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ABigBill469 -> Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/2/2009 2:39:28 PM)

MWM here, wife vanilla.

Whats one to do...........LOL



bardtothebone -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/2/2009 3:23:24 PM)

Good question, Bill; If one does nothing, the suppressed desire can devour you as surely as acid. But should one yield to the need and find a companionate bond with the opposite gender, the current spouse could quite likely discover this covert connection and display a sudden and daunting ability for dominant passion - with her spouse as its focus and victim.

The situation deserves cautious consideration. A home and a marriage are the wager at risk if the path that is chosen turns out to be wrong.

Welcome. And good luck with your quest.

The Bard



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/2/2009 3:32:18 PM)

Be repaired that you won't receive a very warm welcome if you're cheating on your wife to be here.

There's flocks and flocks here who'll rip you a new cyber ass for cheating on her, cheating isn't tolerated very well around here.



LaTigresse -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/2/2009 3:52:56 PM)

What's one to do? Be honest.



monywildcat -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/2/2009 5:32:21 PM)

What's one to do?  Show wifey this post.  She'll love it.  May even spank you.  Seriously, at first glance it appeared to be an ad from craigslist. 

But, on a serious note, welcome,  I personally would suggest you talk to her about your desires and see where the conversation takes you.  She may surprise you.  But you will never know if you don't open your mouth and verbalize what you are after. 



BalletBob -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/2/2009 5:50:29 PM)

Yes, and I am happily married too, for 34 years. Now I do have some fun, with my wife's blessing. She knows there will be NO SEX with anyone else but her. I am not here for sex. I am here to find friends and maybe have some fun. She knows my Hobbies and doesn't mind , as long as I don't get too involved. She doesn't mind me having a little FUN, as long as that is all it is.

Madly in Love with my Bunny Muffins, BalletBob



ChainGoddess -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/2/2009 6:06:12 PM)

Talk to her.  Welcome to collarme.



Voodali -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/3/2009 1:38:09 PM)

As a domme frequently bothered by married men, my advice to you is that you read profiles carefully before contacting anyone.  Failiure to do so may result in insulting emails.  Also, out of respect for us all, please make it absolutely clear to anyone contacting you that you're married.  If your passions are so undeniable that they lead you to be dishonest to your wife, I agree that you should talk to her, and hope that she'd be willing to work some sort of arrangement out with you.  If nothing else, perhaps she'd tolerate some online fantasy ?  Maybe you could write some erotic fiction to get it out of your system ?



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/4/2009 8:41:53 PM)

Writing erotic fiction is not going to get the desire to Dominate someone and engage in bdsm out of your system, for most people, it will only increase it. Hell when I was writing erotica, I got hornier for what I was fantasizing about not less.


Of course it could work for people, you never know.
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ORIGINAL: Voodali

Maybe you could write some erotic fiction to get it out of your system ?



peppermint -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/4/2009 11:02:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ABigBill469

MWM here, wife vanilla.

Whats one to do...........LOL


Yes, have been in just that position.  A person does the best he/she can under the circumstances.  I resigned myself to being online only (with his knowledge).  Then he died. 



lateralist1 -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/6/2009 11:08:37 AM)

Talking worked for me maybe it will for you.
Take care and good luck.



Dryden -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/11/2009 2:00:23 PM)

Married here, in the same boat and new new to the forum. From the responses I gather that married folks seeking to fill a missing component in their life are frowned upon in general.

Fair enough, but I want to say that I have a need that's not fulfilled in my other wise happy relationship and no amount of talking is going to change that with my spouse. 

I'm not looking for a "cheating" relationship. I'm  hoping to find a friend in a similar situation to establish a caring and mutually fulfilling relationship.  Oh well - stepping off the soapbox.  Hello to all   



Celene -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/12/2009 1:24:10 AM)

The site is crawling with married men. . . to answer your first question. Only you can answer the second, but I've seen the advice I'd give you already posted more than once.



wandersalone -> RE: Any Married Here with Vanilla Spouses? (1/12/2009 2:39:16 AM)

I don't think it is that married people are frowned upon, it is more that married people who are involving their spouses non-consensually in their kink that I for one would avoid.

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ORIGINAL: Dryden

Married here, in the same boat and new new to the forum. From the responses I gather that married folks seeking to fill a missing component in their life are frowned upon in general.

Fair enough, but I want to say that I have a need that's not fulfilled in my other wise happy relationship and no amount of talking is going to change that with my spouse. 

I'm not looking for a "cheating" relationship. I'm  hoping to find a friend in a similar situation to establish a caring and mutually fulfilling relationship.  Oh well - stepping off the soapbox.  Hello to all   



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