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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

'tis a shame, for it is all of her own making..........

and yes coming from one intelligent ONLY makes it worse.


Happy Holidays John
to you and Libby...from my house to yours

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ORIGINAL: sweetwhisper

First of all - Merry Christmas!

fyreredsub, with all due respect, what does it matter if she believes that her ideas & views are better than yours or anyone elses? i mean, really, what does it matter? i have tried to follow these threads, both this one and the Straight Woman Blues one, and i try to read it as objectively as possible but i just don't understand where candystripper went wrong - how exactly did she offend anyone? Because she seeks "high monogamy"? Because she is not into bisexuality or into sharing and she may even find it repulsive - so what? It's her right to express her opinion about monogamy as it is others on here to express theirs on poly - i don't see why she should even appologize! Am i the only one that finds all of this incredibly ridiculous?

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perhaps its the contridictions...that come back....i know how i felt yesterday reading that non sexual play in a public scene was STILL cheating in her book...yet go look at the next page. hrrrrrrmp is ALL i have to say....she has lost more than friends ....respect..(course, ,lol old posts still stand pink)...this is the final straw for me ==this morning====plain BS is what it is...and it does show one thinking they are better than someone else and their ideas are better,,,so KoM and John are RIGHT

fyreredsub

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

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oopsies...i should have read further.....you caught that too, huh..............

enquiring minds to want to know.....pink...do tell, why is it ok for one and not the other....

of course, i have my own idea as to why.....lmfao

fyreredsub

There is no commonly-accepted definition of monogamy nor any common acceptance that monogamy is superior in any way to other patterns of living. So asking me why "one is ok and the other is not" is not especially interesting; i did answer however, in a previous thread.

i am more interested in "your" perceptions and definitions. That is what the Op was intended to elicit.

candystripper

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

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perhaps its the contridictions...that come back....i know how i felt yesterday reading that non sexual play in a public scene was STILL cheating in her book...yet go look at the next page. hrrrrrrmp is ALL i have to say....she has lost more than friends ....respect..(course, ,lol old posts still stand pink)...this is the final straw for me ==this morning====plain BS is what it is...and it does show one thinking they are better than someone else and their ideas are better,,,so KoM and John are RIGHT

fyreredsub

*Deep Sigh* Why was my request to afmvdp for mutual respect offensive? Why would it matter a whit what "i" would do if you and your Master are happy? Why does it matter if "i" would consider some behaviors acceptable and others not? i'm just a member here, searching like many other people. Knowing what i want helps me find it, but is no assurance it will appear soon.

Frankly i cannot understand all the hostility.

candystripper

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

'tis a shame, for it is all of her own making..........

and yes coming from one intelligent ONLY makes it worse.


Happy Holidays John
to you and Libby...from my house to yours

Happy Holidays... and a have a great year.

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It's hard to deal with someone who condescends and sets her positions up as being superior and then offhandedly apologizes and then does the same thing again. Eventually the apologies wear thin. If she wasn't a highly educated women, I could put it down to lack of awareness, but for someone with an advanced degree, that's hard to buy.

JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

One member accused me of posting Ops that were contrary to the generally-held values of the CM community.

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hmmmmmmmm more contridictions.......go back and read ur prior posts yesterday...u stated to me,,,that no sex, no bed, public play is cheating...so dont backpeddle to save whats left of your repution after your last 24 hours on these posts.

you are insulting the intelligence of those of us that participate and digging the whol;e deeper.

i wish you well in your search ...methinks you seriously need to consider what more than a handful of those of us that live this lifestyle 24/7 have brought to your attn....

i think that is where the problem lies and you stubbornly refuse to see and are only making things worse.

i wish you peace and health pink............i'm still amazed tho.

fyreredsub

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First of all - Merry Christmas!

fyreredsub, with all due respect, what does it matter if she believes that her ideas & views are better than yours or anyone elses? i mean, really, what does it matter? i have tried to follow these threads, both this one and the Straight Woman Blues one, and i try to read it as objectively as possible but i just don't understand where candystripper went wrong - how exactly did she offend anyone? Because she seeks "high monogamy"? Because she is not into bisexuality or into sharing and she may even find it repulsive - so what? It's her right to express her opinion about monogamy as it is others on here to express theirs on poly - i don't see why she should even appologize! Am i the only one that finds all of this incredibly ridiculous?

sweetwhisper

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

quote:

First of all - Merry Christmas!

fyreredsub, with all due respect, what does it matter if she believes that her ideas & views are better than yours or anyone elses? i mean, really, what does it matter? i have tried to follow these threads, both this one and the Straight Woman Blues one, and i try to read it as objectively as possible but i just don't understand where candystripper went wrong - how exactly did she offend anyone? Because she seeks "high monogamy"? Because she is not into bisexuality or into sharing and she may even find it repulsive - so what? It's her right to express her opinion about monogamy as it is others on here to express theirs on poly - i don't see why she should even appologize! Am i the only one that finds all of this incredibly ridiculous?

sweetwhisper

i have to say, i tend to agree with sweetwhisper. i do think people knew what i meant, but took umbrage as if i insulted them because i am not more "mainstream"; not poly; not bisexual. This is only underscored for me when people ascribe bad motives to me, and disregard my apologies.

Really, if what You do please You and harm no one, what difference does it make what someone writes on a message board?

And what sort of friend takes such umbrage at the use of a phrase (later clarified, and not carrying any bad connotations) that they would publically drop a friend? Even if the friendship had to end due to one party's anger, why do it publically?

candystripper

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b/c yesterday she posted that her version was diff than mine...ojk thats fine and well, i could accept that.....then last night she agreed w/ the exact same version of someone else....(which was the same as mine,mind u,same scenrio)
this liljoy caught it as well,but it is b/c it was MY version u see.
bottom line-she contridicated herself
and it all goes back to what John and KoM stated
edited to add....
i dont care what she believes....or wants it is the PRINCIPLE behind the postings to me that contradict what she stated to others as acceptable.

fyreredsub

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becaues your bias to the person that stated it(me) was involved,

if i wouldnt have read your words to someone else this morning ...the very same scenario acceptable, lmao...it would have been fine and dandy.

i dont have the time to go back and quote the posts, i have pies to bake..........

others have caught it as well.

good day

ps.edited...go do a post search of her old id, and see where i was trolled around after,lol,ecspecially concerning some posts of men w/ no profiles only stats....then read some she made under this id, about how she felt about men w/ no profiles only stats, more contridictions where i am concerned,it is not my imagination and this is off topic but it gives the background as to why i have had enough nonsense and feel the way i do about pink pleasures/candys contridications.enough good day folks and
may each and every one of you have a wonderful holiday

fyreredsub

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...the posts stand under your OLD id....it is fact for anyone to read.

or are you denying that you had another id one here, the one that went off the chain one and you then made this one?(remember when you deleted a bunch of your posts under that id?)

too many of us remember ................

you really need to think pink/candy...........about that
but who am i to give advice

edited to add, i'm stopping before you drag me into something that will get me moderated....

fyreredsub