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lovingpet -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/11/2008 7:58:27 PM)

I appreciate that response greatly.  It always seems easier to live with the pain you know that face what is unknown.  I really can relate and a lot of us have been there.  It just seems that, in my life and different problems, there comes a point in time where I put my foot down and say NO!!!  This isn't going any farther!  I'm not willing to sacrifice THAT!  I know the "that" varies person to person and based on all kinds of factors.  I like to know what is not up as the sacrificial lamb for different people.  The "that" the person is fighting for is the best place to begin the journey. 

lovingpet




MsLadySue -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/11/2008 8:20:02 PM)

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RainydayNE -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/11/2008 11:30:23 PM)

i went to get help when i sat there going "what the heck am i doing?"
the cutting was starting to take over; like i could barely function WITHOUT cutting, i started doing it in school, i hardly got anything done because i'd do it and blank out for hours. homework went unfinished, blah blah blah
but one day i just tranced out and when i came back i was just sitting there cutting over and over again into the same cut
and now i've got this really bad scar
but anyway, i was like "woah... what was i doing?"
up until then, i only cut when i "wanted" to (or so i thought)
i got help when i started doing it even when i didn't know i was doing it. when it started taking over.

of course the problem i ran into then was that the medicine made me numb, and the doctors and therapists were extremely patronising and condescending, and they were determined to fit me into their prescribed boxes and call it a day.
so i lost faith in it
and like synning sub said, it was like being lost somewhere i didnt understand. i knew how to "deal with stuff" when things got bad, but feeling absolutely nothing at all scared me more than the tranced-out cutting did
so i gave up the pills and decided to put up with the rollercoastering and just "manage" things

i don't believe that professional help and therapy is necessary for every person. i think sometimes it doesnt help at all, and you'll save money and do better on your own.




DelilahDeb -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/12/2008 12:56:05 AM)

The OP asked what got me in to find answers…well, first, I was already getting regular medical treatment. I was diagnosed with clinical depression less than three months after my stroke. My rehab MD, to whom I couldn't talk without bursting into tears within a minute or so, said at the time: "It's very common in left-brain strokes for recovering patients to have very low serotonin levels. Without even bothering with a test, I'd say yours are at about zero." He started me on an SSRI that day, and a good thing; the following day all of the board of directors of the software start-up I worked for (even on disability I was officially an employee on leave) resigned en masse over disputes with a venture capital outfit regarding a bridge loan—and for the whole of that month I dreaded that I would only have life insurance (all bennies were set to expire end of month) until month-end. Even with the anti-depressants, I hid in the tube (Game Show Network, I thank you) to keep the insomniac me from planning the details of how I would commit suicide in a way that wouldn't be diagnosed as such (I was going to slip on the moss- and rain-slicked rocks and fall into the winter-swollen river while out on a nice healthy walk), so that my loved ones would have something with which to pay the mortgage.

That was six years ago, and I'm still on a daily (relatively mild) dose of anti-depressants. Sometimes I wish I could lose them, and then we go into the dark half of the year (like now) and I'm grateful once again. Now if I can only motivate myself out of a few pounds.

Lady Delilah Deb




wandersalone -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/12/2008 4:03:47 AM)

I get what you are asking however from my experience I can see ten different people experiencing the same problems and they will all react differently and be wanting different things and the final straw for each of them will be different.  The one very generic thing is that people seek help when the discomfort outweighs the things that are working for them.  It sounds obvious of course however in my experience there is no generic 'oh my god I need help' factor. 

