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Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 7:39:26 AM

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O.K., slaves/submissives and all other's that have taken my "Dumb Dom" thread and hung me to the cross, tar and feathered me, made me confess to my political affiliation, had me run for cover, ducking the fruit as I ran.....and made me laugh with joy at the love sent my way. Well, the one that did...you know who you are!
I thank you all sincerely for your responses and I hope I can answer some of the questions asked of me there, without continuing that thread any longer. It is like a steaming locomotive running out of track and we all want to watch.....Geesh, we are sick, O.K., you all aren't...I am! See, I am smart.
First, the thread was only meant to bring a smile to some. I am not pissed at anyone, including my loving teenage sons.......hmmm, O.K., that's a stretch, but true.
Pet Jenny, thank you for the kindness, you're always cool with me. JennyLu, I think we are finally bonding after I convinced you how much I love New York..wink
Catilyn...wow, you know your politics..and your so young....I am impressed...
LaMalinche....Wow, you know your politics too, but I'd be willing to bet that if I said I was a Republican, you'd take the other side, just for the sake of arguement.....grrrrr Switches!
Petruchio, hmmm, what can I say...you took your shot and missed...nananana boo boo.
Secret40 to answer your question...."yes, speak up, if you really do need to tell a Dom something, speak up, or he will remain dumb, in reference to what you need to share with him."
ehlovindom, thank you. Holidays can bring both glee and depression, depending on many variables. However, I am happy and not angry at anyone......except Santa....Fck Coal!
Everyone else who commented, both negatively and positively....thank you. All in put is good and all sharing is wonderful. That is why we post here. I know I sometimes go into ridiculous rants, but it actually keeps me sane in the "real world", so thank you all for bearing with me at times.

So to keep this thread on topic. Can I Dom be too smart for his own britches?
Or, do you only say yes to get him out of them?

Peace, Kevin

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 9:00:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

So to keep this thread on topic. Can I Dom be too smart for his own britches?
Or, do you only say yes to get him out of them?

Peace, Kevin

Ok, I'll bite..... I find Intelligence the biggest turn on of all, followed closely by
life experiance. But .. and of course there is a clause that negates it all and
that is when they are too smart and lack common sense. Nothing can dampen
my Awe more. So, in some ways too smart is possible.

Q

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 9:20:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

So to keep this thread on topic. Can I Dom be too smart for his own britches?
Or, do you only say yes to get him out of them?

Peace, Kevin

Just for that comment about switches, yes and no.

Yes, a Dom can be too smart for his britches when he flagrantly beats his/her chest and verbally spews on about topics that he/she has no real understanding of or knows all of the facts to.
Actually, I find that this is not a Dom thing, it is a people thing. Many people do not wish to critically think about a subject, but like to hear the sound of their own voice and so they favor one and all with a not well thought out opinion. Let alone even have logic or an arguement to back up their opinion.

No, a Dom cannot be too smart. I love it when the person(s) that I am around are smarter than me. I don't feel diminshed at all. Perhaps because I know that in some areas the situation is going to be reversed. I hate having to dumb down what I say so that people won't feel insecure or belittled.
This also goes for people in general. Not just Doms. I recently attended a (vanilla) party where I was sitting in on a discussion, and it was only later that I realized that I had only added a sentance or three in the hour I sat there. The subject was fascinating, but while I knew enough to follow it, I did not have the information to really contribute. Yet I walked away with more information. I am such a geek that I think learning is fun, even when it is outside my own area.

Overall, I think the key is to always think before you speak. It is okay to have a few seconds of silence in a conversation to fully absorb the other's point or opinion and then to formulate your own response. Heck, it is even okay to say, "I cannot answer that now, I need to think about it, let me get back to you." Just make sure you do.

No one has all the answers. No one has all the information. The trick is to be willing to listen, to open yourself to new thoughts and ideas, and to never, never, never, pretend to know more than you do. Oh, and never underestimate the one you are talking to.

Oh, and BTW fastlane, people have been able to change my opinions on things. Not ever totally, but in small ways. And it has always been done by giving me new facts or new ways of thinking about things. Never by flagrant chest beating from a weak position because it is not thought out or by an appeal to authority (although both have been tried, repeatedly.)

