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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 12:14:29 PM   
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In her defense, family is importent, and when no one else is there for you, your family is. If the family would not want their child to bringing home someone older and cut communication if they did, then i would support the disicion.


Perhaps this is true for you, but it is hardly a universal truth.  I've been having major life crises over the past year; another person might have committed suicide.  My family has specifically not been there for me and has informed me of such.  *I've* cut off communication with my mother because it is bad for my mental health.  So my choice of partner is definitely none of their concern.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 12:16:13 PM   
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Hope not. No offense but I like my men with some muscles, facial hair, and distinguishing characteristics of sexy adult men.



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You think anyone over the age of 30 looks like me? Because I don't.




Well both are stereotypes, ive known men my age to look over 30 and my current partner is 30 and looks 20. Age doesnt really mean that people look a certain way. Also OddJobbery, my guess is not everyone would want their partners to look like you.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 12:18:15 PM   
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 12:24:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Hope not. No offense but I like my men with some muscles, facial hair, and distinguishing characteristics of sexy adult men.



My point? Adult's not what we're looking for here, honey, it's youth. I said in my post - attractive is a very different thing than youthful. I have no doubt that there are men older than me that are more attractive than me (lots. thousands. hordes. muscles? don't got em. I like sexy skinny, so i stay sexy skinny - and I realize a lot of people don't find sexy skinny all that sexy :D) but regardless of how ripped you are at 35 or 40 or 50, you sure as hell don't look younger than me. :)

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 12:25:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		oddjobbery, please don't let our words hurt you. I am 100% certain there is a woman that will take one look at you and think you are perfect for her. Your look, age, etc.......are exactly what turns her on. Just don't assume that your age and youthful appearance are BETTER than another's. Quite honestly, if I was into guys, there is a 50+ yo male submissive (that I think is now taken) who's demeanor, and just everything about him, is awesome. He is a good looking man and a delightful submissive. Just not the right gender for me.

Or Prince........for him I would go back to bi......


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 12:26:33 PM   
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Also OddJobbery, my guess is not everyone would want their partners to look like you.


Ouch? I never said they should - attractiveness and youth are very different things. No reason to get mean :O



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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 12:26:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sexisubi

In her defense, family is importent, and when no one else is there for you, your family is. If the family would not want their child to bringing home someone older and cut communication if they did, then i would support the disicion.


Perhaps this is true for you, but it is hardly a universal truth.  I've been having major life crises over the past year; another person might have committed suicide.  My family has specifically not been there for me and has informed me of such.  *I've* cut off communication with my mother because it is bad for my mental health.  So my choice of partner is definitely none of their concern.




Well in my defense, as it was aimed at me, my family mean everything to me, always have always will, i wouldnt want to loose them for anything, not that i think bringing someone much older home would do this but you know there has been enough crap go on for them that i really wouldnt want to add to it, im the eldest of four kids everything i do impacts on their lives.

Also i wanna get married and have kids and call me weird but i would like my partner to be young enough to watch them grow up and play games with them and all that malarchy. To be honest I dont think i have to justify my choices really, you can read what you want into whatever you want. I am just saying that yup age is a big deal, im 22 and thats young so maybe im just immature or sallow or whatever else people want to assume from what i wrote, i couldnt care less it is my life and i can pick my partners on what the hell i want.

I find very often in this subculture young submissive women go out with much older Dominant men i do think this comes from an idea of experiance more than compatability at times. Many younger girls who are with much older men will state they dont see it being long term, not all of course but many, most that I have met. See because its normally the other way round, young people are immature, not experianced whatever but you know older people dont ness have the same values as younger people either, they have lived they have found where they are and where they hope to go, not so much for young people and let me tell you the cynicism it brings can be draining.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 1:11:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: variation30

Just because you are the same age as someone does not mean you are from the same world they are.



I wish I'd paid more attention to this concept when I was in my early 20s.

Yes age matters when it comes to having a physical and emotional relationship, a basic friendship is where age doesn't matter for me.


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 2:35:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin


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ORIGINAL: moonvine

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ORIGINAL: sexisubi

In her defense, family is importent, and when no one else is there for you, your family is. If the family would not want their child to bringing home someone older and cut communication if they did, then i would support the disicion.


Perhaps this is true for you, but it is hardly a universal truth.  I've been having major life crises over the past year; another person might have committed suicide.  My family has specifically not been there for me and has informed me of such.  *I've* cut off communication with my mother because it is bad for my mental health.  So my choice of partner is definitely none of their concern.




Well in my defense, as it was aimed at me, my family mean everything to me, always have always will, i wouldnt want to loose them for anything, not that i think bringing someone much older home would do this but you know there has been enough crap go on for them that i really wouldnt want to add to it, im the eldest of four kids everything i do impacts on their lives.

