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came4U -> RE: Relationship Health (12/20/2008 1:36:48 PM)
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Everyone is defending the man in this situation.
I'm not going to defend the girlfriend, but I have to say, I don't think this man will get very far with any relationship while he's still stuck on his ex.
And well, as long as he has his cake and eats it too, he's going to do it.
Like ALL men.
I don't consider any of this 'stuck' it is called having um's and despite it being over...he sticks with his responsibilities. What cake? I doubt the ex and him swoon all over eachother as one's imagination might take that they do.
Not ALL men are monsters lol.
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have seen very little of what she's said about him actually IN his character over the past year we've spent together. I see him lie to her, but he's seen me lie to my parents as well, and neither of us are dishonest with eachother.
People change, some even learn from mistakes they made in the past. Maybe, even she didn't see what a dick he was for 3 years,,..ever consider that?
He lies to her? He makes you lie? oh sure, and you expect him to be honest to you? LOLOL
A lie is a lie is a lie. If one can do it easily to a cashier at a convenience store, they can lie easily to anyone. Lying to people you supposedly care for, even worse, making others lie...IMPOSSIBLE if that person has any fortitude and morals.
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My problem is in the fact that he does so much for HER, that has absolutely NOTHING to do with the kids... I understand paying the house payment, and the bills and stuff, to keep a roof over their heads and stuff... and he does that. He's a very good dad. I just believe that he needs to keep the peace, take care of his kids, and that should be it.
Yanno, my ex bf married in May to a nice gal. This is his first marriage, her second. She gets what I used to have: the big house, the cars, the jewelry, the time, the attention. He still pays my bills (rent, cable, phone, hydro etc etc) he also buys my clothes and my son's (he was a stepdad, not his natural father). Also, dental bills/eyedoc subsciptions and if I need it (very rarely) a fist full of cash.
Years after our breakup and before he met her, he would be here by afternoon if I had called him in the morning because I needed something (which was rare). Now, since they are both very busy people at work and socially, I am lucky to get them on any average weeknight to answer the phone., if not, I leave a message. Sometimes they return my call after a few hours, few days or even weeks. I have their cell numbers, I have yet to use them, no emergencies have come up.
Her and I socialize when we can, with eachother or doing other things. When a cool job position comes up, she lets me know, we go to interviews together, she picks me up, we then go out to eat.
Point is, I EXPECT her to come first. She is his wife. She is deserving of his time money and attention. He may have a lot of money to spare to pass around but if she was a truly evil person she would have put her foot down a long time ago. I chose him, he is a decent human being, he now chose her, she is a good person also.
I think my point is...MATURITY....maybe you chose the wrong situation or you can't handle the big girl responsibility of being a woman worthy of being calm in a crisis. Either way, you can't put blame on other people for their falsehoods and lies when you have been swept into it knowingly and acceptingly. You now live them. I believe your life has to do a lot with the choices you make and you chose him. He is an immature liar who chose another immature liar. Good luck with that.
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