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crazyredhead1957 -> ppunishment (12/18/2008 4:54:17 PM)
Okay. I am a sub new to D/s two months ago, & I would like to ask the Masters a question. This is the situation......when I first came onto this site, like with any other dating site, I was seeing more than one Person. Master M (that I was very taken with) got pissed & dropped me when He found out. So I was left w/ the Master D, who I was also very taken with. Then Master D said He was going to have me f*ck His DOG and I bolted away from Him as fast as possible, as we had already discussed my Hard Limits & the fact that I would NEVER do bestiality & He had agreed to that. Then I crawled and pleaded, begged and cried, back to Master M, BEGGING Him to take me back & He did after two days of my squirming and stressing over it (which I deserved and more). Then Master M asked me what I thought my punishment should be. So I am asking You all, what would You do to punish a sub that did what I did? Please, I want to know.

silkncarol -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 5:16:09 PM)
hummmm...i'm trying to figure out exacty what it is you're being punished for? Did you lie to Master M?

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 5:23:38 PM)
Me personally, my punishment would be to not take you back. Then again, I am not a Master...lol

crazyredhead1957 -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 5:36:38 PM)
I didn't tell Master M I was seeing Him AND Master D. When MasterM found out, he was pissed..

Usako -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 5:57:18 PM)
Honestly, if someone did that to me I probably wouldn't deal with them again. But, if I felt so inclined and attracted to the person to consider, I'd probably make them write a nice essay detailing why even when casually flirting/dating/etc they should be HONEST that they're playing the field until ready to settle in. Among other things of course, but that is the key issue I think the person should learn from the situation.

DesFIP -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 5:58:30 PM)
You are being punished for not committing to exclusivity until you were ready to do so? Sorry, I'd say your punishment is self inflicted by continuing to see someone who is this childish. He wants to punish you for not trusting him, and this will teach you to trust him how?

Aylee -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 5:58:46 PM)
Was this all in person or just online? Were you actually in a relationship or were you just "dating?"

came4U -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 7:05:16 PM)
2 months fresh and 2 masters already? what am I doing wrong..........or should I say 'right'? [8\|] Besides, lying/cheating or getting caught lying by 2 Masters is no way to have a reputable footing in the lifestyle. Eventually you run into someone who knows so-n-so, who knows such-n-such. Two months in and you already have havok, ever consider just wading the waters for a bit?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 7:38:01 PM)
Can you tell Master D to email me?

SirMIkeSD -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 8:53:08 PM)
How involved with both of these Masters where you, how many times had you seen them. Had you discussed committing to just him? There are all of these questions that need answering first. If this is all online and you have not even meet these Masters yet, get over it. Mike

marie2 -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 9:00:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyredhead1957 I didn't tell Master M I was seeing Him AND Master D. When MasterM found out, he was pissed.. Did you have an agreement of monogamy with Master M?

NuevaVida -> RE: ppunishment (12/18/2008 11:03:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Can you tell Master D to email me? LOL Literally spit my water out. Love ya, LA!!!

agirl -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 1:31:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Can you tell Master D to email me? Get in line, this one's mine.

agirl -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 1:34:44 AM)
I'm not at all clear what you're being punished for. You've only known both for a matter of weeks........what do you owe and why? Regards, agirl

crazyredhead1957 -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 3:54:52 AM)
I had seen MasterM a half a dozen times and MasterD was strictly on-line.......and I was still deciding, although MasterM & I had discussed committing. Although in retrospect, why was there even a problem decding? MasterM was wondrful & a sure thing and who knows if I would ever have actually met MasterD.....He kept putting it off. Live and learn I guess.

mc1234 -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 4:06:19 AM)
You'd only discussed committing with Master M, but weren't committed yet? Then what is he punishing you for?

natasha66 -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 5:34:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP You are being punished for not committing to exclusivity until you were ready to do so? Sorry, I'd say your punishment is self inflicted by continuing to see someone who is this childish. He wants to punish you for not trusting him, and this will teach you to trust him how? Grown men acting like children.....ICK. I'd be SOOO outta that situation.

sblady -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 6:27:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP You are being punished for not committing to exclusivity until you were ready to do so? Sorry, I'd say your punishment is self inflicted by continuing to see someone who is this childish. He wants to punish you for not trusting him, and this will teach you to trust him how? The above-referenced quote cannot be repeated enough. I don't see where you said you were committed to M. I had a few highhanded Dominants that felt I should immediately stop communicating with others upon our first e-mail correspondence. That will never happen as I'm an adult and can speak with whomever I choose. Unbelievable. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] Edited to state: I don't mind highhanded Dominants if we have a commitment. [:D]

sunshinemiss -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 7:32:19 AM)
to the OP: Just cause a man says he is a Master, doesn't in fact make him one. Welcome to the world of online. And ummmm would you commit to a vanilla relationship this quickly? I'm with the folks of - why are you being punished? You are not doing anything wrong as far as I can tell. And if things were so wonderful, why would you be searching for "Dominant Men" as your profile indicates? And by the way, a man who gets pissed and drops you because you did something he didn't like instead of talking it over with you... well ummm why do you want this guy? Sounds like sub frenzy to me! Good luck, sunshine

Focus50 -> RE: ppunishment (12/19/2008 10:50:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyredhead1957 Okay. I am a sub new to D/s two months ago, & I would like to ask the Masters a question. This is the situation......when I first came onto this site, like with any other dating site, I was seeing more than one Person. Master M (that I was very taken with) got pissed & dropped me when He found out. So I was left w/ the Master D, who I was also very taken with. Then Master D said He was going to have me fck His DOG and I bolted away from Him as fast as possible, as we had already discussed my Hard Limits & the fact that I would NEVER do bestiality & He had agreed to that. Then I crawled and pleaded, begged and cried, back to Master M, BEGGING Him to take me back & He did after two days of my squirming and stressing over it (which I deserved and more). Then Master M asked me what I thought my punishment should be. So I am asking You all, what would You do to punish a sub that did what I did? Please, I want to know. Count me in as another who doesn't actually see why you should be punished IF* he takes you back. Backtracking a bit, I'm with Master M in that I won't involve myself with subs who are "playing the field". But I don't get pissed about it - you're an adult entitled to your own choices just as I'm entitled to mine of not competing. And any perceived "newbie inexperience" doesn't cut it for me because you're still mature enough to appreciate most people don't like being put in active competition with another. I'll fight for what's mine but if something was never mine to start with, I quickly lose interest.... Back to my opening sentence re punishment.... If you were never mine to begin with, then you can do nothing I'm entitled to punish you over - bottom line! I'd have simply bid you a polite farewell. Though I've never personally done it, the act of taking you back implies you both start with a clean slate. So it's now Master M's turn to display immaturity, apparently.... Focus.**

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