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Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 6:42:18 AM   
Dlover


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I have always enjoyed sex and a little bit of kink.  However my eyes have truly been OPENED here!

I am beginning to think I am a switch.  The thought of having a woman as my sub/slave and being able to tie her up (former GF LOVED this!) or order her to dress a certain way is arousing.  Shoes, skirts, lacy stuff.

HOWEVER,  I also like a woman that forces me to go down on her, or forces herself on me or the thought of being spanked.  Being tied up and having her do what she wants w/ my body, sexual or otherwise. 

So, what am I?  How do I go about finding someone that will be gentle and explore my limits (admittedly not very wide limits) Are there women like this?
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RE: Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 6:44:16 AM   
jeffman1234


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RE: Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 6:45:54 AM   
subtlebutterfly


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RE: Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 6:46:30 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Talk to people, go to munches and events, read stuff, explore stuff, see what you like and what you dont. You find people who will explore with you by talking to people, telling them what you want to try out and trying it out.

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RE: Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 7:47:46 AM   
Dlover


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Talk to people, go to munches and events, read stuff, explore stuff, see what you like and what you dont. You find people who will explore with you by talking to people, telling them what you want to try out and trying it out.



I'm trying.  I have to be discrete (not b/c I'm married!  I saw THAT thread. lol)  b/c I have a job that I need to APPEAR mainstream or "normal".  Plus my work keeps me from having much of a normal social life.

I am thinking I'm switch b/c I can see tendencies of both dom and sub in my fantasies and what I want to do or have done to me. 

Okay, so anyone out there looking for a real beginner who is looking to learn/experiment?  Not exactly the kind of thing I can ask the woman in the checkout line at the grocery store!

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RE: Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 7:50:13 AM   
T1981


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Status: offline 		Well, one of the best ways to get responses from your profile is to beef it up using the interests lists that Collarme provides - and if you aren't going to put up pics right away (and believe me, most people understand that), maybe an addendum in your profile saying that you are willing to send pics after intial contact?

In any case, welcome here and good luck on your search! It's so exciting!


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RE: Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 8:10:11 AM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		For search purposes on this site and others I would classify yourself as a switch

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RE: Newbie Questions... - 1/7/2009 1:51:59 PM   
beeble


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quote:

Dlover wrote:
I'm trying.  I have to be discrete (not b/c I'm married!  I saw THAT thread. lol)  b/c I have a job that I need to APPEAR mainstream or "normal".  Plus my work keeps me from having much of a normal social life.

Group meet-ups come in two kinds.  If they're in an ordinary public place like a bar or a restaurant, everyone acts normal.  If anyone saw you, they'd just assume you were out with a group of friends.  If they're in a private place, they're in a private place so nobody's going to see you.

It might briefly be a bit embarrassing if somebody you knew was there but there's very little chance of that and, you know, they can hardly say `Ew, you're at a kink meet' since, well, they are too.

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I am thinking I'm switch b/c I can see tendencies of both dom and sub in my fantasies and what I want to do or have done to me.

From what you've said, `switch' does sound like a fair description.

beeble

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