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Lockit -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/29/2008 7:43:08 PM)

If I were to require this type of thing from my submissive, I would have to correct that type of thing and would have to focus on making sure he did the right thing, more than hearing what he was saying.  I am not only irritated by the slash speak... don't mind a capital here and there, but I have more important things to instruct him to do and monitor.  I am not a lazy dominant... but come on... there is more to life.  I would be more bothered by mis spelling that went too far.  Hell, I have my own spelling, grammar and brain cell issues... I don't need to monitor someone elses!



MsStarlett -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/29/2008 7:45:11 PM)

I never misspell anything.  Webster's changes the dictionary every time I find a 'creative' new way to spell anything with more than 5 letters.



Lockit -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/29/2008 7:46:06 PM)

LOL Works for me!



stella41b -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/29/2008 8:12:50 PM)

Capitalize it
Don't criticize it
Capitalize it yeah, yeah
And I will advertise it

Some call it protocol, some think it English
Some call it slashy speak, some of them call it gibberish

You've got to capitalize it
And don't criticize it
Capitalize it, yeah, yeah
And I will advertise it

Some dommes do it, and some submissives too
Capitalize it, if that's the best thing you can do

Femdoms do it, Goddesses do it
Slaves do it, even those with vanilla cones too

So you've got to capitalize it
Don't criticize it
Capitalize it, yeah, yeah
And I will advertise it

It tends to confuse, inhibits comprehension
Suggests delusions of grandeur, even megalomania

So you've got to capitalize it
And don't criticize it
Capitalize it, yeah, yeah
And I will advertise it

But some do it, some love it
Newbies do it, and the goddess loves to capitalize herself

So you've got to capitalize it
And don't criticize it
Capitalize it, yeah, yeah
And I will advertise it

inspired by Peter Tosh



SthrnCom4t -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/29/2008 9:31:05 PM)

I believe its a personal preference and not an expectation of this list in general. Proper grammar is a turn-on! <grin>

My personal preference is that it need only be used between partners if that's what they've negotiated. My submissive is in service to me, but not others. If he chooses to be deferential with others, that's his choice, but not a requirement. I don't require him to address me in that fashion, but he'll use it out of respect. I will capitalize a *Me*, or lower case Otter's name, when he and I are are chatting privately <but only occasionally>. Since the enounciation is lost, capitalization (or lack thereof) is our way of indicating when we've dropped into our respective 'spaces'. I sometimes capitalize *Me* in a post when making a point.

For the most part, I only use caps with partners with whom I've negotiated a power exchange. I have no expectation of it being used when I'm talking to anyone else, simply because I am conversing with an equal until otherwise negotiated.

I hope this helps clarify :)

Sthrn
Honorably served by OttersSwim



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 12:02:34 AM)

There is no universal protocol, and as such, I think everyone should try and communicate in relatively standard English, and leave protocols to specific relationships, and not subject everyone else to the capital/lowercase thing.    M



MsStarlett -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 7:06:54 AM)

I'm a dreadful speller.  I've got a touch of dyslexia and it just doesn't register in my brain that I've reversed letters.  The spell checker at home reminds me when I do things wrong.  That's cool.  But I absolutely will not stand for a sub to correct my spelling.



yourMissTress -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 7:27:34 AM)

 
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

Aww, but you know...I just sometimes cannot resist capitalizing She and Her.  Darn it, I revere Her, and I love Her, and it is She whom I serve...seems only fitting to give Her a cap darn it...crucify me if you must...


And me without my nail gun!  Bummer! [8D]


Lady H, you may use my hammer...



PatienceForHer -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 8:51:43 AM)

i do not over do it, but out of respect i do capitalize the "Y" in you when being respectful.  i also tend to use lower case when referring to myself.....this is just out of habit.

best,
lyz



mummyman321 -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 10:00:00 AM)

If you use proper English, you will do just fine and my guess its what most people perfer. The only time I do not use proper English is when I sign my name(small cap) is a letter to my Domme. I am not sure if I could take learning to write a new language! LOL. My spelling is bad enough as it is!



LadyPact -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 10:41:25 AM)

I almost kind of laugh when this topic comes up anymore.  Everybody familiar with Me on these boards knows I'm one of the biggest offenders on the cap thing.  I sit back and read the posts from folks who say they skip over those of us in the minority who do the protocol capping, and even worse <gasp> instruct our submissives to do it.  That proper English horse gets pretty high as some (not all) look down their noses at us protocol cappers.

Yet, darn near every time the subject comes up, I go back and look at those who say they skip over posts where Dominants cap themselves, and nine times out of ten it's someone who has said on the boards or written a private message to say they respected or admired something I wrote.  This leads Me to believe that the whole big deal about that huge capital "M" issue, isn't really that big of a deal at all.  Like undergroundsea said, it's more about the content than the capitalization. 