I totally agree with you about the importance of identifying a person's values and in the first session I often ask people "why did you come to see me now, why not yesterday or last month or next week?" as a way of trying to understand where they are at.  I also literally ask them what they value and why they felt it was important to come to counselling

I hope I am not telling you how to suck eggs. [:)]

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ORIGINAL: lovingpet
I am in the field and it is important to me to know what values clients have and what matters when it comes to quality of life.  I know that therapy is rarely, if ever, effective when it is not entered into of free will.  If a client has been talked into being there or if it has been mandated in some way, I know I have a tough road ahead.  I just want to know what specific things make the shift from this being a bad way to feel to it just being too painful and completely unacceptable to ignore anymore.  What does a person value that they do not want to lose to such demons?
lovingpet    




lovingpet -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/12/2008 6:33:51 AM)

I understand that the answers will vary person to person, which is really exactly what I want, kind of a laundry list of all the things that seem to matter most when the chips are down.  There are emerging patterns so far, at least I believe.  I ask similar questions to wondersalone.  It is the only way to really know some baselines and where to begin.  I guess I want the best possible beginning that leave the impression that going forward is the right and worthwhile thing to do.

I go some of my own problems more or less alone.  This ends under very specific conditions for me and for a short term.  I think, by and large, that is not advisable.  I think more often it is hard work of finding the right professionals that fit the client.  It is hard work to find those people sometimes.  I am not a good fit for everyone.  Someone else would be perfect, however.  That is part of why this has to be worth it for someone to put in all this effort when everything is shutting down around them.  I will ask here what I asked last I needed extra assistance.  Give me one good reason and I will be ready to go.  What is your good reason?

Lots of great answers so far!  Thanks much!

lovingpet




Ialdabaoth -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/12/2008 11:35:47 AM)

From what I've seen, the criteria are pretty simple: social respect.

Someone who is perceived as "on top of things" is seen as just having some emotional stuff to work out, while someone who is perceived as not worth personally validating or supporting is seen as being in need of a therapist - of course, one wonders sometimes whether they need to see a therapist, or whether we need them to see a therapist.




lovingpet -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/12/2008 1:09:11 PM)

I understand your meaning.  The social control that is often the less explicit role of the mental health profession is something that personally makes my skin crawl.  Just because someone does not conform to societal norms or generally accepted morality does not mean the person is sick and in need of intervention.  A person is in need of intervention when either he/she decides that the quality of life currently is not acceptable or when the set of problems spread from outside the person to others around them in a harmful way.  Harmful is being defined as physical, mental, emotional, and social negative outcomes (death, injury, etc.).  The profession has been allowed to run rampant in forcing treatment upon people in the name of public safety and the best interest of the individual.  Though there are a very narrow set of circumstances where this is a reasonable action, it is a liberty that is abused frequently.

Individuality is not what concerns me, as different as one person may be from what I am.  My concern is how he/she views his/her own life and how that is affecting people around them.  The rest is social and political fodder that should have no bearing on clinical decisions.

lovingpet 




AlexandraLynch -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (11/18/2008 1:02:36 AM)

I was once told by an earnest psychologist that if I were straight, monogamous, Christian, and submissive I wouldn't be dealing with the psychological issues I was dealing with at the time. I looked at him and said, "What size shoe do you wear?" "Twelve." "Would you listen to me if I said that you just need to accept wearing a nine?"  "Uh. No." "Likewise, I'm not going to cram myself into something I'm not."

A lot of the stress went away when the family income went up another fifty dollars a week and my husband told his mother to butt out of his life.




Dralorsgirl -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/6/2008 1:16:26 AM)

hmmm the first time i believe it was because my Master at that time said look seek help or you'll be dropped in wet concrete, i was bad, i would start cooking chatty and fine... by the end of preparing the meal he was cooking while i was outside burning myself with a cigarette,. that was back about 17 or 18 years ago, have stopped therapy and had to go back a number of times since
pieces of his girl




mozartsfuneral -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/9/2008 12:48:07 PM)

i had given up caring about anything and everything about life. it was about around the 6th anniversary of my Mom's passing. i was sleeping 21 hours again, isolating myself and my bipolar meds weren't helping...and then i met Master and things began looking up. He began taking charge of my life, not allowing me to sleep ridculous hours, giving me small activities that wouldn't overwhelm me...and taking me out for little trips to break up the day...

i think it's been helping, more so then the 15 years of therapy...

regards,

jayelle




DesFIP -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/9/2008 1:36:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lovingpet
The social control that is often the less explicit role of the mental health profession is something that personally makes my skin crawl.  Just because someone does not conform to societal norms or generally accepted morality does not mean the person is sick and in need of intervention. 


