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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/7/2004 10:09:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD
I watched how long he was online here on collarme AFTER replying to Me a fourth and fifth time to see how honest he was about his saying he was busy else where in his business and he dident leave online till allmost a half hour after his last responce to Me.

FWIW, I don't think the "who's online" indicators are particularly accurate. Just this week, when we were leaving for work Suz mentioned to me that I was still on collarme. I wasn't. I didn't have any browser windows open, and hadn't for half an hour. Collarme still showed me as being online though.

if you dont click on the 'logout' button, collarme will show you as being online even after you have closed all your windows, gotten offline from your isp, shut down your computer, unplugged the phone line, pulled the power cord, and turned off the main breaker to your home. So I agree, the 'who's online' indicator can be misleading.

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/7/2004 10:16:41 AM

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if you dont click on the 'logout' button, collarme will show you as being online even after you have closed all your windows, gotten offline from your isp, shut down your computer, unplugged the phone line, pulled the power cord, and turned off the main breaker to your home. So I agree, the 'who's online' indicator can be misleading.

I suggest telling Shrub that the collarme.com server has WMDs and have him deal with it.

Then you will show up as offline.

Sinergy

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/7/2004 10:27:03 AM

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if you dont click on the 'logout' button, collarme will show you as being online even after you have closed all your windows, gotten offline from your isp, shut down your computer, unplugged the phone line, pulled the power cord, and turned off the main breaker to your home. So I agree, the 'who's online' indicator can be misleading.

I suggest telling Shrub that the collarme.com server has WMDs and have him deal with it.

Then you will show up as offline.

Sinergy

Ha Ha I'm reading a book right now that involves space ships and Dominant men...what EXACTLY are "WMDs"???? and do they wear flip flops???

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/7/2004 11:23:59 AM

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Ha Ha I'm reading a book right now that involves space ships and Dominant men...what EXACTLY are "WMDs"???? and do they wear flip flops???

WMD is "Weapon of Mass Destruction"

Which Hussein had in small amounts thereby justifying invasion by US forces.

And which Pakistan and India and Isreal also have in large amounts thereby justifying our not invading them.

Clear as mud?

Sinergy

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/8/2004 12:38:05 PM

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~grins..its a good think my 2cents wasnt the least bit interested in dropping in value then by trying to sign on your prospects

that being said.. one of the things.. that often separates the grownups from the folks still getting there, is their ability to take advice, critism, other folks experiences and take them, or leave them, but doing so without being vicious and unkind.. of course.. perhaps those issues get in the way of other folks day to day life as well...

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/11/2004 8:21:49 PM

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I know who that is. I had the exact same first contact email from him. As soon as I read it I knew he had never read my profile. I wrote back asking how long he had been into ASCII art.

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/11/2004 8:27:39 PM

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Right, he should have postponed his response until he could dedicate the time, effort, and sincerity to responding correctly. Further than that, if he had the time to be online, and browsing around at collarme, why didn't he have the time to dedicate the time, effort, and sincerity to responding correctly right then? She wasn't expecting a life history. It was just a few simple questions.

Not sure about this. I've sent replies back saying I had read their email but didn't have time to reply right now. I like to let people know I've read what they had to say. Especially here where you can see when someone read your post to them. He definitely could have handled things better but the idea wasn't all wrong.

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/11/2004 8:40:21 PM

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Road trip with me:
Here’s a map. Look at it, tell me where you want to go. Now that I have this information, I’ll plan the trip, I’ll drive. And brace yourself as it will be a bumpy ride.

Road trip with Dread:
Gag, bound, blindfolded in the back seat, no idea where the hell Dread is going, slave boy’s heart and mind racing.

And in the end, both of us are happy and content with ourselves and find those men and women who love us the way we are.

- LA

I love road trips. I had to add my version.

Road trip with me:

Map? What do I need that for? Did you bring cash? You're buying the coffee. I'm driving. We'll head down this road and see where it goes, I don't have to be back till Thursday. Random stops for interesting rocks, trees, coffee shops and book stores. Eventually I'll find some sort of use for him.

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/11/2004 9:36:53 PM

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I agree with you, Laura, however presentation is critical in those first emails. If all they have is five minutes, I recommend they make them count. I do.

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/11/2004 11:14:27 PM

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I understand. But, he thought he was doing right. It's so hard to know how someone else will see your actions and words. You and I could write the same sentence and each see different points of view in it and have different impressions. Maybe it's that bit of sub I cart around but I do try to be fair and give them a really good chance to blow it. :)

The question is, why do they all keep blowing it? I heard from this guy too. I knew right away he had never bothered to read my profile. I corresponded back and forth a few times knowing it was pointless.

Hope things are going better for you. :)

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/13/2004 4:14:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: Laura

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

Road trip with me:
Here’s a map. Look at it, tell me where you want to go. Now that I have this information, I’ll plan the trip, I’ll drive. And brace yourself as it will be a bumpy ride.

