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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

I'd check yes, but then you would have to agree to it so what would the point be?
 
Like LP said... we're out there, some more then others, granted, but we are there. I think the biggest thing is that you really need to approach her like she is a person first, then a female person then, maybe, if there is a connection of some sort, a dominant female person. Too many see us as flogger holders with tits and legs.
 
Jewel

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

I just had what is possibly the strangest conversation ever between a FemDom and a male sub.  I've been talking with a certain sub guy for the past month or two.  For those who read my blog, it's the same one who is deployed overseas.  Amid much mutual flirting and not-so-subtle innuendo about the things we'd like to do together when he gets back, including him saying he wants me to break him in fun ways, I stated the following:

"You know if I have anything to say about it, I'm going to claim you, right?" 

Him: "We'll see."

Me: "Well, the duration of said claim might only be for a weekend, but for that time...yeah."

More conversation followed, in which he said he enjoys our conversations and would like to do things together and see where it goes.  I made the point of telling him that A) I'm okay with being in the Friend Zone and won't be upset if he tells me that's all this is; and B) Even if this is more than friendship, I'm still not expecting more than some fun weekends.  

My gawd, you'd have thought I was proposing marriage.  Now, in my experience, most men would jump at the opportunity for some no-strings sexual deviance.  Not this one. 

WTF???  Dude!  Are you sure you're a guy? 

So I asked what exactly he's looking for in a kinky relationship.  Not from me, necessarily, but in general.  And he couldn't answer.  *headdesk* 

You know, it's hard to hit your target if you don't even know what it looks like. 

When he figures out what it is he wants, he said he'll let me know.  Translation: "I'm not that into you."  Ya know, buddy, ya could have just said that.  It's not like I didn't leave you an opening so big you could drive a semi through it.  What part of "it's okay if you tell me I'm in the Friend Zone" is unclear? 

Jeebus fuck.  And you men wonder why you have such a hard time finding a Dominant woman. 

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

I'd check yes, but then you would have to agree to it so what would the point be?
 
Like LP said... we're out there, some more then others, granted, but we are there. I think the biggest thing is that you really need to approach her like she is a person first, then a female person then, maybe, if there is a connection of some sort, a dominant female person. Too many see us as flogger holders with tits and legs.
 
Jewel

That is so not true, you also make great pillows for cuddling and watching tv.

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SimplyIsaac wrote: Swing dead cats often?
LadyPact wrote:  No actual cats were swung in the creation of this post.

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pinnipedster wrote: And yes, Dominant women are certainly there at munches and lifestyle events, but...well, I have pretty serious inhibitions about approaching a woman who clearly seems to be with someone, and they virtually always are. So I've never figured out how that's supposed to work.

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

I'd check yes, but then you would have to agree to it so what would the point be?
 
Like LP said... we're out there, some more then others, granted, but we are there. I think the biggest thing is that you really need to approach her like she is a person first, then a female person then, maybe, if there is a connection of some sort, a dominant female person. Too many see us as flogger holders with tits and legs.
 
Jewel

That is so not true, you also make great pillows for cuddling and watching tv.

Thank you for that info... lol I wouldn't know... no one has ever made it that far.
 
Jewel

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

Wow.. do I ever feel your pain right now... I have some similar things going on ... I hate engaging with people who don't know what they want.. at least not consistently...

funnily enough, I did tell someone it was clear he just wasn't interested, by his actions, only to have him disagree with me... it made me laugh...

yep.. no wonder its difficult... I tell people now that they have a huge hill to climb due to my recent experiences...

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

Wow.. do I ever feel your pain right now... I have some similar things going on ... I hate engaging with people who don't know what they want.. at least not consistently...

funnily enough, I did tell someone it was clear he just wasn't interested, by his actions, only to have him disagree with me... it made me laugh...

yep.. no wonder its difficult... I tell people now that they have a huge hill to climb due to my recent experiences...

No joke.  I swear, they don't even recognize how difficult they make it for themselves. 
 
I did talk to the boy again and it seems like his real problem is the polyamory.  His poor little head is spinning because he has no experience with relationships that do not fall into the standard male/female binary.  If that's all it is, I can work with it.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

I'm right there with you, yeah, they make it difficult. But I have to be honest here... for a long time I gave up completely on men and searched for a female s-type. Guess what? It isn't any different. Seems to be that the ones that state they are bi are actually saying that they want a dominant male and if a dominant female is involved then that's ok. 
 
 And Sylvere? Good luck with that. I hope it works out. And if it does, share the trick with me? Please?
 
Jewel

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ORIGINAL: beeble

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SimplyIsaac wrote: Swing dead cats often?
LadyPact wrote:  No actual cats were swung in the creation of this post.

Is this some kind of technicality, based on a dead cat no longer being `actual'?

beeble

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Now beeble.  Do you really think the big, bad Dominant of Oz would hurt cute, little fury things?

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SimplyIsaac wrote: Swing dead cats often?
LadyPact wrote:  No actual cats were swung in the creation of this post.
beeble wrote: Is this some kind of technicality, based on a dead cat no longer being `actual'?
LadyPact wrote: Now beeble.  Do you really think the big, bad Dominant of Oz would hurt cute, little fury things?

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ORIGINAL: justellmeonce

hello,my name is philip....i'm having a difficult time finding a real time relationship with a dominant lady....i have been searching for ltr for a few years...