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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 9:14:46 AM

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Wow you guys!! These are great!

Paidrag's is so well thought out...and hottish!

Fastlane, if you're gonna do it, you have to do it today or wait a week. I only smoke on thursdays! (lol the peas!!)

Everyone else, thank you so much! I absolutely love these answers and will def be thinking about these things.

Christina

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 10:25:45 AM

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The willingness and lack of reservation. Trust, in other words. But trust that is earned rather than blindly given. Her total honesty and her expectation of the same from me. Her admiration....again as something earned.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 11:01:21 AM

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I'd agree with Padriag's detailed answer.

At the end of the day, you know she is your slave without question, and you want her because of how good a slave she is to you, that is what matters.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 11:08:34 AM

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Or is there something that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

When I'm told or handed a list of what I'm "allowed" to do. I don't play with doms.

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Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention?

When I look into her eyes and she bares her soul to me. When I see in her eyes, total trust, commitment, excitement, fear, sexuality, apprehension, and anticipation.

I've looked into a lot of eyes and only seen that look once. Thankfully since that day, I see it EVERY day!

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 12:15:59 PM

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awww...that's so sweet! You must be v proud of her, and she must be v proud of you! Thank you, as well!

Christina

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 3:26:53 PM

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What interest me in a sub/slave is that she has the same interest as I do and I am open enough to contact her. I do not like to give out too much information’s about my self until we start talking to each other. For me that is the time to discover who is and what interest as far as likes and dislikes. What is a turn off she assumes I am like all guys before she take the time to find out what kind of guy I am. She things I am a player before she take the time to talk. I also hate it when complaints she can not find some one and she does not take the time to respond back to those who take the time to make contact with her. I also hate it when she thinks I am some guy with the same screen name before she take the time to find out I am not.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 5:19:01 PM

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...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going? This is in response to Fastlanes Q in another forum regarding what WE like in a Dom.
Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention? Or is there soemthing that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

Attitude most definitely; how they describe themselves and about the life they are seeking. I really tend to stay away from the "I am submissive" or "I am a sub not a slave" for reasons best left for another post but slaves catch my eye when I notice certain words or phrases when they describe themselves. Mostly it is the emptiness; some call it that void that resides inside them while they are on the hunt for a Master. Looks are important (no not the Barbie perfect girl) but how they keep themselves, how they present themselves shows me how they feel about themselves. If they have a picture, I will sit and look at their eyes as that is always the gateway inside them. The way they present their picture as well since I prefer a slave to be dressed, a "normal" picture showing their day to day look vs. the sexy naked pose flashing tits or ass.

Many different items are looked at depending on the involvement between me and the slave. If it is simply a casual conversation, then how she speaks, her tone, her words used to describe what she is looking for. Online I still believe can be a very good tool if used right, like many other tools to meet but here it is a bit fast-forward at times which is fine as long as the core of what I believe and what the slave believes coincide.

As for the cold part, well the obvious phrase is, "must be discreet". That usually comes either before or after the, "I have a Master but..." Many reasons why a slave may be hunting even while owned, but for me I really can not see myself involved unless their Master and I have talked or she leaves her current situation. There are very few exceptions to this for Me. Other then those listed I am pretty easy going with the initial contacts and conversations.

D

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/6/2006 4:35:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going? This is in response to Fastlanes Q in another forum regarding what WE like in a Dom.
Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention? Or is there soemthing that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

What a great question. I notice that it's generated a lot of very different answers which goes to all the different things Ds can mean to different people.

For me, it's very simple. When a sub/slave completely submits herself there is a sense of "Oh yes, I'll do Anything for you because I am yours totally" that spark is as real as electricity in the air. It might happen with a look of glee as she hears a command she wasn't expecting. It might happen with an earthquaking orgasmic release as her whole body goes limp in my arms, it might be as simple as the sight of her kneeling before me when I get home from work.

The specific ways a sub/slave can get me there are too numerous to count, but the common thing is that I can touch her in the deepest part of her being, and as I caress...tickle...tease...nurture...explore that part of her, she, in turn, gives me her gift of total submission and opens herself to me completely and without any reservations.