Road trip with Dread:
Gag, bound, blindfolded in the back seat, no idea where the hell Dread is going, slave boy’s heart and mind racing.

And in the end, both of us are happy and content with ourselves and find those men and women who love us the way we are.

- LA

I love road trips. I had to add my version.

Road trip with me:

Map? What do I need that for? Did you bring cash? You're buying the coffee. I'm driving. We'll head down this road and see where it goes, I don't have to be back till Thursday. Random stops for interesting rocks, trees, coffee shops and book stores. Eventually I'll find some sort of use for him.

I love it!

- LA

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/13/2004 6:55:38 PM

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Map? What do I need that for? Did you bring cash? You're buying the coffee. I'm driving. We'll head down this road and see where it goes, I don't have to be back till Thursday. Random stops for interesting rocks, trees, coffee shops and book stores. Eventually I'll find some sort of use for him.

Har! Mine is even better! I don't have to be back until I am ready. Buckle up!

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/14/2004 2:31:54 AM

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And which Pakistan and India and Isreal also have in large amounts thereby justifying our not invading them.

-Sinergy

As has been pointed out to you countless times, Sinergy.

1) Pakistan is on our side
2) So is India
3) Both their WMD are aimed at each other while someone like Iran will aim one at New York (The second lagest congregation of Jews in the world.)
4) There is a serious tactical problem involved in invading someone who has nuclear weapons as opposed to someone working on nukes. (The tactical problems for chemical and biological stuff is alledgedly manageable.

By opening this can of worms (again) do you want to close another thread?

(Note to Moderators: I won't respond further to this subject. I suggest that everyone be reminded to stay on topic.)

BTW, space ships and Doms describes the "Gor" series.

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/14/2004 4:06:44 AM

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Map? What do I need that for? Did you bring cash? You're buying the coffee. I'm driving. We'll head down this road and see where it goes, I don't have to be back till Thursday. Random stops for interesting rocks, trees, coffee shops and book stores. Eventually I'll find some sort of use for him.

Har! Mine is even better! I don't have to be back until I am ready. Buckle up!

I love it LadyB!

- LA

Request to others: can we keep the US-centric political debate out of this forum please?

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/14/2004 5:58:49 PM

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]Har! Mine is even better! I don't have to be back until I am ready. Buckle up!

Ready for what? That's the real question. lol

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/18/2004 9:41:16 PM

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I have the best first un-impression yet. The badly spelled form letter, immediately followed by profusive "take me, take me please" and of course, "send me pictures" and "talk dirty to me" seems de rigeur with wannabes... but the most surprising first contact I've ever had was this one today (names not deleted to protect the rest of us from the guilty).

From: yesmistress28
Dated: 8/18/04 6:24 PM
yo you are nasty you should just not use a picture.

His profile reads: I AM A ATTRACTIVE, FIT 28 YEAR OLD SLAVE SEEKING A MISTRESS TO KEEP ME IN LINE. VERY OBIDIENT AND FOLLOWS ORDERS WELL.

And be still my heart. He is in the same city as me. Who could resist that?

Queen of Heaven

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/21/2004 12:15:08 PM

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Well I didn't send the usual introductory email as I don't send to anyone I've either not met or chatted to - unless it's a reply to a public post. I did something worse. Met a lady Domme at my first play-party and played with Her then and at the following one. What I did wrong was after the 2nd Scene I made an utterly incorrect assumption that there was some kind of arrangement between us when it was just casual play. The second mistake was that I sent Her endless emails, up to 8 per day at one point, commenting on posts she'd made on the boards and telling more of myself - none of which was wanted. She'd replied to a mail saying that I may call Her 'Mistress' only during a scene and in no way was I to infer Her as 'My' anything. I dont think I understood this fully and continued sending Her more intimate and unwanted email, then She finally flipped when I signed one of them 'Love Ian' and I got the 'I suggest You look elsewhere' final mail. Such was my mistake and I now dont know how or if to appologise so I've just ceased sending anything to Her, but I am still foolishly following Her posts on the boards.

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/21/2004 12:20:39 PM

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just to make a point. I AM CERTAINLY IN NO WAY VANILLA. NOT IN THE SLIGHTEST. NEVER HAVE BEEN NEVER WILL BE.
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So, why does the stupid icon in the left say I am?

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/21/2004 2:37:35 PM

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]just to make a point. I AM CERTAINLY IN NO WAY VANILLA. NOT IN THE SLIGHTEST. NEVER HAVE BEEN NEVER WILL BE.
So, why does the stupid icon in the left say I am?

It's based on the number of posts you've made. Once you've made 25 posts it will change (to newbie, I think), then again at 50, 75, 100, 200, 300, 400, 500, 1000, etc. There's a different name and a variety of different icons to indicate posting frequency.

So chill...the more you get involved, the less time you'll spend as "vanilla".

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RE: How NOT to contact a Dominant [first impressions ] - 8/30/2004 10:04:52 PM

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LadyAngelika,

Great analogies, I like your version of the road trip!

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