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Young masters - 12/29/2008 7:18:34 AM

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i am a young master and feel that im some what ignored because of my age. i have been involved in the lifestyle for 2 years which is more than some older masters yet i am ignored.

i want to know if subs would consider a younger master or do they need to be older.

RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 7:26:40 AM

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Darlin', there's an ass for every hand. You just have to find an ass that craves your hand. Everybody has criteria; ignore the ones that don't fit with you and move on.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 7:32:36 AM

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Many older masters also get ignored and go for years without a sub/slave.

Be patient and continue working on being the best you, you can be. It will all come to you in time.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 8:07:45 AM

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A suggestion - try to comport yourself in a mature manner. Spend the time to capitalize words, and avoid textspeak - textspeak makes you look youg.

Also, there IS a difference between a Dom and a Master. Search the forums for many threads on the topic of what is a Master. I'm trying not to nitpick, but if you want to show your experience in the field, misuse of terms will not help.

Do you realize that when you're my age, you'll have decades of experience? I'm jealous.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 10:02:12 AM

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Learn all you can. Study people. Understand what makes them tic.
It takes more than experience to being a good master.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 10:11:49 AM

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My advice is to learn all you can-Im in a tough spot as a young submissive. An older Dom isnt an long term option for me as I want to be able to not hide whom I see, and my family would freak if my Dom was their age, but at the same time, most Doms my age or younger dont always know their ass from their elbow.

I'd be willing to grow and learn WITH a younger Dom if he was willing to put the time in. That being said, there are plenty of ignorant older Doms too.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 10:17:01 AM

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You are a Dominant when you are on your own, since you have no one to Master yet.
The ones you are looking at might be part of why you are being ignored. Do not make any mention to your age. If you make it a point, then it will be a point. You have experience, which is a plus. But dont make more of it than it is, your 2 years is 2 years, not more or less impressive because you are the age you are. I had 3 year experience at age 21, so I understand the problem.
First, dont look strictly for people much older than you. Your age will be a problem then.
Second, do not be an experience snob. Someone who constantly points out how long they have been involved gets annoying quick. Keep in mind no matter how long you have been in, you dont know the first thing about the new person you are meeting and it is like starting over again.
Third act mature. Do not make yourself into a stereotype for your chronological age.

Act like someone a submissive would want to serve and you will find someone to serve you.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 10:21:43 AM

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I'd be willing to grow and learn WITH a younger Dom if he was willing to put the time in. That being said, there are plenty of ignorant older Doms too.

That would be highly desirable for me as well.
Submissive learns what is expected by their D or M, just as the D or M learns about their submissive.
It takes time, patience and understanding.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 10:22:27 AM

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Yours is a normal complaint around here

Young men complain that they can't find a submissive because all the submissives want older Dominants.

Older men complain that they can't find a submissive because all the submissives want younger Dominants.

All will cease the complaints when they find their submissives. As others have already said, there is a submissive out there for you, you just need to find her.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 10:55:56 AM

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Work on your verbal/written skills, it will help. Of course that's advice many OLDER dominants should take,too

. You come off as a bit whiny instead of genuinely interested in finding answers, no offense :)

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:06:36 PM

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I will have to admit that I never see a young woman as really a Dominant. A woman really has to be (at least) in her 30's before it seems possible to me.

I realize that's not the case every time - but in my head I never see a young woman as truly a Dominant. Perhaps it's the same for people and young men.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:13:20 PM

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LOL... I wish dominance had something to do with age! I have seen some pretty good lil dominant's of a young age that ruled the roost! Right or wrongly. lol Age has nothing to do with life experience in many ways. I have known 24 year olds that had it all over the 42 year olds! But as a general rule many won't see things the same way I do.

You just get out there and do your thing and someone will be around to do it with.

Now can we talk about the older domme who doesn't want a young man for a number of reasons that have nothing to do with experience... just maybe I don't want to look like his grandmother and answer as to why my grandson doesn't want to go out with the young chick interested in him or have him look at me and think.. wtf was I thinkin when I add a couple more wrinkles or sags?

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:32:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Now can we talk about the older domme who doesn't want a young man for a number of reasons that have nothing to do with experience... just maybe I don't want to look like his grandmother and answer as to why my grandson doesn't want to go out with the young chick interested in him or have him look at me and think.. wtf was I thinkin when I add a couple more wrinkles or sags?

Ideally you shouldn't care what other people think. You like who you like, I don't think age or whatever else should get in the way. Maybe I'm just bias :P

I'd think that if there was anything to get in the way of a relationship with an age gap it would probably be down to personalities of those concerned not outsiders. Conversely it seems that an older guy with a younger girl is more acceptable, weird how that works. Which is probably what the OP is experiencing.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:35:04 PM

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I would only care when he thought I was an older babe that kind of wrinkled and sagged her way into no babe status at all.. run dude.. run for your fucking life! Just a nightmare I have when thinking of hooking up with a younger guy. Do you know how fast one can decline? hehe

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:37:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

I would only care when he thought I was an older babe that kind of wrinkled and sagged her way into no babe status at all.. run dude.. run for your fucking life! Just a nightmare I have when thinking of hooking up with a younger guy. Do you know how fast one can decline? hehe

I guess that's more your inadequacies than theirs :) I would say that if they are right for you they will stick by you no matter what (and enjoy it) even if you do 'go down hill'. I wouldn't worry about that if I was you though.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:40:35 PM

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Very true! lol

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:45:54 PM

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You have to start somewhere. now is as good a time as any.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 12:50:01 PM

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i can understand both sides of the coin being younger, i still wanted someone within a certian age range, because i was looking for long term. But everyone is looking for something different, like was said above, just have to find the right person for Yourself. And it is just as enlightening to be learning and growing alongside with Your sub, that would create an amazing bond. good luck :)

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 6:28:18 PM

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You are very handsome but to say you have been a Dominant since the age of 17 makes me think you are fake, so I would pass over yours for that reason alone.'Dominant 'is not a title you can just give yourself because you like to tie girls up or spank their bums.It is an honor and takes years of discipline to be a true Master.You need more than one photo and profile longer than one paragraph to tell exactly what you seek would help too.

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RE: Young masters - 12/29/2008 6:30:35 PM

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You are very handsome but to say you have been a Dominant since the age of 17 makes me think you are fake, so I would pass over yours for that reason alone.'Dominant 'is not a title you can just give yourself because you like to tie girls up or spank their bums.It is an honor and takes years of discipline to be a true Master.You need more than one photo and profile longer than one paragraph to tell exactly what you seek would help too.

Meh, one persons opinion.

OP, people are going to ignore you no matter how old you happen to be. Just do what makes you happy, and find people who you click with. Don't stress out about everyone else's opinion of you.

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