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Sakone -> Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 10:27:09 AM)

Hello I am Sakone, my real name is Kyle. I am a dom, that has learned a small amount from a dom in the past in person. I often give advice, and find it hard for me to take my own at times. I am looking for maybe some books, or advice on how to aid me in my learning. I am young this I know, and I know I want to be a dom. I have a sub that wishes to learn with me, and wish to be the best I can.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 10:39:01 AM)

Here's a short list of books.  You can find lots more on Amazon.com.
 
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism: Philip Miller, Molly Devon
The Loving Dominant: John Warren
The Topping Book: Or, Getting Good at Being Bad: Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual: Christina Abernathy
Training with Miss Abernathy: Christina Abernathy



slaveforsure -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 10:46:32 AM)

Two others:
                Different Loving- Gloria Brame
                Sensuous Magic- Patrick Califia



Sakone -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 10:52:14 AM)

Thank you to the both of you. I am happy that someone has answered this to aid me. 



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 10:56:21 AM)

You're welcome.  Just take your time and have fun.  Learning about each other is half the enjoyment.



Sakone -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 11:01:56 AM)

I have been having fun learning, and at times when punishments happen, I think I baby often with the aloe going on, even when there is no cuts, and is only a slightly dark shade of red. 



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 12:04:18 PM)

Don't forget the Vitamin E.  It's good for softening and healing skin.



Sakone -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 12:45:43 PM)

I haven't forgotten about that either also put some cocobutter on as well.



MasterTslave -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 7:05:08 PM)

Try looking up best slave training on google...some great advice on there...and it is free :)



porcelain26 -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 9:13:40 PM)

Along with The Topping Book, I recommend The Bottoming Book by the same authors. It gives killer insight into a sub's head and might help a lot...when I read the books, I got more out of reading The Topping Book than I did The Bottoming Book for this exact reason.



Sakone -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/2/2008 10:02:07 PM)

Thank you all for your help.



MadRabbit -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/3/2008 7:33:12 AM)

I would figure out what exactly being a dominant means to you and what your own lifestyle is all about. Is it about having a power based relationship where you hold the authority over your intimate partners life? Is it about a series of scenes involving S/M? Is it about adding a fantasy or roleplaying element to an egalitarian relationship?

Once you can answer that, then you can figure out what books to read and what information to look for. I suggest "reading everything" with a grain of salt, because everything is different and you will end up with a whole mesh of confusing ideas about what this "lifestyle" is about that aren't consistent with each other.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Needing some advice on things. (12/3/2008 7:52:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sakone

Hello I am Sakone, my real name is Kyle. I am a dom, that has learned a small amount from a dom in the past in person. I often give advice, and find it hard for me to take my own at times. I am looking for maybe some books, or advice on how to aid me in my learning. I am young this I know, and I know I want to be a dom. I have a sub that wishes to learn with me, and wish to be the best I can.


I am curious to know what problems you are seeking to overcome, without that recommending books to help seems rather pointless.



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