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CintiSubGuy1 -> catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 3:58:24 PM)
I openly admit to a strong butt fetish. If you were my mistress would you: a. Ignore my fetish and purposely avoid allowing me to worship your ass b. Allow me to enjoy my fetish as a reward c. Make me "suffer" to enjoy my fetish (like making me take a good caning if I want some "ass play") d. All of the above, depends.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:19:22 PM)
Is there a "none of the above"? option?

CintiSubGuy1 -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:26:34 PM)
A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed. A first perhaps!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:28:52 PM)
Not what I meant at all! (though I confess it's not a favourite activity) If I am with someone who has a serious fetish, then it is a fetish that I share. So, if I am in the mood, guess what? Teasing and all the rest are part of playing, aren't they? Serious fetishes are not something that can be compromised on, which is why I avoid crossdressers and sissies.

Ebonybbw -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:36:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Is there a "none of the above"? option? LOL... that would be mine too... Just run off now and clean my toilet...

LadyConstanze -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:38:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1 A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed. A first perhaps! Add to that a 2nd.... Additionally it is YOUR and I would feel I am just feeding your fetish and it's all about you

GreeneGoddess -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:39:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1 A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed. A first perhaps! Have you met all mistresses to know that it's something ALL twue mistresses like?

Politesub53 -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:40:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1 A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed. A first perhaps! I think you miss the point. Even if a Mistress may like her butt kissed, she would be unlikely to give a stranger details on the internet. Not until she knows him anyhow. Your question sounds more like you are asking for detail than substance. As did the one about hygiene.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:41:47 PM)
I am putting some pieces of this puzzle together and NOT getting an appealing picture. [8\|]

Usako -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:41:51 PM)
I wouldn't really want to be with a guy if I have to "cater" to his fetishes. It would be someone who I shared the fetishes with; so there would be no catering involved, it would be done when I feel like and they'd have to suck it up and wait. As for your choices, "ass fetish" can be replaced with any fetish. If we share the fetish the choice would be "all of the above" or moreso to my first comment, when I feel like it and what I feel like doing about said fetish.

StrictnSaucy -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 4:43:14 PM)
My boy has a strong fetish also. Its one I adore. Sometimes I tease him (if I am feeling playful), sometimes I reward him, sometimes I demand it ...really depends on my mood. I agree with LadyHibiscus in that its important to find someone who shares your love of your particular fetish

Lockit -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 8:56:17 PM)
I take care of, pay attention to and hope to make happy my submissive, but I do not, will not, ever cater to a fetish... I am his fetish or we don't deal...

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/18/2008 9:09:19 PM)
Still at it, I see, CintiSubGuy1. You really hsould learn how to quit while you're ahead. I don't cater to anyone's fetish. That is a very bad choice of word on your part, as a submissive. If I like it, I will consider participating on My terms. If I don't, I am not going to cater to anything. I might as well be in a vanilla relationship wherein I compomise. That makes Me dominant. How about that?!

chezzy71 -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/19/2008 4:55:45 AM)
Well Clint it appears to me that if you don't mention the fetish at all you would be alot better off.I don't want to sound like the pot calling the kettle black for i have also struggled at times to keep the lip zipped when dealing with my strong fetish.But if you truly have passion for another,you won't say a word about it.Now as you can tell from a couple of the responses,some Dommes don't share the fetish with you and i know by trial and error on my part that there are a bunch of Dommes who don't share mine.So i zip up and if by chance it happens to come up in conversation by the Domme or is leaning that way then i will ask permission to speak of it.Right out of the gate though is a huge mistake and quite frankly you will be kicked to the curb more often than not.I learned the hard way so take heed if you wish.

Lashra -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/19/2008 5:05:22 AM)
I'm not a caterer I am a Dominant and if something interests Me then My sub and I may indulge in it. If it does not, nope he will have to do without. ~Lashra

MsStarlett -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/19/2008 5:36:14 AM)
I have a boy with a serious fetish that I had not explored. One could say that I am 'catering to his fetish' as I use him as a means to learn more about it. It's still a one hand washes the other. If I were not curious about the activity, I would not indulge in it.

zakkan -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/19/2008 5:41:23 AM)
Won't the sub be... umm... upset? [sm=sad.gif]

MistressFaye1 -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/19/2008 6:09:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett I have a boy with a serious fetish that I had not explored. One could say that I am 'catering to his fetish' as I use him as a means to learn more about it. It's still a one hand washes the other. If I were not curious about the activity, I would not indulge in it. Excellent point! If it's his particular fetish or something we both want to explore, we "cater" to each other. I believe in being mentored when learning new skills or fetishes that interest me but at this time I have not developed the kind of relationship I need to be mentored by another Domme/Dom. If I did have mentoring, my baby would be right there with me as my "subject". If we have the same likes, to deny him just to play the "Domme card", is only making me go without. With that being said, when we indulge will be my call. This is yet another example of why two way communication is critical. Ms. Faye

MistressFaye1 -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/19/2008 6:11:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1 I openly admit to a strong butt fetish. If you were my mistress would you: a. Ignore my fetish and purposely avoid allowing me to worship your ass b. Allow me to enjoy my fetish as a reward c. Make me "suffer" to enjoy my fetish (like making me take a good caning if I want some "ass play") d. All of the above, depends. Aren't you the one that turned in his "Dom card" a few months ago? Ms. Faye

AlexandraLynch -> RE: catering to a fetish (11/19/2008 11:20:12 AM)
I wouldn't say I cater to the fetish per se. Cater I think is a bad word. He serves me, I do not serve him. However, if I love someone, their pleasure gives me a certain amount of pleasure as well, it's how I'm wired. I don't engage in BDSM and fetish play with people I do not love and trust. So if he has been a good boy, and I am in a good mood, not busy with other things, and he has asked very nicely, I might indulge him for a bit. Or I might indulge him if I sense that life outside the bedroom has been a bitch for him. (trouble at work, etc.) And I for one adore having my ass worshiped, so working that into making me happy in bed would not be hard. I'd have more trouble with someone who liked golden showers or crossdressing, both of which just do not crank my engine at all.

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