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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 11:53:11 AM

Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: zazman23
i am a new person to this lifestyle and i have a few female subs and i want good ideas for...
1)punishments
2)humiliations
3)teases

General observations/questions...
How/where does one acquire "a few female subs" without having and idea what to do with them? Carisma? Shades? School tee shirt?

Why would you be looking for a sub if you had no ideas about what to do with them?

Don't you find it ironic that here you have a "new person to this lifestyle" with a "few female subs" who doesn't know what to do with them; and on the other hand you've have some representing 'not so new' (don't want to say 'old') persons who, based upon posts, knows EXACTLY what to do; how to punish, humiliate, and tease, let alone how to label, train, and motivate; if the time should ever come to pass, when they have a few?

I think there may be some kind of business opportunity here to match these people up, for vicarious living arrangements.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 11:57:33 AM

SteelofUtah

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Op,

The main question that I have is what you are doing this all for.

Is this an Internet thing? If that is the case then you had better learn to be more creative on your own or you will become very boring very fast. Or maybe you are looking for Wank Material and just want to know the sick and twisted ideas that we freaks can come up with. If that is the case then I suggest you use the SEARCH Function of this site and start reserching because I believe there is some Hundres of Thousands of Pages of this discussion sitting in archive just waiting for a Lit Perv to come across it.

Is this a Play Thing? Do you have like 2 or 3 girls who like to be tied up and spanked and then fucked and the go back to being "Normal" if that is the case then I don't think you really want what you asked for either. I think if you ask for those things then you may end up scaring the shit out of your little toys and having them find someone who will do what they want and make it just kinky enough to keep them interested.

Is this about Truely wanting a Power Dynamic Relationship that involved Punishment and Humiliation in play. If that is the case then no one here can answer that for you as much of what you would do would depend on the partner you choose. In Example you would not make an Adult Baby Wear Diapers as a Punishment because well it wouldn't be one, However you take a fully grown woman who is not interested in such things and tell her that it isn't coming off untill she has soiled herself and then inform her what a dirty girl she is for having shat herself well that can be both Punishment and Humiliation. Either way since you really have NO IDEA how that is going to be accepted by the partner considering you haven't taken enough time to learn what effects this can have or how to deal with the break downs.

Decide what you are and where you want to be and once you have done all that I suggest that you take the time to determine just how dedicated you are when you ask other people to do your foot work. I mean so that you know there is Dominance and then there is Laziness.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 3:53:13 PM

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Once again Steel, you hit the nail on the head! Well said.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 3:57:40 PM

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The OP is too humilated to respond.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 5:18:05 PM

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Or he is too excited about passing on the humiliation idea he was "taught" here to ever respond again

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Ok ok I'll be good lol.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 5:40:49 PM

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Nothing like being publicly exposed to ensure someone doesn't post again.. OK! NEXT!!!

< Message edited by IronBear -- 1/12/2009 5:41:50 PM >

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/13/2009 9:05:16 PM

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Hellz Bellz Z man !

Your profile says you are looking for a Dominant woman, cuz you lean to the submissive side. But you are a switch too, kinda sorta, cuz you can't find dominant woman AND you have a gaggle of submissives.

No bloody wonder you don't know what to do.
And you expect * us * to have answers for you ?

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/13/2009 9:23:51 PM

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Made my eyes cross finding that out mbmbn. There's no way people can tell him how to do it. He has to figure out what he wants, what interests him and who he is first; and do some studying and reading and discussing and learning about that before he's ready to take on what he claims to have as well as what he wants in my opinion, let alone guide and teach and train others to serve him. I'm turtle slow compared to him as he says he is as far as wiitwd goes. Still searching to learn more, finding more to look into, discovering all of me in this and probably always will be as I learn and grow more.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/14/2009 8:08:44 AM

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i am a new person to this lifestyle and i have a few female subs and i want good ideas for...
1)punishments
2)humiliations
3)teases

i know i am new to all this (and i don't even know if i'm supposed to post here- sorry if i'm not!) but this scaredme a little. This person sounds like he has no idea what he is doing. i really hope the "few female subs" (snort!) are only online and not actual people he touches. it sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/14/2009 7:26:34 PM

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This man is still drinking enfamil, but we are entitled to dream.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/14/2009 8:54:41 PM

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You're young. You'll grow. You'll learn.

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My best advice is to tread slowly, wisely, and learn as you do so.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/16/2009 1:06:44 PM

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First thing you need to do is pray - because your arse is in a sling. Either your full of bull - or your have stepped into a pile of it. I am not exclusive - and if your new at this - you haven't got a chance in hell. Why? Because you don't know what your doing - you apparently don't even know yourself and your needs - so a single sub would be way too much for you to handle - much less a stable.

Honestly - stay nilla, use a condom, and hope they forget your phone number. Thats probably your best bet at this point.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/16/2009 2:42:06 PM

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