boundfeet
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Steel -- i have to say that your definitions of poly (hoping i get this correct), which is a committed, monogamous, intimate relationship of 3 is one that i so love!.
i am in my first poly relationship. and while i would not have chosen this way to find a partner, its seems to have been an unexpected and interesting developement. bascially, i had been submitting to one -- turns out that one was married (yes, bad!). however, he came totally clean to me and at the same time, discussed with me how he and his wife had been looking for a female to join them. and he thought i might be that perfect female. he told me they had been searching for years and years. since i didn't immediately run away, they both then approached me regarding their interest in having me join their relationship. i met with them individually at first, and then together. the 3 of us. for conversation only.
after they approached me, i came here, read everything i could, discovering your definitions and thoughts....from those i developed a list of questions, concerns and discussino points, and this led to a discovery that we were all very much in alignment on what we wanted. and that our vision was a shared one. i am now happily owned by both of them!.
i can so understand your thoughts because once i made the committment to explore, i was so worried i would not be what they expected. that i would experience that 'unwanted' feeling. and it has been so completely the opposite. it is a challenging situation. and one that i am still learning. it does scare me that they are married, and will i feel like the 3rd wheel. i haven't yet. and they include me on their everyday lives. not just play time. we haven't intro'd any family yet, not sure when we might be ready. but its a scary and exhilirating feeling.
i do look forward to reading your posts.
< Message edited by boundfeet -- 1/11/2009 6:34:16 PM >
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