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hopelesslyInvo -> RE: So who really has the power REALLY (11/18/2008 11:38:31 AM)
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it's just as mutual as any other relationship; terms like total power exchange and role reversal are such narrow minded ways of looking at things. no power is taken, lost, or gained; you have only what you brought with you, you lose only what you allow. it's not as though i become involved with some weak female shall "empower her" to dominate me. quite as much nonsensical, i certainly never practiced or behaved to any sort of the manner inwhich i expect most of my partners most likely would with me; so the concept that i am having my practices, expectations in others, and general way of life turned around on me... well that would mean that for the most part these mistresses just terribly want to inflict upon me a whole lot of kindness and hugs, as well as seeking to appease me over themselves.
the only role reversal existent here is in the eyes of those blinded by generalizations; role reversal for me would be me telling them what to do and to enjoy doing so, it is not for me to be simply who i am.
the notion of power exchange insinuates someone is lacking of it, or that even if you can strip someone of it, that it could somehow be "gained" by another; we both have power, and in an ideal encounter it will likely be in fairly equal magnitudes. what we are rather doing is making use of what we have, but in very different ways.
if the dominant "really" had the power, there would be no submission; if the submissive "really" had the power, their partner would not be the dominant. there's a great many aspects to be aware of in "our" relationships; trust, giving, respect, confidence... and just like all relationships, ours too will depreciate when they cease to be mutual.
one person cannot make a relationship.
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