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Midion -> I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 1:33:18 AM)
I'm new to being a Dom in a way. The dominance has always been their. I think it's been ingrained into my head every since I was a little kid. Just how my grandmother explained to me that a man is the head of the household and has certain responsibility as does his wife. The way she thinks is purely Dom/Sub. Life is simple it's either black or white. You either make a left at the fork of the road or you make a right. Growing up even when looking at porn the only porn that ever interested me was BDSM. I can even remember my brought on my first hard on. Me and one of my sisters friends were having a water balloon fight. She had on a T-shirt that just went past here panties. I sprayed her with the hose and ran towards me and grabbed it. In doing so she fell over my lap and I instinctively lowered the hose to my side just out of here reach. Which to my total surprise I noticed her shirt sliding up her ass. For some reason I just new I had to smack it. Over and over with her just squealing over my legs. Until came outside to see what all the noise was about. Brandy jumped as soon as my aunt opened the door. Face extremely read but the biggest smile I had ever seen on her face. She turned and ran home next thing I know my me that I'm going to have to have talk with my uncle. I soon realized that I had my first hard on. lol So ever since I was little spanking has turned me on. I guess the rest of my personality kinda went in the same direction. One of my uncles and one of my cousins contracted Aids a fews years apart from each other and died. So that made me decide against having sex until I was married. Then I joined the military and met this girl at a restaurant when going out with some friends. We went back to a hotel and my friends proceeded to start having sex with the girls they met. So I kinda just walked outside with a couple beers and figured I would drink. The the girl I met walked over to me and asked me to have sex. I said I just wanted to drink and that she didn't have to just because her friends where. Really the STD thought was just stabbing me in the back of the head. Really she looked attractive but she like most women it didn't seem like turned me on. Then she begged me but it was just the way that she looked and how she sounded that actually got my excited. I got a condom from my friend earlier so we just walked over to her car. I could the restrictiveness of being in the back seat was turning her on. She didn't have much room to move. After a while I thought I was getting soft so I started giving her commands and it was like popping Viagra for me. So from what I could tell from my first few sexually experiences. Is that the only thing that has ever actually turned me on is dominance. The only problem I see is that I want to officially become a Dom. learn what is safe and what isn't. I have had girls, want me to spank, choke, hold them down and fuck them. Ask me to piss on them(which I didn't do). It's just hard actually finding someone who is into being submissive. Especially with my getting deployed to Iraq every other year. Now i'm in Korea and it feels like I can finally breathe and think. So i'm mainly here to read and learn all I can from everyone else. It also is extremely comforting to know that i'm not only person out there that thinks like this. I also am only attracted to white women and now i'm realizing Asians. One more thing.... I don't like scat and needles. There are so many other things that I want to learn to. Like tying knots that won't cut off all the circulation, what sex toys are better for a beginner, and things that most Doms should know. There have been things that I have been asked to do that I didn't because I'm not trying to mess around and really hurt someone. Then again I have never had a long relationship ever. I move around to much. I plan staying here in Korea though for the next three years. Should I have posted this here?

sexisubi -> RE: I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 1:45:58 AM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_2302551/tm.htm i myself love rope bondage with my Master here is some helpful tips from those at collar me and those sites were a lot of fun. Here is a site i have bookmarked it has a lot of stuff to start you off on Your research. http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdlinks.html Welcome and good luck on discovering Yourself and your partners.

Midion -> RE: I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 1:52:34 AM)
Thank you for the links sexisubi.

Rover -> RE: I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 6:44:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Midion Should I have posted this here? Depends upon your motivations. As an advertisement, it's great. As a solicitation for resource material, it's gratuitous. John

RCdc -> RE: I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 8:21:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover quote: ORIGINAL: Midion Should I have posted this here? Depends upon your motivations. As an advertisement, it's great. As a solicitation for resource material, it's gratuitous. John Awww John, you say gratuitous like it's a bad thing.[;)] I have seen seasoned posters write more gratutiously than that - it's no biggie really, each to their own. As for the OP, Midion - welcome to the forums and read lots. And don't be fearful of participating. Learning what is 'safe' is a pretty subjective thing. Nothing is inherently safe and as long as you understand that every single thing you might participate in carries some form of risk, that's a big step. Just be responsible for your actions. I would recommend you look at this thread so you can have a look through some of the practical reading matter. It's not as good as hands on experience but it's a start. http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm the.dark.

Rover -> RE: I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 8:25:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark quote: ORIGINAL: Rover quote: ORIGINAL: Midion Should I have posted this here? Depends upon your motivations. As an advertisement, it's great. As a solicitation for resource material, it's gratuitous. John Awww John, you say gratuitous like it's a bad thing.[;)] I have seen seasoned posters write more gratutiously than that - it's no biggie really, each to their own. Nah, I didn't say it was good or bad. Just that it was gratuitous if the post was simply a request for resource material. Now if I had been asked whether it was good or bad.... :) John

RealSub58 -> RE: I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 8:28:24 AM)
http://www.seekers.org.uk/safety.htm This site has a pull out right sidebar that has most everything there is to learn. Find yourself a dominant mentor and have him assist you in your learning.

RCdc -> RE: I need to learn what's safe. (11/27/2008 8:29:57 AM)
[:)] the.dark.

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