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switching on the switch - 12/28/2008 11:40:09 PM

femmetasia

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I am a slave my Master is a switch. I am so happy for him that he enjoys each side of the coin, and that there are some beautiful Dommes out there only to happy to fulfill his needs that I have been unable to until now (?).

I have come to a comfortable place where I can dish out small amounts of pain on him when I am of the mindset that he has commanded me to do so for his pleasure. As our relationship intensifies I am finding that our 'play' moves deeper and deeper into my emotional psyche and this I know this stems from my love for him.

My thinking to date is (and this is where I would very much appreciate your opinions) is that the emotional level of my submission is something "i" can only give him in return, and not something that even some of the excellent pro Dommes he plays with can give him. Yep, i'm talking about the power of our love.

I fear my attempts will be laughable without a full on fearless approach. I also fear the impact will be diluted with prior discussion with him. If I can pull it off I believe it will be a beautiful surprise to him. I so desire to give him some of the deep feelings I receive from submission, not just the physical rush of endorphins and enticing mind games.

I'm not sure what the friggin question is anymore, but hopefully some of you can glean a response from this fragmented post.

Thanks

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RE: switching on the switch - 12/29/2008 11:35:58 AM

SteveAndJaz

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Have you talked in depth about what it is he wants? Does he want the same from you that you give him because if so that will be easier than if he wants something entirely different. It sounds like your both incredibly open and its obvious you love him very much.

Stage fright is something that effects most of us to begin with. What if I overdo things? What if I don't say the right things? or what if I just get it all wrong?.
Try and get out of him as much information as you possibly can and then put together a little session. Don't go for gold the first time as this is asking too much of yourself but give him nice little tasters and observe his reactions.

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RE: switching on the switch - 12/29/2008 6:35:28 PM

femmetasia

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Thanks SteveAndJaz for your reply. We have talked about all of this in depth and Master doesn't wish to push me further than i am comfortable with and is beyond my pleasure (yes my pleasure is as important as his own to him, not everyones take on M/s but it is ours). But i'm so wanting to give him the feel of the flogger when yielded with love and get quite excited about pulling off an elaborate scenario and then when it comes down to it i get the dreaded stagefright.

Good advice about not trying to 'go for gold' the first time, i think this is my stumbling block and baby steps are the way to go. Besides, i really do need to progress from worriedly asking "did i hurt you?"...lol.

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