And because I can't resist. . . fastlane, if you are feeling too big for your britches, or others have told you that you are, you have two choices: 1) buy new clothes or 2) Diet

That is all for now

LaMalinche

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 10:06:57 AM

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Thanks quiver and LalaMinche

Flash: I agree with both of you.
I love conversing with intelligent people and do so on a daily basis at work. Conversely, I have no problem at all talking with people who are inferior in the cerbral category, only because I know they too have something to offer, if you listen hard enough.
I often come across here as a "smart ass", I know, because many of you who have met me in person tell me how differently I am when you make my aquaintance.
The problem is communication is often times lost, when in the written form, expressionless and non vocal.
I love to use abreviated answer's to often very wordy questions and try to do so by interjecting wit. Sometimes it works well, but is often times misunderstood and taken to be deragatory.
Now, as far as dieting or getting a bigger pair of britches......"NO WAY!, I like my pants tight and my woman's hands small, they both compliment the Package."

LOL and as always, Peace.
Kevin

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 10:11:42 AM

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We can outsmart ourselves, for sure. We can overthink things. But since intelligence is just a raw trait (like coordination, speed, or a sweet voice), what we do with the braininess is more important than how much we have.

Bob

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 10:19:18 AM

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quote:

Can I Dom be too smart for his own britches?
Or, do you only say yes to get him out of them?

Not any I have met, although I do agree with Desert Rat. We do tend to overanalyze things from time to time. I can peg most anyone for what they are after reading just a few of their posts. Yet, they have to have dran my attention in for me to read them the way I would analyze them.

In any event, I feel where intellect lacks that is where respect comes in. That is why we obey.

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 10:30:52 AM

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The problem is communication is often times lost, when in the written form, expressionless and non vocal.

There ya go!

You enjoy playing the smartass and bad boy on the playground.

As far as people being different in real life, it is true, to a degree. So much is lost here, on the message boards. We are characters on the forum stage. We often receive part of the story, and sort of guess at the remainder.

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 11:04:04 AM

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Oh Fastlane ... you certainly are a sivler tounged devil. Of course a little verbal banter is a welcome break from the everyday routine of life. As you have so aptly said and understood it was in the spirit of fun. As for the question you pose in this thread, I don't think I'll "bite" on that one. I'm following my doctors advice as I am on a toxic waste free diet!!!! LOL ...

Maybe you and I should co-author a thread about the subbie who is too smart for her britches!!!
After all you are entitled to equal time!!!

Have a happy New Years to all ... especially my "bonding buddy" and teriffic Dom, Fastlane who has endured all with a smile!!

JL

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 11:16:51 AM

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So to keep this thread on topic. Can I Dom be too smart for his own britches?
Or, do you only say yes to get him out of them?

Peace, Kevin

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At first I started to worry until it was pointed out to Me that I had a long way to go before I would be too smart for My own britches..whew ....one less thing to worry about....

DareDevil

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 11:40:17 AM

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Yes, a Dom can be too smart for his own britches and end up tripping over them as they tangle about his legs. Being strongly blessed in the inteligence arena does not necessarily mean that the person knows how to use it or that they have the common sense given a member of the species Drosophila melanogaster

As for getting a Dom out of his britches, I go for the easy way. Unzip.

< Message edited by cinnfulhussy -- 12/31/2005 11:41:06 AM >

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 12/31/2005 12:17:00 PM

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For me; my dom has to be AT LEAST as intelligent as me. (hey, it's not a lofty goal!), I need someone I can look up to and respect. And I respect intelligence and the ability to use it well.

Your question, otoh, implies a dom who is smart alecky, sort of. (not that this would EVER apply to you! *lol*) That, on a continual, day to day basis, could be a problem. I love to joke and play around, but of course there is time for serious discourse (or non-discourse) as well! *g*

Uhm...hope that helps!

Christina

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/1/2006 12:32:25 PM

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I have seen arrogant, domineering assholes, that ended up in the brutalization of submissives, both male and female---I do believe that so many use the term Dominant to mean omnipotent--" you will worship Me and when you do, you will overlook the fact that I am an idiot that can't even hit the toilet..." and it is not just Doms fastlane, Dominas have it as well--so being too smart for your britches here keeps one from admitting weakness--so, yes you can be too smart for your britches--

-now can a Dom be too smart for their britches---smiles, I am, MY IQ is extremely high, I see through things quickly, grasp concepts, ideas, designs, solutions extremely fast, much to the consternation of family and co-workers---that's one of the reasons I like the new boy, he is smart as a whip--well you know what I mean--being smart as a whip leads to arrogance and keeps one from admitting weaknesses--

unless one becomes dumb and learns their lessons to become smart--

Peace Kevin

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/1/2006 1:25:05 PM

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As always, MH, thank you for your post.

I have been and am, smart in many ways.
I have also been and am...dumb in many ways....

