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sinthia999 -> geting a colar (12/27/2008 6:09:03 PM)

is a coller like a ewding ring is there a ceremonee or is it jst hear take ths for the nite?

Sinthia



Aszhrae -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 6:13:03 PM)

It really depends on the D or M with their sub/slave to be.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 6:21:51 PM)

Whatever you feel is should be is your truth. Then, look for others who share that truth. Not everyone will.

Master Fire



BKSir -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 6:25:32 PM)

To me, yes, it is just short of a wedding ring.  If I ask someone to wear my collar, it is a permanent (or damn near) deal.  To others, it's nothing more than a play toy, like a whip or cuffs or whatever, that they want to use right then.

So, to your question.  Yes.  It is.  Both.



sinthia999 -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 6:37:07 PM)

what kynds of ceremonees?  duz evere one mk up thr own?



DiurnalVampire -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 6:38:06 PM)

I have had 2 collared slaves in all my time in the lifestyle. To Fox, it is as good as the wedding rings we will soon have. To Angel, it was nothing but a token. What it means depends entirely on who you are discussing it with, and of course you yourself.

DV



devotedinSD -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 6:46:09 PM)

It's different for everyone, for me personally a collar does symbolize something more serious and I would not want to get it just as a meaningless part of a session.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 7:02:35 PM)

Collars are just neat and fancy toys, and nothing more to me.



mbes -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 7:03:13 PM)

For us, we had collars that were appropriate for playing/parties that we used while we were testing the waters. Now there is also "the" collar that I wear 24/7. Two different concepts represented by the same word.



MastersPanda -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 7:37:55 PM)

my collar is a constant reminder of my love and service to Master. i consider the level of trust involved as serious (or more!) as marriage. Wearing His collar helps me feel safe, secure, and loved. Is it absolutely necessary? No. But does my Master like seeing it on me? hell yes. You will have to decide for yourself the magnitude of what a collar would mean to you.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: geting a colar (12/27/2008 9:41:29 PM)

Google bdsm collaring ceremony and you should find some good information. Or, use the search function above to search the forums. This as been talked about A LOT.

Master Fire



BondageBarbieX -> RE: geting a colar (12/28/2008 1:43:46 AM)

I think of it as him owning me totally and completely,not quite marriage but the same kind of commitment.They should not be given out so freely as some do on here and  yes,I have had collaring ceremonies with my daddy's.



LPslittleclip -> RE: getting a collar (12/28/2008 8:31:08 AM)

the collar should be for you and the one who bestows it .  traditionally there are levels and colors of collar depending on the type and meaning. for my M'Lady and i it is a permanent thing and for us it was a private ceremony.  i have 2 collars one is my formal one i wear when I'm with my M'Lady and the other i wear when I'm not. you should discuss with your Dom/partner on how the collar represents you relationship and its meaning as it will be different from everyone else's and it should have special meaning to your relationship.



MRandme -> RE: getting a collar (12/28/2008 9:20:39 AM)

i have had two different collars while i was with my Master... they were nothing more than something i wore that He could attach a leash to or to remind me of my place as a slave.

Now, 19 months into our relationship, He is planning a Collar. We still have to discuss exactly what that means, but it is not something either of us are taking lightly. i am being required to do some soul-searching to make sure i want it, as He does not intend to offer a velcro Collar, that will come off right after it goes on.

i do not know if He intends to Collar me privately or in public. We still have to discuss the other things first.

This is something that differs with every couple, so there is no 'correct' answer.




Feliciasub -> RE: getting a collar (12/28/2008 11:13:27 AM)

i am unowned and i do have a collar. i call it my  '' unowned collar '' wich is just a play toy with play partners i might play with. i see this collar only as a play toy and  a sign of my submissive condition.

this is way different from being collared. i believe that being collared should be done in a ceremony. Being collared is really too important to just put a collar around your neck and say: ''now you are mine ''. This is just my humble opinion and whenever i will meet Mister right Dom, i will surely ask Him how He sees it.



DesFIP -> RE: getting a collar (12/28/2008 6:51:23 PM)

Either and every possible permutation between. It depends on the people involved. Figure out what it means to you and communicate that clearly during talks with possible dominants to ensure you are both on the same page.



nafakcha -> RE: getting a collar (12/29/2008 5:38:07 AM)

In my experience a collar means whatever the Dom and sub agree it means. As long as everyone agrees what the collar represents then it doesn't matter what the rest of the world does. Discussing what it means also allows you to have a point for negotiation later if everyone wants to change the meaning of the collar.

In my personal life I have had collars that were used just for play, and collars that bound me to a Dominant. In the later case I usually had one that was used in play and then another that looked like a piece of jewelry that I wore everyday - all the time. When I had this special collar it has always been a form of near permanent commitment - and I suspect that when that commitment is broken it feels exactly like a divorce does. Despite the pain that you feel when that committed of a relationship ends, it definitely has never made me want to give up on the lifestyle. It just meant I hadn't found the right person in the right place and time.

Best of luck.



Kana -> RE: geting a colar (12/29/2008 5:39:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sinthia999

is it jst hear take ths for the nite?

Sinthia



Sorry, I just spewed my coffee

Thanks for starting my day with a laugh.



Aynne88 -> RE: geting a colar (12/29/2008 5:57:27 AM)

Why was that funny? My impression is that the young lady was asking this in a serious manner. Unless you were amused by her poor spelling skills, in her profile she mentions that she has severe dyslexia and apologizes for her spelling. Which she needn't do, I think most posters here understood her perfectly well.



DesFIP -> RE: geting a colar (12/29/2008 6:01:27 AM)

I would suggest that the OP adds a signature line mentioning her dyslexia as it might cut down on ad hominem attacks due to her spelling.



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