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MistressRouge -> RE: CBT Techniques (12/29/2008 12:46:44 PM)
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As mentioned in a previous post, most BDSM clubs do not allow exposed genitalia, so having sit and chat with someone about CBT, has no physical effects, doing is alot more beneficial hands on.
I in no way implied that anything is distasteful, clubs are great, but not for CBT [:D]
I agree with Lady Hibiscus the best way of learning new techniques is hands on, with my own subs, not reading a manual of someone else's TRUE DOMLY view or watch others do things their way.
There are some activities that are very helpful spectating and watching at clubs, CBT is not one of them.
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
My first question back to this would be, exactly why would either of the things you mentioned be the last thing(s) he wanted to do? You make it sound as though attending or participating in a demo would be distasteful to him. How do you draw that conclusion?
The next one I have is what demos are you attending that it's a "watching people do it from afar" scenario? The last two presentations I did, I spent the remainder of the time doing personal instruction, for both tops and bottoms. That includes one that the demo started at two in the afternoon and the play party didn't end until sometime around two in the morning. I realize that's just My personal way of doing things and not every presenter takes on the same sense of responsibility for additional help, but I consider that part of the package. Not only is it fun, but that was the point of doing the demo in the first place. People learning whatever it is that I've been asked to present.
I actually don't use the net to learn new types of play. When I want to learn something, I find out who's giving instruction on it and I seek them out. I see that differently than holding an open casting call on a message forum. I don't do it through google, either. I take the time and the effort to invest Myself in what I'm researching.
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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge
I agree totally, what is the BIG deal here?
I for one, am saddened by the way many jump on the bandwagon of judgemental attitudes here, the op is simply asking for some CBT technique advice.
The last thing he wants to do, is get his C&Balls out at a demo, or watch others do it from afar, feels totally different actually FEELING the sensations, the tension of the leather bind, sensation of slapping, nails scratching, flicking, wax the list is endless.
Also, to analyse and dissect this poor guys motives is a tad unhelpful in my opinion, and I for one like to expand and share my knowledge especially regarding techniques that others seek. Not all posts are for wank fodder, even if it was no need to post or answer the op, just ignore and move on it it offends.
This habit of referring folk to websites, really irriates me too, what the hell are these forums for??
To share and guide, as I gladly like to do, not send them to google the lazy way out!
Rant over [:D]
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