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what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 1:16:06 PM

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hi i am new here and need some help. my husband wants to be my master. i know that one's likes vary, but if you masters out there can tell me what you like, maybe it will help me please my master.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 2:39:04 PM

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Steak. I like steak. Rare, usually, and if it's cooked over an open flame, all the better. A nice red wine and some sauteed mushrooms are a nice compliment. Of course that's just me. Other "masters" opinions will certainly vary.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 3:04:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

Steak. I like steak. Rare, usually, and if it's cooked over an open flame, all the better. A nice red wine and some sauteed mushrooms are a nice compliment. Of course that's just me. Other "masters" opinions will certainly vary.

Take care of yourself

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Replace the wine with a good hard fruit cider and this is the surest way to my dominant partner's heart too :)

Good advice, there

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 6:05:01 PM

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Hello,

A woman who can kill with her bare hands, gut with her teeth, cook after making a fire with two sticks, and serve me African wildebeest with a nice Australian merlot, looks great in a cheerleaders outfit, and owns plenty of duct tape works for me.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 6:27:22 PM

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Yes, well, she asked a good question, I thought she deserved a little unvarnished honesty. *wink*

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 6:30:13 PM

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The world would literally cease to rotate without you boys in it.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 6:43:14 PM

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horneywifey,

Let me give you an example. I was with somebody I would go out wandering around with and she would go "ooo"
at things.

Two weeks later I would get this excited phone call at work because she found what she had said ooo about gift
wrapped in her sock drawer as a surprise.

Or I would kidnap her and drive her someplace for an exotic weekend, perhaps camping in the mountains with
plenty of rope and a boy scout manual to try all the knots.

Sometimes, she would meet me at the door naked with my dinner waiting and a glass of red wine and insist on pleasing me
orally after dessert. Or I would find her pussy flogger in my brief case at work, and know I didnt put it there.

While I suppose you can ask other Masters what they like, I would throw the question back at you and ask you
what he likes? To me, it really is not rocket science, since what is required is for you to watch his reactions to
things and eventually you will be able to please him completely.

Or, if that is too much work, you could simply ask...

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 8:09:23 PM

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Sinergy,
Wonderful points!! i think far too many fail to pay close attention to see how a person reacts.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/9/2004 11:48:09 PM

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I don't understand why he isn't telling you what he likes. Wouldn't that be easier than having you guess?

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 3:18:19 AM

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I agree with Estring

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I don't understand why he isn't telling you what he likes. Wouldn't that be easier than having you guess?

I'm not a master and have no advice. The ones here might tell you what THEY like. Unless your husband is perverseangelic (

), you could be really mistaken applying specifics to you husband.

For Example let's assume you get told toe sucking by the wife is always pleasing. You try it. Your husband may not be into toe sucking and is repelled by the very thought.

In short, ask your husband.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 9:04:57 AM

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I concur. If you want to know play into the submissive roll and tell him that you wish him to order your around a bit more. You'll probably shock him into excitement and at the same time get to know what he wants and expects of this new avenue in your relationship.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 11:39:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hornywifey

hi i am new here and need some help. my husband wants to be my master. i know that one's likes vary, but if you masters out there can tell me what you like, maybe it will help me please my master.

Shouldn't you be asking him what he likes?

Just a shot in the dark...

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 11:43:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leonidas

Steak. I like steak. Rare, usually, and if it's cooked over an open flame, all the better. A nice red wine and some sauteed mushrooms are a nice compliment. Of course that's just me. Other "masters" opinions will certainly vary.

Take care of yourself

Leonidas

Ahhh yes... Steak is even better if a slave rides the cow out to the table and waits, kneeling at my feet as I carve off my own piece of meat.

Eating raw meat and watching NHL Highlight films

Good head.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 7:16:21 PM

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You know, having to tell my submissive what I like takes all the fun out of it.

I like to be surprised. I like to know she cares enough about me to pay attention
to what I say and what I do and what I go ooo at.

