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tkenslve -> RE: Face slapping (1/7/2006 12:48:40 PM)

i love it. No matter how hard or soft He slpas me, it never fails to put me into a yummy headpsace. i know that there are times when i even lean into them.



slavejali -> RE: Face slapping (1/7/2006 2:00:31 PM)

i like the shock value of having my face slapped, saying that, if it happened too often the effect wouldnt be the same.



browneyesE -> RE: Face slapping (1/7/2006 3:01:25 PM)

He hit me lightly in the face with a sock one day, that was the first time and was just a joke till he saw how excited i got just from that... grins... He can slap my face anytime.



Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Face slapping (1/7/2006 3:51:45 PM)

I first had my face slapped last year. It took me to a little girl space immediately, which was good.
Then after seeing my reaction, it got added to the repetoire of 'tricks' to drop me. Only after about the 5th occurance, it losts its original effect. In learning theory, it became extinguised.
So really only worked the first couple of times. Now by say, 5th occurance, it just makes me want to stop the whole scene, and crack him back.
I dont of course.
Used to work, now doesnt. hey ho.
It seems to of evolved to a technique that forces me to demo my submission, he is aware of how my new reactions are being controlled by me at his bequest. And that works for him. If it works for him, and ups the anti that way, then it works for me.
But its a edgy one.



firefey -> RE: Face slapping (1/7/2006 4:27:40 PM)

i enjoy slapping. mostly as fun, but i have used it to help control a mouthy sub. it only took one application for her to get what i was after.

as for why it's humiliating...i think it has something to do with the force. men are supposed to be punched, they are strong, they can take it. but women have to be treated gently. also slaps are often portrayed as a way to get an histerical woman to calm down and go back to behaving. most women find they have an almost visceral reaction to it.

yes, a medium to hard slap can do damage. jaw dislocation, tissue damage, nerve damage, fractures to the teeth, fractures of the eye socket, retinal shearing, and damage to the ear are all possible. there are many medical articles that talk about the effects of slaps on the face.

i look at it like i look at nearly all edge play. if i know what the potential damage is, and my partner knows about it, and we are both fine with the possibility then we procede. it's like breath play in that there really aren't safe ways, just danger reduced ways. still, if it gets you hot, and you're ok with the risk factor...



Chris123 -> RE: Face slapping (1/8/2006 11:43:53 PM)

Oh yes, I would like it. Not interested in the psychological reason as to why at this point but there's my two cents. Face-slapping = A-OK



Rayne58 -> RE: Face slapping (1/9/2006 3:05:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: justheather


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rayne58

I feel it is degrading and disrespectful.


You say that like it's a bad thing. ;-)



To me it is. I've never had my face slapped and have no desire to. It doesn't push my buttons, in fact the thought of it just leaves me cold. I've never been physically abused, but the emotional abuse I went through in my marriage (nilla) makes me want to avoid anything that "invades" my personal space and rocks my self esteem. Humiliation (apart from gentle teasing from Master, in private) is a hard limit for me.



mellowone -> RE: Face slapping (1/9/2006 5:44:54 AM)

I hate it. It takes me to an awful headspace.

The last top I played with knew that I hate it, and did it any way. I was hurt more by his disrespect for me than by the slap.

mellow



Nuke718 -> RE: Face slapping (1/9/2006 10:22:47 AM)

As a bottom, I have had one partner who slapped my cheek. She did it for 2 reasons, the sting/shock/humiliation and to get me to focus on her. Worked well for both.

I have never done this while topping tho. First is the social stigma of it, and the fact thatsome women aretotally against it. But also I have the inexperience factor. I suppose if I was with a partner who had exlicitly OK'd face slapping in a scene, I would be willing to try it out. You dont get experience by just watching huh, LoL.

N }:-



amayos -> RE: Face slapping (1/9/2006 11:10:33 AM)

I LOVE slapping, and I can't tolerate a submissive who declares this a hard limit.

Having said that, I take care not to hit the ears when I slap. Best to cradle the face in one hand and slap with the other in good care.




Mercnbeth -> RE: Face slapping (1/9/2006 11:11:56 AM)

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Subs & bottoms do you enjoy this activity or is it a hard limit for you?


ah, the wonderful concept of INTENT. If Master lost control of Himself and slapped this slave in the face out of anger, this slave would have a distinctly different feeling about it which cannot be described as something she would enjoy--however, as part of sex or play or sex play, a very definite YUM.

as someone who had her face slapped as a form of punishment as a child and also as a reaction to this slave's opinion when in a previous vanilla relationship, it helped this slave a great deal to modify her reaction to this activity(and others that those in the Western culture are generally repulsed by) by reading the "Kama Sutra" and meditating on it's wisdom.

quote:

"...passionate gestures, acts or movements which are born of sexual desire and excitement cannot be defined. They are as ephemeral as dreams..." orig: Kama Sutra~Vatsyayana



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