Kinda like not being fast...or slow.....Half fast, or half assed, or half smart about lots of things.

As always, Peace, Kevin

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/1/2006 1:33:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: cinnfulhussy
As for getting a Dom out of his britches, I go for the easy way. Unzip.

I gotta remember that. They always run when I bring out the mache. . . er. . um. . I mean knife. Sheesh. I wondered what I was doing wrong. Thanks Cinn.

I am sure the next Dom I am with will thank you too.

LaMalinche

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/1/2006 1:45:30 PM

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:YIKES! You think he will thank? I have the feeling he will Spank!

Peace, Kevin

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/1/2006 3:46:26 PM

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Nope, i don't see being too smart a bad thing, it beats the hell out of the emails i receive. got one today

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iam looking for a pet if u are interested send me ur info like's and dislike's ur limit's ,do u have a cam lil one?
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no hello, no goodbye, just one sentence. Now i understand the whole chat thing where you is u, etc. Your typing fast and don't always go back and fix typo's, but when your sending someone an email, you have time to go back and reread what you wrote. You have time to type out the whole word. Being slightly curious, i checked her profile. It's just as bad, if not worse and my favorite line from it is "also i hate one liner's so i will not replay for any one line massage send ur picture with the massage"

i guess she only hates one line messages, when she is not the one typing them.

She also had trouble with the part of my profile that says "i am looking for female Domme's for freindship and play in real life ONLY, i have nothing against internet relationships, however i am not looking for one..." Since she is in New York and i am in Michigan, but i guess that's better than the one that wanted to collar me from Egypt. At least they are getting closer.

My ex says intelligence is a person's greatest asset, i am not sure it is their greatest, but it sure ranks up in the top 5 for me.

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

O.K., slaves/submissives and all other's that have taken my "Dumb Dom" thread and hung me to the cross, tar and feathered me, made me confess to my political affiliation, had me run for cover, ducking the fruit as I ran.....and made me laugh with joy at the love sent my way. Well, the one that did...you know who you are!
I thank you all sincerely for your responses and I hope I can answer some of the questions asked of me there, without continuing that thread any longer. It is like a steaming locomotive running out of track and we all want to watch.....Geesh, we are sick, O.K., you all aren't...I am! See, I am smart.
First, the thread was only meant to bring a smile to some. I am not pissed at anyone, including my loving teenage sons.......hmmm, O.K., that's a stretch, but true.
Pet Jenny, thank you for the kindness, you're always cool with me. JennyLu, I think we are finally bonding after I convinced you how much I love New York..wink
Catilyn...wow, you know your politics..and your so young....I am impressed...
LaMalinche....Wow, you know your politics too, but I'd be willing to bet that if I said I was a Republican, you'd take the other side, just for the sake of arguement.....grrrrr Switches!
Petruchio, hmmm, what can I say...you took your shot and missed...nananana boo boo.
Secret40 to answer your question...."yes, speak up, if you really do need to tell a Dom something, speak up, or he will remain dumb, in reference to what you need to share with him."
ehlovindom, thank you. Holidays can bring both glee and depression, depending on many variables. However, I am happy and not angry at anyone......except Santa....Fck Coal!
Everyone else who commented, both negatively and positively....thank you. All in put is good and all sharing is wonderful. That is why we post here. I know I sometimes go into ridiculous rants, but it actually keeps me sane in the "real world", so thank you all for bearing with me at times.

So to keep this thread on topic. Can I Dom be too smart for his own britches?
Or, do you only say yes to get him out of them?

Peace, Kevin

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/1/2006 5:37:10 PM

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:YIKES! You think he will thank? I have the feeling he will Spank!

Peace, Kevin

Fastlane, I love you dearly, but let me get this straight (yeah, right, like I do anything straight). If you told me to get you out of your pants, and I merely unzipped them, and pulled them off, you would SPANK?

You would prefer me to slice them off you?

Well, okay. I mean, there's a switch (wink wink nudge nudge).

I am off to sharpen my knives, maybe even the swords, in the hopes that you want me to get you out of your pants.

After all, I don't want to get spanked. *wink*

I hope all you females out there are taking notes. Fastlane LIKES knives being used on him.

LaMalinche

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/2/2006 8:52:46 AM

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Note to all.

Fastlane prefers a sharp tongue over a sharp object, any day of the week.

wink, Kevin

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RE: Can a Dom be too smart for his own britches? - 1/2/2006 3:31:04 PM

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As long as he is as smart as he think he is i have no problem.

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