It's moments like this that separate Ds from anything vanillas can achieve. When you feel one of these moments for the first time it's as if bells go off. Blood rushes to the brain and you feel an overhwelming feeling of "I would fight dragons with my bare hands for this beautiful creature because she is the most prized possesion anyone could hope to have and she is mine absolutely".

I venture to say that most every answer you'll read also fits this same description in some way. It always goes much deeper than a specific act, "perversion", behavior or attitude. The real connection every Dom/sub/Master/slave craves (whether they know it or not) is the connection of soul-soul not body-body. How you reach it depends on the normal barriers and limits we place between ourselves and everyone else. Breach that barrier, bridge that gap, drop that limit with your one, and you'll find yourself connecting in a new and most special way.

This is also why total trust and honesty is so important. In order to bridge those gaps, drop those barriers and reach that connection you must trust your one completely. If ever the trust is broken, that barrier will become 10x harder to bridge again and may never be.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/6/2006 9:55:33 PM

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Hummmmmmm, for me, well she has to be breathing....WEG.....OK, OK, I know, I can't help it, I have to be me.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/6/2006 9:59:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going? This is in response to Fastlanes Q in another forum regarding what WE like in a Dom.
Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention? Or is there soemthing that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

What a great question. I notice that it's generated a lot of very different answers which goes to all the different things Ds can mean to different people.

For me, it's very simple. When a sub/slave completely submits herself there is a sense of "Oh yes, I'll do Anything for you because I am yours totally" that spark is as real as electricity in the air. It might happen with a look of glee as she hears a command she wasn't expecting. It might happen with an earthquaking orgasmic release as her whole body goes limp in my arms, it might be as simple as the sight of her kneeling before me when I get home from work.

It's moments like this that separate Ds from anything vanillas can achieve. When you feel one of these moments for the first time it's as if bells go off. Blood rushes to the brain and you feel an overhwelming feeling of "I would fight dragons with my bare hands for this beautiful creature because she is the most prized possesion anyone could hope to have and she is mine absolutely".

Thank you...I agree...

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/10/2006 8:31:16 AM

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For me, the keywords are control and gratitude.

I love to be in charge and control as many aspects of my subbie/slave's life... I like clothes and food selection of course... but also all the micro-management when we're not together and communicate her discretely my orders with a look while we're in public.

I love to pet and care my little ones... and to cover them with gifts and attentions. I like them to be grateful and return by being fully obedient and loving, ready to do all I might ask from them, just to thank me for what I'm giving them in return.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/10/2006 12:50:18 PM

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...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going? This is in response to Fastlanes Q in another forum regarding what WE like in a Dom.

Beauty, intelligence, imagination and a humble, respecting nature. Contrary to what many espouse, I make physical beauty and femininity an important prerequisite. Inner beauty is well and good, but there has to be something there I find attractive on the outside as well.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx
... is there soemthing that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

If she has been made mine, nothing makes me "cold" to her; if she displeases me, I correct the behavior. If not yet fully mine, I generally get turned off by inappropriate tone, mistrust, or lack of an ability to obey simple commands. Philosophical conflicts about D/s don't chime too well with me, either.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/22/2006 7:39:10 PM

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I like my slaves to have intelligence, a placid temperament, affection, commitment, understanding, a quiet sense of masculinity, a general outlook that is similar to mine, a high pain threshold, big muscles and spectacular naughty parts.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/23/2006 12:04:26 AM

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has this question been asked by the dommes also i find many not all of the dommes find falling in love with their subs and slave a no no if i am wrong forgive this domme but it needs to be asked
i see the doms and master falling in love with the asnwers i see here some are so very very sweet sexy and darn right good tenderness longing i do not see this question over there and not the same answer some have asked different things why do the dommes need to be stronger ?and why do me not want the same helli i do lol
mons

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/23/2006 6:31:48 AM

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The answers do seem rather wonderful, don't they?

Maybe the girl looking for 'romantic doms' would do well to read these posts...

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/23/2006 11:00:16 PM

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The answers do seem rather wonderful, don't they?
Maybe the girl looking for 'romantic doms' would do well to read these posts...

True, very true.

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Hummmmmmm, for me, well she has to be breathing....WEG.....OK, OK, I know, I can't help it, I have to be me.

Rats! I got slobbers on my screen when I guffawed at that.

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