This sounds nice but it does not take into consideration that a person suffering may not be able to view themselves objectively. They may not think that cutting or burning themselves is a problem that requires help. The same way an anorexic cannot view themselves as severely underweight.

So when friends, family, work, school etc say "this person needs help", usually they are right. They are seeing the marked changes in the person that the ill person cannot recognize.




wandersalone -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/10/2008 1:43:21 AM)

Off topic for a moment ... when you talk about the "mental heath profession" which branches are you referring to... eg.psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers?  I would also be interested in some links to some recent examples of  forcing treatment upon people in the name of public safety to help me understand exactly what you are referring to. 

I do feel that sometimes a person is not in a place where they have the insight to recognise that their behaviours or feelings are unhealthy for them.  A third party, be it a professional or not, may be more able to recognise that they would benefit from some external support. 

A common question I ask is 'how is this working for you' and interestingly many people will initially say 'fine' or something similar however if I dig a little deeper the discrepancy and discomfort starts to show but this does involve me initially not always taking the person at their word.

(sorry, back on topic now)

This is a great topic and I am enjoying reading everyone's contributions.


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

I understand your meaning.  The social control that is often the less explicit role of the mental health profession is something that personally makes my skin crawl.  Just because someone does not conform to societal norms or generally accepted morality does not mean the person is sick and in need of intervention.  A person is in need of intervention when either he/she decides that the quality of life currently is not acceptable or when the set of problems spread from outside the person to others around them in a harmful way.  Harmful is being defined as physical, mental, emotional, and social negative outcomes (death, injury, etc.).  The profession has been allowed to run rampant in forcing treatment upon people in the name of public safety and the best interest of the individual.  Though there are a very narrow set of circumstances where this is a reasonable action, it is a liberty that is abused frequently.

Individuality is not what concerns me, as different as one person may be from what I am.  My concern is how he/she views his/her own life and how that is affecting people around them.  The rest is social and political fodder that should have no bearing on clinical decisions.

lovingpet 


edited to fix typos




Aswad -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/11/2008 3:56:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

What makes up a bad emotional experience versus a full on diagnosible problem?


Edit: My reply is concerned with unipolar depression, although I imagine there are commonalities with depressive phases of other conditions. And DesFIP is correct that there is a genetic component, as well as there being definite issues with spending much time in close relationships with people who are affected, but there is also a response which will tend to trigger when certain brain systems are deprived of the feedback they need for proper function, normally associated with a decoupling of effort and response in such a way that things are consistently too negative and without any perceived positive consequences to any course of action, regardless of expended effort.

If you truly wish to comprehend this, there are at least two viable routes:

• Sign up to care for animals that are used in depression research. The animal model of depression shows you the traits you are looking for in humans, the ones that differentiate a bad experience from the conditions we call depression. You can also spend a lot of time living with someone who suffers from chronic depression without anxiety (the anxiety, a very common feature, will just distract you from the core symptoms, and would make it harder to differentiate depression from anxious depression; the latter is usually far easier to treat, as the depression responds to improvements in the anxious thought patterns, which can be realized with CBT or pharmacological interventions).

• If you are licenced to prescribe medications, or your state classifies you as medical personell, then the standards of medical ethics in research that were established after Nuremburg will allow you to experiment on yourself. Enlist the aid of a cardiologist and a psychiatrist to monitor your physical and mental health, respectively. Start on a low dose of reserpine, and slowly titrate it up until your Montgomery-Åsberg score reaches 25-35 or your vital signs contraindicate an increase in dosage. Stay on that dose for a short time, and then taper off. You will experience hypotension throughout the regimen. At some point, clinical depression will set in. Supplement your diet with tyrosine, phenylalanine and 5-hydroxytryptamine for a few days after stopping the reserpine. Then add 10mg/day tranylcypromine. Increase the dose by 10mg/day per two days until orthostatic hypotension sets in. There will be a period of 1-4 weeks from that time until remission has been achieved, after which time you should taper off slowly (no faster than 10mg/day per week, and sleep disturbances indicate you're going too fast). Divide the doses evenly, up to TID, the largest dose given in the evening if you can sleep with that, in the morning otherwise. Dietary restrictions can be relaxed about two weeks after cessation. Supplementation may be useful, primarily tyrosine.