Also i wanna get married and have kids and call me weird but i would like my partner to be young enough to watch them grow up and play games with them and all that malarchy. To be honest I dont think i have to justify my choices really, you can read what you want into whatever you want. I am just saying that yup age is a big deal, im 22 and thats young so maybe im just immature or sallow or whatever else people want to assume from what i wrote, i couldnt care less it is my life and i can pick my partners on what the hell i want.




I apologize.  I didn't mean to attack you or for you to have to defend yourself, and I realize many people's families are important to them; I'm sure mine would be if they were halfway supportive.  Sometimes I hate this medium.   I didn't mean for you to have to justify your choices at all.

Just saying that for me my family's opinion of my partners is of no importance, if they don't act right they may not even ever have the opportunity to meet them.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 3:18:41 PM   
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 4:39:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

oddjobbery, please don't let our words hurt you. I am 100% certain there is a woman that will take one look at you and think you are perfect for her. Your look, age, etc.......are exactly what turns her on. Just don't assume that your age and youthful appearance are BETTER than another's. Quite honestly, if I was into guys, there is a 50+ yo male submissive (that I think is now taken) who's demeanor, and just everything about him, is awesome. He is a good looking man and a delightful submissive. Just not the right gender for me.

Or Prince........for him I would go back to bi......



Yeah, I'd put Prince under the boot.... and Trent Reznor... or both Prince -and- Trent Reznor... Um... yeah... fixated... uh huh...

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 4:52:44 PM   
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Does it really matter to many what age a Dom or Submissive is in this lifestyle?

I believe fully that, as long as you're physically able to perform and you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on an emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks?  Does anyone else agree or disagree?



Yes.

A Domme that was half my age....I'd feel constantly compelled to remind her to remember to put her car tabs on.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 5:18:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: moonvine

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ORIGINAL: sexisubi

In her defense, family is importent, and when no one else is there for you, your family is. If the family would not want their child to bringing home someone older and cut communication if they did, then i would support the disicion.

Perhaps this is true for you, but it is hardly a universal truth.  I've been having major life crises over the past year; another person might have committed suicide.  My family has specifically not been there for me and has informed me of such.  *I've* cut off communication with my mother because it is bad for my mental health.  So my choice of partner is definitely none of their concern.



It was actually just a mear example, i actually lost communication with my father and my mother died when i was young, the chances of my sister ever meeting anyone i date is a rarity since she lives across the states.  i have been with someone who is 37 i was 18, (granted he was married so secrets had to be kept *face palm*). A difference between ages really doesn't matter. However, i feel it is importent to have an open mind on peoples choices, they make a choice who am i to judge if they are right or wrong! So personally i was just making room for discussion and pointing out no matter what the decision or the reason for the decision it should be excepted by outsiders looking in.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 5:56:43 PM   
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 6:19:23 PM   
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Actually, funny that you mention the Challenger, as someone brought that up in casual conversation just the other day.  We talked about how blase' we had gotten about space travel, and how none of us even knew it was going up until it exploded. Yet when we were kids in the late 60's, going to the moon was a HUGE deal.


Must be have something to do with the recession, I had a similar conversation recently.  Not so much abotu challenger itself, but the space program and the lack of wonder we experience in the world today.  While in the last 30 years we have seen much innovation toward improving existing technologies, little seems to be entirely new like the space race was.  If you look at 1900 to 1960 you have flight, radio communication, television, Sattelite technology, etc... you could go on and on!  Then you go after 70 and you can say, my TV got slearer, my cell phone smaller, and my computer got smaller and faster, but what is really NEW!  Maybe we really have been to content as a culture?

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 6:51:45 PM   
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Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or  Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?


i agree as long as the person is legal and fits with me like pieces in a puzzle

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 7:41:20 PM   
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What you are attracted to definately changes as you get older.


Unfortunately, that's not necessarily true, particularly for men.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 7:42:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

What you are attracted to definately changes as you get older.


Unfortunately, that's not necessarily true, particularly for men.






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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 7:58:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or  Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?



I find that age is irrelevant in most aspects of life. Having said that, most people have a certain type/age/look that does it for them in partner/SO/etc. and that may seem like some sort of ageism or age discrimiation. Personally, I could line up every man that I have found attractive and they would be the same person, just in different ages, sizes, but the same look and general build. It is the same for women I have been attracted to; age was just as irrelevant.
 
Honestly,
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 8:25:20 PM   
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I do not really care what age a slave is providing I am attracted to them, though I do think a persons age is generally telling of different attributes that I might not find appealing, like younger guys not being committed enough and older guys being too emotionally self indulgent.

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