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ORIGINAL: StayPutDarling

Can I hug the Bear too?

Very nicely put.

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Can I ask a stupid question? {Ok, Ima ask it anyway lol} Does it really bother people so much that the OP doesn't like bbws? If so, I guess I just don't get it. I mean what's the big deal about him preferring those on the skinny side? His preferences don't bother me a bit. The only thing that bugged me at all was how he stated his preference by saying essentially that those not in his preferences were less than he, that he was above them and better than them. I do not believe that I am better than someone just because they are not within my preferences, nor do I believe I am less than someone just because I am not in their preferences. Honestly, what difference does it make what types he prefers, or what type anyone prefers so long as they don't try to make you feel less for not being within their preference parameters?

Sari, the issue is more along the lines that the OP expressed his view which was condescending to BBW. Yes a change of the wording in the OP would make a world of difference and the meaning would not have illicit the responses given. To ask if a bbw is better at oral sex is just as derogatory as a man saying women are second class citizens, which is entirely false.

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Can I ask a stupid question? {Ok, Ima ask it anyway lol} Does it really bother people so much that the OP doesn't like bbws? If so, I guess I just don't get it. I mean what's the big deal about him preferring those on the skinny side? His preferences don't bother me a bit. The only thing that bugged me at all was how he stated his preference by saying essentially that those not in his preferences were less than he, that he was above them and better than them. I do not believe that I am better than someone just because they are not within my preferences, nor do I believe I am less than someone just because I am not in their preferences. Honestly, what difference does it make what types he prefers, or what type anyone prefers so long as they don't try to make you feel less for not being within their preference parameters?

Sari, the issue is more along the lines that the OP expressed his view which was condescending to BBW. Yes a change of the wording in the OP would make a world of difference and the meaning would not have illicit the responses given. To ask if a bbw is better at oral sex is just as derogatory as a man saying women are second class citizens, which is entirely false.

See, Bear, that's what I'm sayin'. I don't care if he likes fat girls, skinny girls, or purple boa constrictors, or what have you. The only issue I had was his attitude expressed toward those who didn't fit in his preferences which, as you said, was condescending and derogatory. The reason I asked the question I did was because of all the posts I read where people seemed to be defending themselves over what he said and I couldn't really understand why. I don't feel I have to defend myself because I'm not within his preferences. I mean maybe I read some of those posts wrong or differently than the posters intended them to be, but that's just what came across and I was like WTF? Who needs to defend themselves or their size to someone who doesn't like those that size? I had no problem calling him bluntly on his attitude and the way he worded things, but I didn't feel I had to defend myself for not being within his preference quidelines either. Am I making better sense? Is it clearer now?

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Can I ask a stupid question? {Ok, Ima ask it anyway lol} Does it really bother people so much that the OP doesn't like bbws? If so, I guess I just don't get it. I mean what's the big deal about him preferring those on the skinny side? His preferences don't bother me a bit. The only thing that bugged me at all was how he stated his preference by saying essentially that those not in his preferences were less than he, that he was above them and better than them. I do not believe that I am better than someone just because they are not within my preferences, nor do I believe I am less than someone just because I am not in their preferences. Honestly, what difference does it make what types he prefers, or what type anyone prefers so long as they don't try to make you feel less for not being within their preference parameters?

Sari, the issue is more along the lines that the OP expressed his view which was condescending to BBW. Yes a change of the wording in the OP would make a world of difference and the meaning would not have illicit the responses given. To ask if a bbw is better at oral sex is just as derogatory as a man saying women are second class citizens, which is entirely false.

See, Bear, that's what I'm sayin'. I don't care if he likes fat girls, skinny girls, or purple boa constrictors, or what have you. The only issue I had was his attitude expressed toward those who didn't fit in his preferences which, as you said, was condescending and derogatory. The reason I asked the question I did was because of all the posts I read where people seemed to be defending themselves over what he said and I couldn't really understand why. I don't feel I have to defend myself because I'm not within his preferences. I mean maybe I read some of those posts wrong or differently than the posters intended them to be, but that's just what came across and I was like WTF? Who needs to defend themselves or their size to someone who doesn't like those that size? I had no problem calling him bluntly on his attitude and the way he worded things, but I didn't feel I had to defend myself for not being within his preference quidelines either. Am I making better sense? Is it clearer now?

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Red, you are too sweet for your own good.

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ORIGINAL: Roselaure

I get the impression he was way out of her league too, but not in the way he thought.

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*blushes*

*shhhh!  don't say that too loud, I'm trying to build a rep of being mean and evil here*

*giggles wildly*

I think I'm losing that battle.  I guess I'll keep trying.


Hey, Greedy!  Do ya think I'm fierce over here?  Can I pass for wicked?  Awful? and Mean? 

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Damn it, DRH, you are making me want to dye my hair so I can be part of the cool group. Damn genetics, why oh why was I born a brunette!

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Sari, the issue is more along the lines that the OP expressed his view which was condescending to BBW. Yes a change of the wording in the OP would make a world of difference and the meaning would not have illicit the responses given. To ask if a bbw is better at oral sex is just as derogatory as a man saying women are second class citizens, which is entirely false.

See, Bear, that's what I'm sayin'. I don't care if he likes fat girls, skinny girls, or purple boa constrictors, or what have you. The only issue I had was his attitude expressed toward those who didn't fit in his preferences which, as you said, was condescending and derogatory. The reason I asked the question I did was because of all the posts I read where people seemed to be defending themselves over what he said and I couldn't really understand why. I don't feel I have to defend myself because I'm not within his preferences. I mean maybe I read some of those posts wrong or differently than the posters intended them to be, but that's just what came across and I was like WTF? Who needs to defend themselves or their size to someone who doesn't like those that size? I had no problem calling him bluntly on his attitude and the way he worded things, but I didn't feel I had to defend myself for not being within his preference quidelines either. Am I making better sense? Is it clearer now?

By the looks of this, it was a gross mistake on my part. Me sorry. Are we still good?

Of course we're still good!!!! Dammit, just for that you oughta swing through here while you're stateside so I can practice my topping skills on your ass!!! From where I was reading, you and I were on the same page, just maybe expressing it with different wording. Oh and you know damn good and well that we don't have to always agree on everything in order to remain friends! Sheesh!!!

*tacklegropeshugsbitesBITESmolesticatesthefurryone*

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