I might mention a few things I like, but if I have to add telling her what I like to the
list of things I have to keep track of, it is easier to just not bother sometimes.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 7:21:35 PM

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Ahhh yes... Steak is even better if a slave rides the cow out to the table and waits, kneeling at my feet as I carve off my own piece of meat.

Eating raw meat and watching NHL Highlight films

Sometimes I'm SO glad to be a vegetarian! (3 down football is much more exciting than 4 down ball too. :p )

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 10:16:31 PM

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From this post and your post before, it sounds like you are unfamiliar with the lifestyle. This isn't a bad thing, but you may want to get familiar with it along with finding out what your Master likes. As others have said, different Masters like their sub/slaves doing different things.

i would highly suggest you buying a copy of "S&M 101" and "Screw The Roses Send Me The Thorns". This will explain more about the lifestyle, what to expect, and what not to expect.

As for what Master's like...... just about anything a vanilla man would like. i feel you're actually asking what do Master's expect from their sub/slave. That is a different answer entirely, and is individual to the Master in question. Ask Him what is expected of you and take notes if you have to. you may also want to draw up a contract of sorts. This will help you remember because it has everything in writing. Keep a notebook and pen with you at all times so you can jot down questions to ask your Master.

If you're going into the bondage and play part of BDSM, fill out a checklist of what you may want to try, what you have tried, and what you will never try. These are called limits. The only checklist i know the link to is on www.bondage.com but there are others online. Also understand that if you checked something off that you want to try and when you do you didn't like it, it's not a big deal. That happens. You may also want to consider Him and you going to munches (get togethers for like-minded people), and observe how others serve. That can give you and Him an idea of what He wants you to do. Be aware these are usually in vanilla settings so there probably won't be any outright Master/slave services other than what can be done in public.

Master and i have been together for a little over 2 years. i take care of Him.... i do the housework and the cooking, and basically make sure His life is as easy and uncomplicated as can be. To me, having a Master is a lot like having a husband. You just have to make sure you're respectful even when you don't feel like it.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/10/2004 10:21:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SherriA

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ORIGINAL: MrThorns
Ahhh yes... Steak is even better if a slave rides the cow out to the table and waits, kneeling at my feet as I carve off my own piece of meat.

Eating raw meat and watching NHL Highlight films

Sometimes I'm SO glad to be a vegetarian! (3 down football is much more exciting than 4 down ball too. :p )

Grins...

Just means that there is more meat for me!

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/12/2004 7:38:19 AM

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hi i am new here and need some help. my husband wants to be my master. i know that one's likes vary, but if you masters out there can tell me what you like, maybe it will help me please my master.

As you've already been advised, understanding what other masters want is as likely to confuse you as help you.

Pay attention to him. To some extent, you do already - that's why your relationship has lasted so far. As a submissive, you need to pay closer and more detailed attention, with the express thinking of how to make his enjoyment of life greater (hint: this is not likely to mean doing so much for him that he has nothing to do - worthwhile men aren't built that way). Work at understanding him even more than you do already; part of this is talking with him, asking questions and striving to understand.

He probably has some basis for his wanting to be master. He may have read a book or two, or be a visitor to a web site or may be inspired by a film. Find out what his basis is and follow his path through whatever material he has used and continues to use. This can help you understand his unique concept of the relationship he now seeks. As an example, if his model is from erotic fiction based on historic slavery in south America, he will have very different concepts than if he has been inspired because someone leant him a copy of "Screw the roses".

Do not expect your husband to be like any other master. If this is his first foray into being master of a girl, he is going to make several mistakes and errors and may not settle down for two years or even more. Don't expect to feel everything that subs and slaves on sites like this describe. They may have been serving experienced masters for many years and the life they lead can be so deeply ingrained in them that they can reap enjoyment where you can only have struggle. (As an example, ask any new mother what her daily life is like with her child and then try to understand, from her words alone, how come she enjoys herself.)

Lastly and most importantly, do the journey together. Venturing into D/s (or M/s, which I advise you don't for at least another year) can split your relationship asunder or make the two of you so close that your past relationship will appear as though you were 'just friends'. You must both travel at the same speed, keep talking to make sure that both of your needs, desires and discomforts are exposed and understood. Remember always that you have a responsibility for your own happiness and wellbeing and must express what you need to him - both for your sake and to allow him to take charge of areas of your life that he is ready to.

