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My perfect switch realtionship - 12/1/2008 12:59:42 PM

Dmon

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Some times I want you to own me,
control me,
let me know my place.

Sometimes I want to own you,
control you,
make you please me.

Sometimes I just want a partner in crime.
A confidant,
A lover.

Where are you? Will I ever find you?

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/1/2008 1:40:51 PM

lovingpet

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I understand these sentiments very well. This person you speak of is rare, but well worth the long journey. I wish you all the best!

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/1/2008 1:49:58 PM

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Those people are around. Most switches are alittle more dom or sub, very few are right in the middle. You probably need a signal when to switch and where. I've had very few partners that wanted to me to switch right in the middle of a scene but, it has happened. With some practice....the switching went seamlessly....

Most people tend to view switches as empowered, mouthy subs, you'll have to decide for yourself what your ideal relationship consists of.

Sage.

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/2/2008 12:10:41 AM

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Generally for me, power exchange flows in one direction, meaning, my personality is either Domme or sub, but never both, to the same person. This being the case, because I spend most of my time in Domme space, my primary, romantic partner is submissive. I also have a Dominant partner, who I see for a few days every other month or so when he's in town for business.

It took a long time to realize I wasn't 'bad' at either of these roles, but preferred to have outlets for both energies. I'm poly and operate with high integrity. As a result, the Universe has blessed me with perfect, complimentary partners.

Sthrn

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/3/2008 10:17:57 PM

Dalanius

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dmon

Some times I want you to own me,
control me,
let me know my place.

Sometimes I want to own you,
control you,
make you please me.

Sometimes I just want a partner in crime.
A confidant,
A lover.

Where are you? Will I ever find you?

Such magnificent, heavenly fallen angels on earth do exist. And the feathers of their wings are wonderfully aglow from the flames of hell that they have dared to touched.

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/4/2008 3:19:11 PM

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Jaz says

Tonight I waited naked (apart from heels) on all fours on the floor. I had a crop between my teeth and an expectation that Steve would be home any time now.
5 minutes and my knees were aching but I remained in the same postion knowing, hoping that he would be walking through that door at any moment. 10 minutes passed and I thought about getting up, thowing on a black leather mini and waiting behind the door with the crop in my hand but I didn't.
20 minutes and my knees were now well and truly buried into the shagpile rug I was perched upon. My wrists ached and I dribbled sliver from my mouth where the crop was still held between my teeth.
I heard his key in the door and I waited silently, hoping he would head straight for the bedroom. He did and 3 hours later he is allowing me to take a break.

Tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow it could be me walking through that door and hoping for a little surprise from Steven.

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/9/2008 11:29:52 PM

njin

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lovely image Jaz & Dmon - If you find (her?) can I have (her?) number please ;¬D

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/11/2008 9:40:47 AM

Dmon

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Lol njin. You'll have to find your own.

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/12/2008 2:31:39 AM

SteveAndJaz

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Dmon I understand your plight......... at least I do now.

I was always Dominant, always had male/female subs. I had a masochistic streak in me but had never truly submitted to anyone.
I looked at switches as being a little odd!. I thought they were none serious players or just confused!
I sometimes dominated switches and laughed at the thought of them ever trying to dominate me.
Besides all that I played on the edge. I dabbled deeply into fear play, hardcore interrogations and sometimes ruthless pain. How could I possibly take what I gave?

When I met Stephen it was to explore my masochism and possibly my submissive side. I quickly saw his sadistic side but his need to dominate was subtle and reassuring. He told me that he could never submit, that he didn't like pain.

We now both play to extremes on both sides of the fence. We can switch with ease within a session.

I have never known life like this. I never knew this could all be so good, so honest and so real.

There are many of us out there Dmon but some of us are just unaware.

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RE: My perfect switch realtionship - 12/12/2008 10:55:46 AM

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I list myself as a dominant because I am 90% dominant, but every so often I would like to feel what its like to submit to another. In the vanilla world I treat relationships as equal. So I understand where you are coming from and wish you the best on your search. I have given up searching for anyone in the lifestyle except as friends. Too many fakes and disappointments. Like the song by Brad Paisley its easy to be cool online but its who you meet in the real world that matters. I do hope you find that one you can makes you happy.

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