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Timoty -> RE: 3 Red FLags (12/12/2008 9:07:25 PM)
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There are so many good answers here, and, all of them when applied in hinsight are perfect. The problem is we live in the moment, without hindsight's wisdom. I agree with Lockit in that the answer lies within yourself. If you are feeling vulnerable, you probably are. If you are feeling misused, you probably are. If you are feeling that something just isn't right, it probably isn't. The trick is to ignore the outside influences and actually listen to the signals inside yourself. In my expereince these messages are always there whether I listen to them or not is up to me.
Another thing is the intent of listening to the signs. If we apply them for the wrong reasons such as to prove someone wrong, or, to do harm to them, or, to get revenge, or, to name call, then their effectiveness is lost. We are putting our own outward human biases and restrictions on the very thing inside of us used to protect ourselves. Our instinct is tainted and ineffective when we tarnish it in this way.
At first I was going to admonish you for using the word Fake in your question because in a different forum you said:
Can someone tell me why most men Don't look at it that way .. and calls us fakes when they are mad or they don't get their way or even post it in their profiles ?
Sunny
But instead of admonishment I think the advise above is more appropriate. Trust your instinct in these matters but be careful not to turn them ineffective by your own blindness to your motives. Keep your mind clear and free of bullshit and your instincts will serve you well.
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