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RE: what do MASTERS LIKE? - 8/12/2004 7:17:13 PM

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wow, douglas and you others, thanks alot for responding, it's interseting cause some say, just ask, everyone is different, and others say, don't ask this will be a turn off......we have been talking and its weird, while he was leaving for work today, he said "there's alist for you on the counter, do these things before i get home tonight" so the list consisted of me looking at stores online for ankle, and hand cuffs, and anal beads, and such, but the most important to him is a collar. also, he wrote, tell me what you will like to try, and things you want nothing to do with. it was fun, it was like he was my college professor and this was a homework assignment.....lol. and doug, it's weird you say that we will become closer, it feels as though we already have! it's an incredible feelingecspecially have been together for 8 yrs, and have to small kids...we are even buying a lock for our bedroom door so that during the day when we get each other all excited we can play a bit before he goes to work. as for his sudden interest in being my "master" i think its been inside of him for quite awhile, he once told me "there's a side of me that you wouldn't be able to handle" that excited me. i have also noticed that since we have decided to explore this alternative sex life, that he seems happier. i think being a master, ecspecially over me, has come from being that the only other place he has control is at work, hes the boss, and maybe that contributed alittle as well, like wow, i like this! i mean i have control over everything, the kids, housework, meal plans, bills, everything i do, he has no control over, so i think maybe he feels that this is the only place he can have control. we have always been like each others best friend, and could talk about anything, except sex. he said i am too prissy and closed minded when it comes to it, but i think i have wowed him recently, which is good, cause it shows that maybe we don't know each other as well as we thought, and hey this is like starting a whole new relationship. its just incredible that you said that would happen. how did you know that? did this ha;ppen to you doug? and one last thing...TELL ME MORE! i am intrigued!

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Changing your relationship - 8/13/2004 5:34:37 AM

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Janna,

I'm happy that you are feeling so good about things and enjoying your experiment.

My advice to you both is to slow down a bit. Don't try savouring everything at once. Take your time to enjoy the journey into D/s. It's a process and at the moment you are in that "honeymoon" infatuation period and need to give yourselves time to change inside. At the moment, it's an experiment for you but if you don't both give yourselves time to change internally, you might never reach the nirvana that full dominance and submission can bring.

At the moment, it sounds like the major aspect of change is sexual. That's normal in the early stages but I'm also understanding that you, at least, seem to want it to go further. It's great that kinky sex is satisfying for you - just make sure that your husband starts to take dominance over other areas as well OR that the D/s relationship stays only in the bedroom. What you won't want is a situation where you are still responsible for some areas of life but he has authority over them. Responsibility and authority must go hand-in-hand. How would you feel if it's still up to you to get food on the table but he has you in the bedroom serving him? If he had responsibility for the cooking (yes, he'd be getting you to do it, responsibility does not necessarily mean he does it) then he's going to suffer the mental anguish if/when he goes wrong and you would still have the freedom that submission to him should give. I'm making an important point here so if I'm not making sense, I invite you to write me privately and I'll try to explain better.

Talking: Both those who say to talk and those who say that asking all the time is wrong are correct. As with any relationship, communication is vital. Your master cannot know your mind any more than your husband. In fact, LESS than your husband because your master needs to know so much more about you and matters in general to make good decisions. You, similarly need to increase communication for your sake or you can just end up an abused doormat while he thinks you're a sub who's enjoying everything he puts you through. However, it IS boring to only have a girl do what she's asked, or told, to do. Part of your new position is greater observation of him and a higher concentration of what works to give him long-term satisfaction and short-term fun. You need to use your observations and imagination to serve him as best as possible - my ideal sub would do things for me that, had she not done, I would have asked of her - as well as things that I wouldn't have thought of but like.

It all takes time. Don't burn out in one initial burst; there's a great life ahead if you get this right. Don't expect perfection of him or yourself. Make sure you enjoy what you do.

Best wishes,
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