I feel this kind of play is a must for me. With my particular skills it's a necessary show of dominance. The problem is that violence isn't hardwired into everyone, so know your partner.
Rules are:
Women do what they want.
Men wrestle.

Simple. If you can't submit her, then in a way she own you too.
It's like intersexual UFC, intimate partner violence, BD/SM style.

<*Clasps hands over his heart*

Then comes make up sex! As far as sex goes, this is my favorite.

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RE: Fighting? - 11/7/2008 10:54:42 AM   
Jeptha


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ORIGINAL: Motionflipotion

Rules are:
Women do what they want.
Men wrestle.

Wrestling can be more dangerous than boxing. Cops are well trained in the use of submission holds, but they still often injure people who are resisting. Submission holds often work by exerting pressure on joints, which can result in injury pretty easily.
Spraining or fracturing my partner is a fairly hard limit for me, at least at the present writing.

But, obviously I have conflicting feelings about it. That party with the wrestling matt that was mentioned previously does sound interesting, for example.

It could just be that this is more of a young person's game, when the joints are a little more flexible and pliable.

I would think boxing with padded gloves would be the safest form of fighting.
But it sounds like people are talking about and looking for a more "spontaneous" (at least in appearance) form of fighting here...

On the other hand, some people are just pretty naive about the potential ramifications of violence, I think. I remember seeing some gigantic drunken college kid fighting and his girlfriend crying; "he's drunk, hit him over the head! knock him out!", as if he would then just go to sleep and wake up later with a stronger than average hangover. Maybe Americans, particularly, are naive about the amount of damage that can be done rather quickly because they grow up with a steady diet of fun or glamourous fighting in the media, from cartoons to movies.

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RE: Fighting? - 11/23/2008 11:34:33 PM   
twistedkytten


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Status: offline 		I cannot engage in such activities with the One the owns me,  however I have been fortunate enough, (lucky lucky me!!) to have done so with other play partners and had incredible fun!

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RE: Fighting? - 11/23/2008 11:40:44 PM   
sexisubi


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Status: offline 		That sounds like amazing fun! i think i am going to have to try it! Actually, i truely admire you for doing it! Every time we tried it we kinda just wresled and then eventually He would pin me and i lose and win... funny how that works lol! Anyway it sounds like a rockin sockin good time, pun intended.

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RE: Fighting? - 11/24/2008 3:27:42 AM   
SteveAndJaz


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Status: offline 		Saturday night we were out at a fet club and just about ready to leave when we both felt the urge to go into tpe!

We were both going at it hell for leather with a cheering crowd egging us on. They even moved the dungeon equipment out of the way! (nobody else was playing)
The funny bit was when Steve lifted me up and threw my body over a spanking bench and started to spank me. Being very athletic I did a full summersault off it.
All of this was done in a glam evening gown and a majors vintage uniform!!!

The down side was that at one point another guy grabbed my ankles. Steve said to me afterwards that people were getting very excited and he was very aware that it could of ended up with a load of men joining in and taking over.

I think we will keep this for home in the future.

I'm pleased to say that I came out of it fairly unscathed but he got a split lip

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RE: Fighting? - 11/24/2008 4:12:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		As long as both of you are feeling physically and emotionally ok then I'd say you didn't go too far. It's when one of you doesn't feel right; either because you are in more pain than you find easy to deal with, or are still feeling angry/upset after the event, that's when things have gone too far (i.M.h.o).

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