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Hernia repair recovery and play/sex safety ? - 1/2/2009 12:59:22 PM

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I have googled and searched here and can't find exactly what I am looking for and I doubt the information is something we can get from the doctor. I do not want to do any harm in an already iffy situation, but I would like to know what might be done without trouble.

We were thinking that during recovery it might be a great time to do some total dependency and lock up time. While I am deviously contemplating many things... I am not sure about the safety of some things we could get into. I would rather not do anything than to do the wrong thing, but being in the moment I know it will be tempting... too damn tempting! lol I just want to make the most of the time we have and some of the emotional objectives. But play is such a huge dynamic between us and it has been sexual so I know where we are going to want to go! I can find things on vanilla sex but nothing on the extra goodies.

I am concerned about impact play for the most part. I don't want him tensing up in a way that can harm things. So am leaning on the safe side of do nothing, but I know we will want to do more, so would like to be prepared in where I do or don't take this. Any suggestions or cautionary somethings out there?

It is a groin hernia and we are not yet sure what type of treatment he will get.

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RE: Hernia repair recovery and play/sex safety ? - 1/2/2009 8:22:17 PM

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talk to his dr? drs are not there to judge, tell them what you do.........and get medical advise.

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RE: Hernia repair recovery and play/sex safety ? - 1/2/2009 10:22:08 PM

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I have several questions:

1. Is this an open or laproscopic procedure?
2. How big is the hernia?
3. Is this surgery going to be inpatient or out patient?

Naturally, your answers to these questions would tweak my advice, however....All of that aside...When you guys get ready to leave the hospital, you should be given a list of instructions for home care. One of the things on that list will most likely be for him not to sit or stand in one place for extended periods of time. He needs to be up walking, moving around, etc. That in mind, I would recommend against the confinement unless he's going to be say, confined to his exceptionally comfy bed for the duration of his nights sleep. During the day, he needs to try to be mobile. If you're looking for some dependency play, it's probably going to be very uncomfortable for him to bend over...might be nice for him to have to beg you to tie his shoes, help him with his shower...even standing up or sitting down might require a bit of assistance.
Another order on that list you'll take home will probably be that he's not suppose to lift more than 10lbs for a certain number of weeks...basically nothing heavier than a gallon of milk. I would think that would put any man into a dependent headspace....but that's just me *grins*

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RE: Hernia repair recovery and play/sex safety ? - 1/3/2009 7:28:03 AM

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LOL porccelan... We weren't planning to do this right out of the hospital and he would be through the worst part of things. He would be locked in a large room... hey can't freak a person out who has freedom, leads a very active life and business. The room alone could do it, but that isn't how I plan it all. I won't give all the details as he could read this, but he will be allowed out when I am pleased or ready to take him out. I will be changing things constantly because of all I have read and what I have experienced myself. I am even having him make different sized bondage items so that I can make sure he is changing positions when he is bound.

I just know what response certain things will have and am concerned about muscule tensing and things I can't get information on. I will do nothing before I do something, not knowing what could happen. Talking to the doctor about this is totally out so we will either go with safe and very little or get information I can find. I just wondered if anyone here had some experience or knowledge in the area.

The biggest part in both our minds is the mental thing.

Thank you both for the response!

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RE: Hernia repair recovery and play/sex safety ? - 1/3/2009 9:30:03 PM

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As far as the muscles tensing and stuff goes, a lot of that has to do with the size of the hernia and type of repair they do. If it's a small hernia, fixed with a couple of stiches laproscopically, naturally he wouldn't have the same muscle guarding response as he would if this includes a long incision, several internal sutures as well as external staples, etc. Hence the reason I said my advice would be tweaked based on the answers to the questions I asked.

I fully admit I've never played with, or known anyone who's played with someone who's just had a hernai repair. However, I take care of several of these patients each week, so I am very aware of many of the nuiances of post procedure pain, discomfort, and limitation *winks*

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