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1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/1/2006 5:53:58 PM

Spankinatrix

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Greetings!
I'm an experienced FemDom, with a male sub spouse. We've been considering trying out some area swing clubs, as I'm interested in enjoying more than 1 male at once. However, after browsing their sites I get the notion that women there are more the sub sex slaves, and multi-male sex is more about gang-bangs than worshiping her. Have any FemDoms here attended swing clubs? I would love to hear your experiences!
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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/1/2006 7:35:46 PM

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Although I am not sure I would call myself a femdom, I have been involved in several swing clubs. I do not think women are overall considered sub sex slaves, although there are some women who enjoy that role and some men definitely welcome it. I have seen the gang-bang or facial kinks, but that is not the norm.

A woman willing to play as a single is certainly more unusual and thus it is fairly simple to pick and choose. I have taken part in multi male sex. I was certainly in control of the situation and felt they were serving me as opposed to me being used by them. Maybe not worship exactly, but more aligned with that concept than of a gang bang.

Since there are a lot of couples at swing clubs there are all of those dynamics to consider. Although the clubs that allow singles males do tend to have them in abundance.

I think it about communicating and selecting your play partners.

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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/2/2006 12:54:30 PM

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I have only had one experience with a swing club and I was disappointed.

No single males were allowed (so I could only bring my husband and not any of my subs).

The males sat on the sidelines while the females displayed themselves. The females were all dressed up while the majority of males were in "business casual."

The females seemed to be on the lookout for more female partners. I wondered why males were even there since they didn't really seem to be participating. Males were mere onlookers.

While I saw lots of female-on-female action and threesomes involving two females and one male, I saw very few, if any, threesomes consisting of two males and a female.

I'll probably try another visit because I may have visited "on a bad day" but I didn't really enjoy my last visit. I hope to hear that others have had positive experiences so I'll be more willing to go there again.

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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/2/2006 1:21:44 PM

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Swinging is about sex, not Ds or kink. A few swing clubs have a bdsm element to them, but it's rare and you won't get the other people involved unless you know them.

A few more sex positive events on the east coast like Dark Odyssey and Leather Retreat encourage the swinging/sex/kink/play intermingling.

If you want to go and have lots of men fuck you, a swing club is a great place to go. If you want to go and have lots of men submit to you, it's a bad place to go.

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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/2/2006 9:31:23 PM

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Thank you to all for your prompt responses! They're all very good thoughts, and I look forward to reading more.
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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/3/2006 12:04:59 AM

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I've only been to one swingers club. We visited The Green Door in Las Vegas on our wedding night. Vegas is barren of BDSM clubs and the Green Door has a BDSM room.. Well, any port in a storm. I very much wanted to use a strap on with my new husband in public, so that he'd truly remember his wedding night. *smiles* While we'd done BDSM in public venues, we'd never done anything sexual with anyone else present. Hubby loved the public venue when he was the one getting reamed. He wasn't so happy when those same men watched him pleasure me orally. Everyone was very well behaved and no one pushed themselves into our encounter. (We actually had someone at a local dungeon come up and ask to suck hubby's cock!)

I can speak to finding partners there, since we were solo. But the people were polite and the setting not nearly as seedy as I'd expected. There were a lot of single men there. It was a weeknight and I was one of five women in the entire place. I was surprised by the restraint shown by those present. I'll stop by there again the next time I'm in Vegas.

What you might want to do, rather than visit a swingers club, is visit a website, such as swinglifestyle.com and find a partner there.

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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/30/2008 11:27:28 PM

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Actually sweetie, most swing clubs DO allow single males but they must be accompanied by a female or a couple to gain entrance, and that escort must account for them at all times so they are not roaming about freely where they may have the opportunity to pester other females who do not find their advances to be welcome. Curiously, shortly after we went, there was an e-mail posting reminding people of this rule because one or more unaccompanied males were found to be roaming about watching others have sex, and somebody didn't like it. Considering that the voyeur in me had been happily watching, I do wonder if I was one of those men mistaken for an unaccompanied male.

I have since been told by others that at other swing clubs, no one has any problem when someone wonders into a room just to watch. Therefore, there are different cultural rules at different clubs.

Sadly, I've never heard of reports where the males tend to take a more active role in getting out of the shadows and performing for the women's enjoyment. Perhaps, a large group of dommes ought to bring all of their males subs to one swing club on the same evening, and then order all of them to prance about the place to entertain the women! :)

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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/31/2008 3:24:34 AM

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you might want to check the dates of the archived threads your digging up

just a tip, I know you are new here

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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 1/31/2008 8:22:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Swinging is about sex, not Ds or kink. A few swing clubs have a bdsm element to them, but it's rare and you won't get the other people involved unless you know them.

A few more sex positive events on the east coast like Dark Odyssey and Leather Retreat encourage the swinging/sex/kink/play intermingling.

If you want to go and have lots of men fuck you, a swing club is a great place to go. If you want to go and have lots of men submit to you, it's a bad place to go.

I agree with this.

I have over the years been active in various swing clubs. They just are not about D/s. Sure people like us are in the scene but those undertones are hidden because it is a regular situation that demands respect for the other people who do make up the vast majority.

Swing clubs bring in a cross section of personalities and hang-ups. So depending on the club or the night you are there you will just see a mixture. From couples just into exhibitionism who do not play with others, couples looking only for female third, couples who only play with their friends there and couples open to pretty much anything.

Generally because of the men/women ratio and how people decide in what they do you will generally not see too many one woman and a bunch of men thing at least for an extended scene and certainly worship would not happen. I would say though you can get catered to would be a decent description.

Generally your best chance to have multiple males and done a certain way is to become active in a group and become friends. Generally people will have private parties that can have a theme (for example the more traditional gang bang) where you can be more in control of what you are wanting.

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RE: 1 FemDom to Another: Swing Clubs? - 2/2/2008 7:17:29 AM

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We do enjoy checking out the Swingers clubs here in Houston. We find that there are a lot of people curious about our different kind of kink, but at the same time we tend to scare people too. They are certainly two very different scenes but they do cross paths in quite a few ways.

We enjoy it as it somewhere we can go and have a few drinks, dance, and enjoy a little less of a meet market atmosphere while we do it. We do have a couple of these clubs in Houston where they have dungeon furniture and people in the BDSM lifestyle here tend to frequent those clubs.

In both the BDSM lifestyle and the Swinging lifestyle we share a lot of the same principals of being open minded to other peoples kinks reguardless of your own and simply having an open mind about things. Strangely when the two lifestyles speak of the other, we are usually not so open minded.

In all honesty, the most important thing is that you are enjoying yourself in whatever method you use to enjoy your kinks, so feel free to check things out yourself. Be prepared for the people that will be close minded to BDSM, but also be ready for a lot of people who are very curious about this side of things. There are also quite a few men who do not understand the concept of a Dominant Female, but that's true on our side of the fence too. Just try to keep an open mind and I would suggest going with a date as single Women tend to get a lot of attention and it can be very overwhelming if you are just checking things out.

I hope that helps a little.

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