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anamericaninfife -> RE: Nope you're wrong........... (11/12/2008 12:12:39 PM)
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When a man sends a message like the type you've described, what he's really saying is, "Wow...you're quite attractive and I'd like to get with you, and because of that I figure I should be as polite as possible so as not to sound like the trillion other emails that you've got today that say "On your knees" and silly things like that." The problem, of course, is that in trying to be polite, he fails to be aggressive--or, just as likely, he likes what he sees and reads in your page, but also has some self-esteem problems of his own, and is therefore worried about the fact that he wouldn't be in your league or whatever.
Here's my advice: if you get an email like that, then by all means check out his page. If he looks appealing to you, write him back and tell him just what you've said here...except don't do it in a nasty, whining type of way. He's meant to flirt with you, now's your chance to flirt back. Write him and tell him that you are flattered that he likes your page, your pics, etc., but that you actually don't get that many offers. Then tell him that he has a really great page and ask if he would like to talk further or whatever. You have to understand that men outnumber the women on this site quite significantly, and therefore men are used to getting shot down all the time--it can get a little old after a while, and I suppose that some men can get so used to it that they set themselves up for rejection before they even know for sure that the sub is going to think of them. So it never hurts to stroke the male ego a bit, at first, if you do find Him genuinely enticing.
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