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spanker92 -> punishments (12/28/2005 12:13:51 PM)

I use severe and painful canings for violations of my rules for punishment. If my sub wants a spanking then I start light and build to where my sub would like to go. For real pain sluts, I withhold a spanking when they do not behave. For you subs, is there other kinds of punishment that are equally effective in changing your behavior.





nephandi -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 12:23:23 PM)

it will wary form person to person, some pepole, not just pain sluts, shrug of pain, it hurt while it hurt then it is over, done, nothing to care aboute, while others trule fear it, some will react well to cornor time, getting sendt early to bed and so on, one realy must know the person one is trying to punish to know what to do.



KatyLied -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 12:49:19 PM)

Ignore me. Or give me severe pain or discomfort where you know I hate it. That's good (?) enough for me.



miticantenslaved -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 12:55:45 PM)

miti greets Y/you...a simple "you have disappointed Me" is the worst punishment miti can imagine, or has had...*shudders* that one simple statement always sears her soul

~miti



newflowers -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 1:44:40 PM)

i don't like pain and i do not like punishment - not at all. when i have earned punishment, i would rather have a quick ouch that hurts and be done with it. the very worst punishment is to be ignored - that is terrible.

the worst punishment is subjective - for the receiver and the giver i would imagine as well.

-a-



ownedjulia -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 1:59:22 PM)

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the worst punishment is subjective - for the receiver and the giver i would imagine as well.



Indeed and a punishment is NOT always about pain either.




FelinePersuasion -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 2:00:05 PM)

I refuse to do ignoring as a punishment, ignoreing me is grounds for me to leave the dom. and breaking off all agreements previously had. It's not an effective punishment for me and just alienates me.


Not that it adds anything pertinant to the worst punishment topic just me jabbering cause I can hehehe



veronicaofML -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 2:06:46 PM)

i keep hearing over and over...everyone talks about..start light and build up.

wish i knew what that was.
my Ms cuts in hot n heavy from the get go.
aint no slack.
She dont take prisoners.

i hear a lot about a lot of things..that "I" have yet to see...

most confusing AND frustrating...
when i get my ass beat there is no such thing as slow n easy. i am still trying to grasp..after care?
exactly what do YOU call it..or better,,, how do YOU do it?
i have to just get up and get dressed...explain please....



take care



fastlane -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 2:19:12 PM)

I think Spanker needs his ass whupped.....good!
For being so arrogant....sub's line up...you go first and I'll finish his Ass off!



sweetpettjenny -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 6:29:39 PM)

hmmm i thought punishment wasn't supposed to be what i like...
quote:

ORIGINAL: spanker92

I use severe and painful canings for violations of my rules for punishment. If my sub wants a spanking then I start light and build to where my sub would like to go. For real pain sluts, I withhold a spanking when they do not behave. For you subs, is there other kinds of punishment that are equally effective in changing your behavior.







Nendarye -> RE: punishments (12/28/2005 6:32:58 PM)

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For you subs, is there other kinds of punishment that are equally effective in changing your behavior.


Master always sits me down first; we then talk about the reasons WHY I am misbehaving. His disappointment during those talks is more than enough to make me realize that I have hurt him deeply. That is usually all the punishment he needs because it makes me look at myself, and find what is causing the behavior. No punishment can ever equal the disappointment that is on his face at those times.



fyreredsub -> RE: punishments (12/29/2005 6:02:47 AM)

oh me yes.........master silence gets to me more than anything but for the most part he takes the time to correct my thinking when i am offbase


quote:

ORIGINAL: spanker92

I use severe and painful canings for violations of my rules for punishment. If my sub wants a spanking then I start light and build to where my sub would like to go. For real pain sluts, I withhold a spanking when they do not behave. For you subs, is there other kinds of punishment that are equally effective in changing your behavior.







littleone35 -> RE: punishments (12/29/2005 7:05:56 AM)

I agree with what others said knowing i displeased him is usually punishment enough. Of course after he explains to me why i am going to get punished it is usually a spanking. He used a different insturment for a punishment spanking and a play spanking never used the punishment paddle in play and i could feel the difference.

littleone



newflowers -> RE: punishments (12/29/2005 10:55:27 AM)



quote:

I refuse to do ignoring as a punishment, ignoreing me is grounds for me to leave the dom. and breaking off all agreements previously had. It's not an effective punishment for me and just alienates me.


You get to choose your punishmnets!?!?!?!?!?!!!!! I don't get to choose, I get to accept and preferably accept with both alacrity and grace. I once had to choose a punishment - it was from between, nasty, horrible, and evil options - no thank you very much.

The point of punishment is that you're not supposed to like it.

-a-



KatyLied -> RE: punishments (12/29/2005 11:07:54 AM)

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It's not an effective punishment for me and just alienates me.


I think punishment should yield feelings of alienation.



kalstolyn -> RE: punishments (12/29/2005 5:09:50 PM)

You need to draw the line between play and abuse, m'dear... it's not all about your Ms. It's about you too.



kalstolyn -> RE: punishments (12/29/2005 5:13:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

I think Spanker needs his ass whupped.....good!
For being so arrogant....sub's line up...you go first and I'll finish his Ass off!


I completely agree (aside from the irritatingly misused apostrophe that seems to be fastlane's OTHER trademark [:D])

As for effective punishments.... logical consiquences are much more effective than arbitrary punishments, in my opinion.



fastlane -> RE: punishments (12/29/2005 6:34:48 PM)

spanker..I have a new punishment..."Hot chocolate on the penis"....tis the time of the season?...so, open that fly and enjoy...., I know you will....Spanker BOY

xo, kevin



MasterLark -> RE: punishments (12/30/2005 3:20:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: spanker92

I use severe and painful canings for violations of my rules for punishment. If my sub wants a spanking then I start light and build to where my sub would like to go. For real pain sluts, I withhold a spanking when they do not behave. For you subs, is there other kinds of punishment that are equally effective in changing your behavior.



Enforced silence teaches obedience for many.



addcted2it -> RE: punishments (12/30/2005 5:58:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kalstolyn

You need to draw the line between play and abuse, m'dear... it's not all about your Ms. It's about you too.


A very good point. I was just going to add that punishment without at least some measure of aftercare does not sound very healthy at all to me. Of course, who am I to criticize anyone else's lifesyle?

- addcted2it



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