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How does your dynamic grow - 1/8/2009 7:16:17 AM

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Shower ponderings...........

In the beginning, when the seeds of the dynamic are planted, it seems to spring to life on it's own, in the season of spring when all things are new, it grows and blooms with seemingly no effort. It is breathtakingly beaurtiful and the ease of it tends to lull us into a sense of this is how it will always be.

Yet in the season of summer of the dynamic, when there are so many other things to do and the dynamic still looks healthy, it is easy to think about it in passing and think, "I'll tend to you in a few days, I'll weed out the garbage, I'll feed you and give you water and the attention that you probably need, but now I have to run off and do something else". The problem is that when you finally stop running and take the time to attend to the dynamic, you may find that it has withered from lack of nutrition and water, that it's become choked out by the weeds or that it's grown in directions that you hadn't intended.

If you make it through the summer, fall offers a bit of reprieve, routines are established, you've learned how much attention your dynamic needs to sustain life and fall is once again a time to relax and enjoy. But one needs to be wary for the winter of our dynamic follows soon after, hopefully you'll not be faced with an early frost and Indian Summer for that can wreak havok on the living dynamic, but eventually fall fades into winter in one way or another. In the winter of our dynamic we have an instinct to pull into ourselves, to keep ourselves warm against the ravages of the cold. It is important at this time to remember to keep the dynamic warm as well. Make sure that it's not forgotten and put aside for if we ignore the dynamic during the winter, it will surely fail to bloom agian when Spring returns.

What has blossomed out of the initial seeds of our dynamic never become so strong that they require no more cultivation.

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RE: How does your dynamic grow - 1/8/2009 7:19:33 AM

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This is a bueatiful piece of writing, and it gives me good pause today. Thank you for that!

My husband and I were together years before we discovered our D/s dynamic, but both of us find that if we don't return to it on a regular basis, the cravings become resentments, the resentments turn into doubts and insecurities. We've been together long enough where it never gets to the point of fighting about it, but it is important to remember.

Again, thank you for this. Very thought provoking!

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RE: How does your dynamic grow - 1/8/2009 7:32:55 AM

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AWESOME post Omega!

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RE: How does your dynamic grow - 1/8/2009 7:36:38 AM

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RE: How does your dynamic grow - 1/8/2009 10:33:22 AM

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Beautiful, OmegaG... thank you for sharing your shower ponderings!

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RE: How does your dynamic grow - 1/8/2009 7:20:07 PM

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for the dynamic I'm in the best way is to communicate well and often. there should be a way/time/method of allowing open honest talk with All of the members. respect and understanding is/are a must. some need a physical outlet others need to be prodded to do it. sometimes the Dominant needs to be prodded to communicate as they are not superman/woman and have feelings and needs as well that the submissive/slave needs to be attentive to as well. the dynamic is never static but ever changing and evolving, otherwise the relationship will stagnate and wither.

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RE: How does your dynamic grow - 1/8/2009 8:03:54 PM

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Lovely thoughts and so very true. I think it's where most relationships go wrong. They are left to grow weeds that choke. Thank you for reminding us all how much we need communication and to be close to those we love.

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RE: How does your dynamic grow - 1/9/2009 12:32:02 PM

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Very lovely sentiment and beautifully written. As I gaze out the window I take solace in that with relationships, the deer do not come along and munch on your sub - so I have that going for me.

But seriously, if you do not cultivate your relationship it will wither and die. We can easily forget that.

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