CallaFirestormBW
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ORIGINAL: bratb Would many of Yyou see these actions as " protocols " politeness , or both ? Aall answers appreciated . Respectfully, girl The difference, for me, between simple courtesy and a "protocol" is whether or not it is a formal requirement/patterned style requested by the dominant. If it is done simply out of courtesy, without any formal rule in place, it is courtesy. If the dominant individual requires it, and tells the servant what and how xhe is to fulfill, it is a protocol. In our household, we use several of the things mentioned. We inform our servants, prior to events, whether they are to walk at 'heel' (two steps behind and to the left of us, behind our left heel) or are free to walk beside us, and whether they must remain at heel when we stop, or are allowed to leave our side. We inform them whether they may eat at will (both at home and away), or whether they must wait for us to eat first OR wait to be fed by one of us, by hand. These, for us, are protocols. We tell our servants exactly how they are to behave under certain circumstance, and the requirements are uniform for any servant. It is expected that our servants will open doors, hand us from vehicles, carry items, etc., as a courtesy. This we consider 'courtesy/good manners' for a servant. There is no standing 'rule' that one -has- to do so, and, if a servant is otherwise occupied or already working on something else at our command, we may even understand hir neglect of such courtesies . However, it is up to each servant how xhe will express such courtesies, so we do not consider this a 'protocol', per se.
< Message edited by CallaFirestormBW -- 12/2/2008 11:17:56 AM >
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