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RE: LS rather than LD - 1/6/2009 8:53:18 AM

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Scooter and I have never been separated longer then his work day, but when twice was in the hospital that was the longest 3 days of our lives... even the cat was loosing his mind over it.

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RE: LS rather than LD - 1/6/2009 10:26:51 AM

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Fox and I have never been separated for more than a week, and that was while I was on vacation to see my family in Las Vegas. We do this on occasion and he deals well enough with it as long as there is frequent contact.
When I had Angel, between his schedule and mine, we went for 4-6 weeks without talking or seeing one another, and he was less than a 15 minute car drive away. Before I moved here, 3 months passed when I didnt see him, though we did have frequent contact.

The amount of time I can comfortably spend away from someone tends to revolve more around how long they will be alright without me, rather than how long I can be away from them. When I was still married, my exhusband was gone for 6 months, and in that time I saw him twice for a day each. I was just fine with it, since I didnt really think I "needed" him around. With Fox, I doubt I could extend it to 2 weeks without the poor boy losing his everlovin mind.

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RE: LS rather than LD - 1/6/2009 11:39:36 AM

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i woke up yesterday with an ache to my core. it was exactly three weeks that i had returned to cali after spending two weeks with the ResidentSadist. even the link of his chain he had given me was unable to ease the ache. his voice, his humor and words over the phone helped a lot, but the ache still was present. it really does no good to dwell on something that can not be changed and so i am dealing with the ache. i had been ok until yesterday...why yesterday... why three weeks..don't know..it just is.

my answer LadyPact is three weeks.

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RE: LS rather than LD - 1/6/2009 12:08:07 PM

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Daddy and I frequently and every month go 6 or 7 months or longer with out sex. Or with out bdsm or any kinky stuff going on..

So it's not the sex that makes the time of separation an issue for me either. My emotional needs just do not get met with out frequent and regular person to person in person contact, and if the emotional needs are not being met, it just cancles out other stuff that might be good and worthwhile since with out emotional needs being met I am diss satisfied and unhappy with them for not being able to or in some cases being unwilling to meet the emotional needs.

Course I will freely and willingly admit I am selfish and I demand a lot from my relationships, and I am ok with that.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
The one exception I have in this would probably be where it's concerned with sex. The not having sex part isn't a huge issue for Me. This could explain why the time period of separation isn't as important to Me as it is to others. Of course, that is purely conjecture..

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RE: LS rather than LD - 1/6/2009 2:36:13 PM

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In my case, 4 weeks seemed like a lifetime. It was too long. Nothing changed of course, but it was just too long. I wanted to see him so badly by then, it was horrible... When I saw him it was like Christmas all over again. WOW... but not worth the long seperation.

This is exactly what My reaction was. It was just like Christmas. In fact, it was better than Christmas. I was probably happier on New Year's Eve than I could explain. It was WOW on top of thrill on top of cloud walking.

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RE: LS rather than LD - 1/6/2009 4:56:09 PM

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It is ALL perspective. This thing people have about time still amuses me. When I love someone the persistence of my feelings do not diminish when they are out of my sensory range, that period of my life ended in infancy. I have had separations of up to four months and managed to remain as strong at the end as when it started and I have developed tools for making the time we must be apart less difficult. I can be very creative when necessity warrants it. If for some reason we found ourselves separated for years, it would not make any difference as long as we could keep in contact by phone or internet. I do not find that my level of control is any less at a distance than it is when she is next to me. It is simply exercised a bit differently.

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