The former approach gives you a point of reference that more closely isolates what you're looking for, but requires the ability to stand by while others are suffering, since that's sort of inherent in animal research. You will probably not want to be present during experiments or result analysis. Being able to bond with the animals somewhat will probably be a plus in terms of noticing the more subtle cues.

The latter approach causes depletion of vesicular monoamine stores, inducing a depressive condition that is usually readily reversed by restoring the same stores, something which is most effectively achieved with a regimen of supplementation and monoamine oxidase inhibition (although the two can't occur at the same time, unless you have access to continuous monitoring, including ECG, as the physical side effects will be significantly exacerbated by the tranylcypromine). There simply is no substitute for first-hand experience, but it is by definition unpleasant, to say the least. Oh, and you'll probably crave chocolate for a while afterwards, and should do it at a stable point in your life, with the support of friends and family. The latter will also provide invaluable data on how your patients' interactions with theirs can be.

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What one considers managable may be considered utter misery to another.


Certainly. At one point, my definition of "tolerable side effects" had the doctor asking me how I had been able to walk unaided to his office, given that most people should be silently expiring from respiratory depression, aspiration and loss of consciousness with the titration rate I had found tolerable. Prior to that, my M-Å score had been in the fifties, on a scale that ends at 60; we switched to that scale because Hamilton's scale doesn't go that far, so there was no means to quantitatively measure the improvement otherwise.

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Is it more in terms of consequences? Action? Perception?


Your questions reveal that you are nowhere near the correct ballpark; in fact, it looks suspiciously like a pool table.

That is not criticism- it is rare to have appreciable insight without first-hand experience or very extensive second-hand experience.

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What are the overall factors that bring you or a loved one to finally seek help?


The realization that I could not provide an acceptable standard of care for my home and those in it.

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What are the things that make this situation no longer bearable?


The onset, and everything that follows, up to the point of remission.

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What things have fed into this (ex.:  hormonal shifts, certain illnesses, etc)?


View it as a pyramid between biology, psychology and environment. The three feed into each other, and once something is thrown too far out of whack, you've started a downward spiral, the negative feedback from some factors tearing into the others, rapidly making the situation more difficult to deal with and recover from. In treatment, it is useful to work on all three factors at the same time; the cart is easier to move by pushing on one end and pulling on the other, to use another analogy.

As for specifics about hormones, keep an eye on prolactin and testosterone, at least. Those are part of the dopaminergic regulatory system, which is essential for motivation, drive, perceived costs and benefits of activities, memory, cognitive ability, awareness, acuity, and a number of other critical aspects of functioning. It is not an accident that many instances of drug abuse have started after the onset of a depressive illness; unfortunately, the majority of readily available drugs of abuse tend to have a long-term detrimental effect on biology (monoamine depletion, rebound, desensitization), psychology (learned helplessness, reliance on a crutch, dysfunctional feedback systems) and environment (cost, stigma, legality and social circles). Hence, self-medication is not a route for anyone who isn't licenced to prescribe proper drugs for this purpose, certainly at least not in the west.

Hope this helps.

Health,
al-Aswad.




SavageFaerie -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/11/2008 5:58:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aswad

You can also spend a lot of time living with someone who suffers from chronic depression without anxiety (the anxiety, a very common feature, will just distract you from the core symptoms, and would make it harder to differentiate depression from anxious depression; the latter is usually far easier to treat, as the depression responds to improvements in the anxious thought patterns, which can be realized with CBT or pharmacological interventions).



I have been diagnosed with bipolar 1 or 2, the one with little to no manic episodes by one doctor, clincial depression or server ongoing depression by another.  What is disabling is the anxiety itself which since 97 has been near impossible to treat. The best I have achieved is a low level of functionality to be able to get out when absotely necessary, it seems to spawn many phobias, in my case agoraphobia. I am on a maintenance dose of 1mg xanax 3x a day, 2mg at night, while my body handles it pretty well it doesnt at all times help me function. Feeling shut in and isolated just expounds the depression of which I take 2 different anti-depressants. Then throw SAD into the mix in winter and Im a mess.