As to the OP, the answer is simple.  Do what your Dominant has instructed you to do.  Lacking that instruction, express yourself in the way that best fits you.  If that's proper English caps, protocol caps for the D and lowercase for you, third person speak, or any other way you want to write that conveys the message that's inside of you.  At the end of the day, that's usually more important than what other people think anyway.

From the desk of the imperfect, protocol capping Lady Pact.



Coupleofwhats -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 11:36:18 AM)

Third person talk weirds me out. It's so Silence of the Lambs.

And it must take forever to do the whole Y/you I/i W/we thing! Plus, it's annoying to read.



AlexandraLynch -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 1:36:34 PM)

My personal preference is for standard English. The only instance where I use capitals is as follows: "we", is the three of us as an equal triad who decide together about things that impact us as a triad.  "Do we all want to go down to the munch in Neighboring Town and socialize with some others in the lifestyle a bit?" Boy is perfectly free to say, "Can I go next month? I already know I have to work that day and I am pretty sure I'm just going to want to come home and veg out, not be social," just as either of the other two of us are. If I capitalize We, it is the two of us who are dominant and who have made a domly executive decision about something that is, by agreement up to us. "Go put on panties, We like the idea of you wearing them under your jeans at the munch."

Third person stuff....well, I'm not going to tell the Boy to do it. He submits to us his strength, wit, intelligence, personality, and will. That doesn't vanish when he takes Our collar, and becomes part of our marriage, any more than I stopped being a separate person the day I got married.

But of course, all this is my opinion, and everyone's got them.



moonvine -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 1:40:16 PM)

I don't skip people who cap or lowercase themselves...heh, that sounds bizarre.  I do tend to skip slash speak, especially if it is long paragraphs worth, because it really is difficult to read and gives me a headache.



PeonForHer -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 1:54:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

If I were to require this type of thing from my submissive, I would have to correct that type of thing and would have to focus on making sure he did the right thing, more than hearing what he was saying.  I am not only irritated by the slash speak... don't mind a capital here and there, but I have more important things to instruct him to do and monitor.  I am not a lazy dominant... but come on... there is more to life.  I would be more bothered by mis spelling that went too far.  Hell, I have my own spelling, grammar and brain cell issues... I don't need to monitor someone elses!


Well, I wouldn't worry, Lockit (not that you were, because I know you're not the worrying type [;)].)  I could only get into language aspects - including D/s protocol-language - if my domina were into them.  It'd have to come from her or it'd be nothing.

I'm still trying to massage my brain into coping with the idea of a "lazy dominant".  Those two words, strung together, raise a lot of half-formed questions.  Yet, I'll probably resolve them for myself once they're fully-formed - so you can feel free to breath out now.  I'd only say: for certain sorts of subs, such as myself and I dare say Mr Sea, from his past comments, a little language-play from the domina is a quick and very easy way of pressing multiple buttons.



Lockit -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 2:01:32 PM)

Playing with the buttons is good and I am not beyond playing with a few... hehe... but dang, don't I have enough in life to do than to have to research whether my grammar and spelling is perfected so that I can monitor his?  Heck... even I miss a cap on that i sometimes.  Doesn't do a darn thing to my buttons... but I get your point! lol



PeonForHer -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 2:13:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Playing with the buttons is good and I am not beyond playing with a few... hehe... but dang, don't I have enough in life to do than to have to research whether my grammar and spelling is perfected so that I can monitor his?  Heck... even I miss a cap on that i sometimes.  Doesn't do a darn thing to my buttons... but I get your point! lol


No, no, Lockit.  I don't mean things like that.  Grammar, schmamma; spelling, schmelling.  I'm saying it might feel silly to you to tell a man to call you "Ma'am" (or whatever) - but once you've seen the effect on certain men, you might be pleased enough with the result to think it worth it.  Possibly.  But, well, what do I know?  I guess it'd be fun to find out, anyway. [;)]



Lockit -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 2:21:40 PM)

Cap Me baby, cap Me... hehe... um... what am I exactly asking for here?

signed The Capped Dingy Domme

That doesn't work does it? hehe



PeonForHer -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 2:25:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Cap Me baby, cap Me... hehe... um... what am I exactly asking for here?

signed The Capped Dingy Domme

That doesn't work does it? hehe


Oh I don't know.  Give me time to think about it.  Hmmm. [;)]



bratb -> RE: To CAPITALIZE or not ? (11/30/2008 4:25:50 PM)

With all due respect,
 
 i would like to say that i am following my Mistress's instructions when i write . It is not because i wish for undeserved attention and grandstanding, nor do i wish to bore anyone and give them a headache [&:] .
 
Respectfully,
girl



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