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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:02:42 PM

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s*ag her mom whilst you're at it.. that'll definitely have her running back into your arms.
Better still, her dad - now that's a reeeaaaaal attention grabber

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:04:18 PM

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Kinda what I was thinking, Share...

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:10:58 PM

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Don't confuse me with your fake advicemessness Share & Greedy.

Cheered me up though.

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:11:43 PM

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Even if the guy's a freaking prince, she left him. She moved. She wanted out of the relationship.... I would think that would be enough of a sign to anyone that she wasn't happy and didn't want to be with him.

If only the OP could see past his egocentricity and get it through his thick skull. The words "lost cause" and "denial" come to mind.

OP: Quit acting like tantrum-throwing, snotty little brat who can't accept "no" for an answer. Grow up and become a Man or get used to the idea of growing old alone

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:12:46 PM

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sigh, anyone wanna get a beer?

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:14:02 PM

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If you want to know what I did when I smashed stuff it was this... My Fiancee had cooked a few bad dinners in the last few weeks (yes I cook too so don't misread that please), I had discussed this with her. However she brought me in a small piece of fish & some peas, another bad dinner... I shouted WTF is this... and slammed my fork into the plate, the fork bent beyond repair & peas and fish went flying every where. I calmed down afterwards... turns out she thought there was more when she started cooking. I know this was a completely stupid thing to do... I was simply upset, another reaction I could of had to the dinner was to start crying... I wish I had done this now.

The other time, I snapped a phone in half because hannah was crying after getting off the phone to her mum (this is after her mum got engaged), She was being a passive agressive bitch down the phone & making my fiancee feel bad. I broke the phone because of this.

See... I think that's completely out of line and would scare the shit out of me. The reaction is so over the top and out of control. I'm glad you are getting help, just leave her be till you can handle situations like bad dinners calmly and - at worst - insist on her taking cooking classes.

Yeah, I'd say that's some pretty freaky behavior. Me, I'd say, "This ain't one of your best dinners, babe, but thank you for making it for me." Or I'd just say the second clause.

And I never did listen to any of my ex's phone calls. I consider that to be intrusive, rude, and slightly psychotic.

I'm thinking "anger management" classes are inadequate.

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:15:47 PM

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sigh, anyone wanna get a beer?

c'mon over, Pers.. I've got a 12pack in the fridge....

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:19:32 PM

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sigh, anyone wanna get a beer?

c'mon over, Pers.. I've got a 12pack in the fridge....

im on my way, but lets bring Hippie with us, he loves Velveeta and soupy chili....

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:21:02 PM

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I could throw together some mac and cheese (Kraft, of course) mixed with Hormel Chili (with beans, naturally).. oh, and just for Hippie, I can pick up a 12pack of Bud Light..

*ducks and runs*

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:22:43 PM

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Sigh. I suppose she wasn't really that good at all huh?

Nobody can tell for sure all you can do is weigh up how happy she makes you during the good times vs how bad she makes you feel during the bad. If something causes you more pain then pleasure then why do it? This is the only judgement you need to make.

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I'll just have to improve & get another afterall, after doing all the other things I'll have to do too.

Whilst you are busy improving yourself, what is she busy doing? Maybe she was always perfect and beyond improvement? Sometimes people they seem right for each other but just end up clashing. Trial and error. What things cause your anger in the first place, people aren’t born angry they get annoyed by things. Sometimes people start out liking one another but then one starts to irritate the other, what people say about not being able to find a match because you've not discovered the things that made your previous relationship fail have no basis in reality. As it assumes every possible match is a combination of the same simplistic issues. People are unique one is not like another so how can a failure of one relationship have any bearing on another, unless there is a key flaw? Most of the time it’s nobody’s fault it’s just life. If you had had a number of relationships and they've all ended the same you could call it your fault.

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:22:46 PM

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sigh, anyone wanna get a beer?

Gladly. A good, strong Belgian Dubbel.

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:26:09 PM

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I could throw together some mac and cheese (Kraft, of course) mixed with Hormel Chili (with beans, naturally).. oh, and just for Hippie, I can pick up a 12pack of Bud Light..

*ducks and runs*

You'd better run. Budwater. Hmmph.
I suppose I could get myself psyched up enough (or drunk enough) to eat REAL Southern cooking, though.

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:28:30 PM

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I could throw together some mac and cheese (Kraft, of course) mixed with Hormel Chili (with beans, naturally).. oh, and just for Hippie, I can pick up a 12pack of Bud Light..

*ducks and runs*

You'd better run. Budwater. Hmmph.
I suppose I could get myself psyched up enough (or drunk enough) to eat REAL Southern cooking, though.

Oh, comeon down here wid the rest of us schlubs you crunchy elitist....i hear one of us gives great head....

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:29:10 PM

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I'll make it as dry as the desert!

*snort*

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:30:11 PM

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LMAO...on that note im going to go lay down....the other occupant played himself out about an hour ago....love to you all...and Merry Christmas

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:30:50 PM

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love you too, sweetie.. Merry Christmas!

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:33:32 PM

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Humbug.

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:39:05 PM

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Merry Christmas, Mr. Grinch....ive gotcher present, right here....

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 5:46:33 PM

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sigh, anyone wanna get a beer?

I'll drink with you, sis. ...

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RE: Fiancee/sub disappeared, looking for a bit of advice. - 12/25/2008 6:05:12 PM

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All, right, I'll bite: WHERE is this documented? Frankly, I don't believe it. There's a world of difference between breaking things and harming animals--let alone abusing humans.

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LaM and Rule..... Which night school? Ummm. All of them, actually. The day school's, too. It's very well documented that abusive types start with a pattern of breaking things, and then moving up to harming people. It's along the same wavelength as hurting the animals of their partners.

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