Since 97 I have been unable to pull out of it to be able to function normally and work, or do even simple things. My memory has detiorated to the point its scary, I feel like someone with azlhemers but know thats unlikely. Even taking care of a few simple bills takes reminders froms others to get it paid.

My main onset was as I mentioned in 97, I was 6 months out of a mentally abusive marriage and living actually on my own with my now teen kids. I was actually feeling quite good about being on my own, my children were happy to be out of a miserable 10 year situation and I had a pretty good job.  Slowly I started calling in sick, then not doing in at all, refusing to answer the phone, wouldnt leave my bed or room for that matter. This got worse. I did have a wonderful b/f non live in that literly picked me up and took me to the dr who put me on my first antidepressant. He soon moved in as he had taken to supporting my home plus his and had become a finanacial burden and he could keep a better eye on me.

Since then I only truly feel safe and less anxious if I am in my room, or in this case now that I live in a small studio with my sister a small corner of the apt and my upper bunk.

I am far from being rcovered and fear that it will never happen, even with changes in medications when one stops being effective I just barly stay below level. I have tried every anti anxiety drug and xanax is the only one that helps and gives me the ability to get out when I have to. I am far from addicted to it as I do often reduce mid day and evening doses if my anxiety isnt busting out. But I am dependant on it for some  quality of life.

All I have been able to figure out is the 10  year marriage is directly related which also have effects on my kids at the time, daughter attempting suicide twice and having to be hospitalized in a state mental hospital slapped me in the face to see how destructive it was and finally left.  Why it hit so hard 6 months later is and has been puzzling, but I have been just making the motions since. Become very reclusive which is depressing in itself.

I guess what Im trying to say is that the anxiety compounds the anxiety not the other way around.







Aswad -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/11/2008 10:35:56 AM)

Of course anxiety compounds anxiety; I was just noting that in most cases of unipolar depression with concomittant anxiety, the depression is secondary to the anxiety.

When you say "every anti-anxiety drug," are you including Nardil, Parnate, Anafranil, Zofran, Subutex and Solian in that list?

Edit: If you haven't tried CBT, it's well worth giving it a try.

Health,
al-Aswad.




DesFIP -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/11/2008 2:40:52 PM)

Savage Faerie have you tried the atypical antipsychotics such as Risperdal or Seroquel? In the lower dosages used for treatment of anxiety disorder they work great without much side effects. My bipolar type II daughter gained weight on Risperdal but is fine on Seroquel. And yes, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a must.




Bosisto -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/14/2008 5:37:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: synningsub


i liken it to entering a scarey forest and living there for many yrs.. its dark but youve been all thru it and know every inch.. when someone comes along and tells you that just beyond that, theres a light airy place with nice ppl its hard to believe, accept and even harder to muster up the courage to go out of that forest youve known so well and chance that maybe all thats there is more forest you dont even know..




This is an excellent analogy, one of the best lessons I learn't in my early nursing years was to understand that whatever a persons life and way of living it, is the norm for them. It is a bit like ethnocentricity, (expecting that every person has the same beliefs,values and way of life is the same as yours)....it isn't the same for us all .




Bosisto -> RE: More Than a Bad Mood: From the Inside Out (12/14/2008 5:59:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SavageFaerie

All I have been able to figure out is the 10  year marriage is directly related which also have effects on my kids at the time, daughter attempting suicide twice and having to be hospitalized in a state mental hospital slapped me in the face to see how destructive it was and finally left.  Why it hit so hard 6 months later is and has been puzzling, but I have been just making the motions since. Become very reclusive which is depressing in itself.




Disclaimer: I am not a psychiatrist and I am not trying to diagnose, so please don't jump on my back. I think there are a few markers in this outline to suggest elements of a Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I hope you get the anxiety levels down as my experience of them is debilitating and plain old awful.




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